Have had to take my youngest to a&e, which means I've had to take my eldest (9 years old) along too because there is no one to watch him
It's now 2am and we've been here for 5 hours and we are on the edge of a massive meltdown happening and there's literally nothing at all I can do, no one I can call to come and get him or to help so I just have to let it happen basically.
I don't know why I'm even going to do if he kicks off on the middle of the a&e childrens waiting room.
No real point to this post but I am just really stuck and sick of being in situations where I am stuck, just venting really
AIBU?
To think being a single parent makes some things almost impossible?
Faithin · 20/09/2022 02:06
Am I being unreasonable?
288 votes. Final results.
POLLWindyKnickers · 20/09/2022 07:00
MN: Get a village
MN: is my friend a CF for asking me to look after her 9 yo all night and pick her up from A&E at 3am?
I get it OP. My kids father lives locally and at times like these we work well together but the number of times I've had to say no to something because there is just one of me breaks my heart.
WhatNoRaisins · 20/09/2022 06:51
It always gets me how on threads like this people endlessly talk about getting a village when there are so many posts on this site about how hard it is to make friends as an adult or how you don't need friends when you have a husband or how all your free time should be "family time".
Are we really surprised why so many people can't find a village when only giving a shit about your husband and kids is so normalised?
HighlandPony · 20/09/2022 02:19
You need a village. Friends, siblings, cousins, second cousins, neighbours etc.
I’m not a single parent but I’m holding the fort alone at least 85% of the time. Without my village (and we all do live in the villages-literally) I’d be stuffed and so would they. not helpful tonight but you need to get yourself some support
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foxy123 · 20/09/2022 05:13
The issue with 'building a village' as a single parent is then the village start expecting favours back. When you're already on your knees and only asking for help because you're desperate, the last thing you need is to have more added to your plate.
medianewbie · 20/09/2022 07:24
Op, I posted upthread in an attempt to redress the balance of of (imo) unkind replies. I posted at silly o clock as I've been wide awake all night worrying about my ASD kid whose current crisis as a single parent falls to me to deal with again (not the other parent or the non existant 'village'). I got wise words & the comfort of companionship in the wee small hours. Then MN deleted the thread (I'm sure they had their reasons but bang went that tiny temp 'village')
'Find your village' is a trite remark trotted out by the fortunate to the less so.
I hop you are all home safely now x
autocollantes · 20/09/2022 03:10
OP my full sympathies. It's really hard to build a village. I can't count the number of times people have said similar to me. I happen to live in a place where virtually everybody has parents around and simply doesn't get what it is not to have that. The people who don't seem to have au pairs. So they don't get it really either.
Plus building a village around you is really, really hard work when you're exhausted, which I'm going to hazard a guess you are most days.
I hope you can be seen really soon.
GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 20/09/2022 02:46
youngest is saying that he has food stuck in his throat and he can't cough it out so I really can't leave until he's been seen
This sounds totally bogus. If he can talk and breathe, then he doesn't need to be in A&E. Just go home.
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HighlandPony · 20/09/2022 02:19
You need a village. Friends, siblings, cousins, second cousins, neighbours etc.
I’m not a single parent but I’m holding the fort alone at least 85% of the time. Without my village (and we all do live in the villages-literally) I’d be stuffed and so would they. not helpful tonight but you need to get yourself some support
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