Miss, Mrs, Ms or Mx?

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Which are you? I’m a Ms, and have been since I was about 8 years old. I didn’t change my title (or my name) when I got married and this caused some consternation amongst some of the older members of my family.

This made me realise that most women I know (married or unmarried) use Ms. I don’t think I’ve come across anyone under the age of about 50 who uses ‘Miss’ or ‘Mrs’. And I’ve never encountered a ‘Mx’. I do have a fairly specific demographic bubble, though.

So, I’m curious, which are you/do you use?

Ms here.

I'm 'Miss' always have been. 30 and single.

Possibly more akin to the 70s or 80s lifestyle up here. Like I said I do know a couple of ms but they’re divorced. Other Scottish posters have said the same thing on this thread. No I don’t know folk who keep their names when married, it’s seen as a sort of celebrity thing not something normal folk do. A bit kardashianesque.

It's like that down where I live to. It felt weird being a Mrs in my early 20's but I have only known a couple of people who go my ms.

I flip between Ms and Mrs depending on the context. I have a very feminine first name so Mx wouldn't make sense for me but I have a couple of friends who have more androgynous names and work in a very male dominated industry who use Mx to avoid any gender bias, as well as a couple of non-binary friends who also use Mx.

Same here.

I didn't change my name when I married either, partly for practical reasons (published works under maiden name) and partly because I just didn't want to.

Mrs -I’m in my forties.

I have come across Mx.

Mrs and under 40.
Took my husband's name not only because it felt right to me but because he has an interesting surname and mine was very boring 😁

I'm very much Mrs. I love being Mrs. At work I'm Dr! But where I can be, I'm Mrs :)

I hate Ms :)

Just personal.preference!

What the heck is Mx ??

I’m 52 and use Ms. My marital status isn’t relevant to most of the people I need to formally introduce myself to, and doesn’t need to be part of my name.

I’m Ms, used Miss when younger, Mrs for about the first 3 months of marriage and reverted back. Pisses me off when I get automatic letters addressed to Mrs despite there being no relevance to my relationship in the correspondence. Sometimes I think it’s automatic for some people/companies

Miss- I like the way it sounds.
I've only met two women who go by Ms- they were both divorced and embarassed about it so until recently thats what I thought it was for- women who didn't want to say they were not a Mrs anymore or who saw Miss as juvenile.
I know its not now but I still never really see it used in real life but then I don't see many titles in real life- I only use mine on online GP forms and for post.

Mrs. Though my marriage is probably not going survive the year so if we divorce I'll revert to Ms Unmarried Name.

Over 50 here and used Ms as long as I can remember. I know about Mx and I knew one person who used it.

One of my friends is Miss which amuses me as she is 40+.

When I'm teaching I have had a few students ask me about, 'Ms', I usually answer with, "do you need to know if I'm married to teach you?".

I'm 38 and use Mrs.

I don't like ms for me because it sounds incomplete. No other reason at all, I just don't like how the word sounds.

Ms, married, kept own name. Even my traditional
mum switched to Ms sometime in the 8Os. Most the women I know use Ms, aprart from a few newly Weds at work, in their 20s who are using ‘Mrs’ which the rest of us find a bit strange/amusing….

I've been a Mrs for more of my life than I was a Ms. It's never been an issue, a point of contention or pride, it just is what it is, a name.

I changed name upon marriage (after realising MIL was going to be offended if I didn't, but I didn't want to). So became Mrs Marriedname. I never got used to it (and started becoming less of a people pleaser), so officially changed it back - passport, bank accounts etc - to Ms Maidennane.

It felt ridiculous that I should have to change my identity because I'd got married. It felt like I'd had to give my old self up and start "as a married woman". Awful. I felt like I was basically telling everyone Hey, I'm Married! every time I gave my name. I actually felt like I'd been "claimed".

I have a lot of Muslim friends, so it also felt odd as I was one of the only ones who went through this name change upon marriage business.

Was overjoyed to get my own name back! I'd never liked it, but at least it was mine.

Now I'm Ms and correct anybody who uses Mrs when written. I cannot stand being identified by my marital status, it should be irrelevant. It's confused a few people that I'm married.

I will only now change it if I get a doctorate. Then I'll use the hell out of Dr Maidenname! Wouldn't mind being identified for that achievement!

Ms to me means an older unmarried woman, probably because that’s what I knew as a child. For that reason I can’t call myself that.
I am Mrs because I’m married, and I think I’d still call myself Mrs if I got divorced, because that’s what I feel comfortable with. And when my own DM was divorced against her will, she always stayed as Mrs married surname.

I meant to say- I am Miss Maiden Name, have been all my life (in my 40s).

I had a civil partnership to male DP last year and retained Miss and Maiden Name. I have absolutely no desire to take any other title or change my name and never will.

I'm 52 not been married and I use Miss always have it's all on my paperwork I always fill in forms or anything else as Miss nobody questions it.

I’m 56 and use Ms. i don’t wear a wedding ring either, shock! But that’s down to my swollen joints.

I rarely need to use any titles other than when form filling, however I will tick Mrs. Recently this wasn't an option and that annoyed me, surely I get to choose how I title myself? Mx WAS an option. I'm mid thirties.
I never have to specify at work, I kept my surname at work because I have a professional reputation attached to that name.
My husband and I both double barreled for day to day life.
Ms doesn't feel complete as a word or even abbreviation.

I’m a Mrs. I changed my name and my title when I got married at 30 as did most people that I know! In my (fairly wide) group of friends and acquaintances, I only know 2 people who didn’t change their name (and title) when they got married.

I'm in my 40s. Was Miss as a child, Ms since I became an adult, remained Ms MyName when I got married and never entertained the idea of anything else (though MIL had always addresses Christmas and birthday cards to MrsHusbandsName and pretends she can't remember mine despite nearly 20 years of practice, bless her).

I've noticed schoolteachers at DS's school go by Miss or Mrs regardless of age though there's one Ms. At work (I'm a lawyer) Ms is still the default professionally. In my postnatal group 90% of the, mostly younger than me, women had changed their name and were Mrs. More people in their 20s and 30s in my (private school and Oxbridge college) alumni magazine births and marriages announcements are Miss or Mrs, not Ms so on that not very scientific sample it's an age thing?

Ms since my mid teens. Married since my early 30s. Retained my surname. In my early 50s.

My mother has always been Mrs first-married-name even though she since remarried.

The intention has always been to have a neutral equivalent to Mr to avoid assumptions. However if people are going to assume I’m divorced and draw whatever conclusions from that, I wonder sometimes if I’d be better off using Mrs and let the assumptions have some bearing on reality.

Women are always going to be judged for their choices it seems.