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Monday morning CF

173 replies

Neurospicyy · 19/09/2022 09:28

I know lots are off today but there’s nothing like a bit of cheeky fuckery to start the week off so I thought I’d share.

I have a friend (A) who I socialise with very often, they bought a house close to me not long ago and I’d say we see each other more than any others in our group. We have been socialising alone for many months now as life has kept other friends too busy and this friend basically started treating me like shit. Trying to humiliate me, clearly had jo respect for meetc. I tried ending the friendship several times but always forgave.

Fast forward to earlier this week we were due to meet up with some other friends to celebrate friend A’s birthday. Friend A and I were waiting at the bar for other friends who weren’t due to arrive for an hour so they said they were running to the shop for some cigarettes. I was sat for 45 minutes before I accepted friend A wasn’t coming back. I haven’t spoken to them since and accepted the friendship is over. I am not going to be disrespected like that by anyone.

But woke up to a text this morning. Yesterday was their actual birthday, “drop my present round whenever”.
Aibu or are they a CF?

OP posts:
AlisonDonut · 19/09/2022 09:30

'Oh I left it at the bar, I left straight after you did so I assumed you went back?'

DorritLittle · 19/09/2022 09:31

Clearly you ignore this OP.

Caroffee · 19/09/2022 09:33

They are a massive CF. Stick to your resolve and don't reply. Block them on your phone.

Original poster
Neurospicyy · 19/09/2022 09:34

They certainly won’t be getting a reply although I was very tempted to say
“It went to the shop for a pack of cigarettes but it hasn’t come back yet” 😁

OP posts:
billy1966 · 19/09/2022 09:35

If you don't treat yourself with respect you can't be surprised when others don't too.

When you don't treat yourself properly, you end up attracting that sort of person.

She treats you badly and you accept it.

Don't answer her texts again.
It really is that simple.

Better to be alone than around this sort of person.

ChocolateSpreadOnToast · 19/09/2022 09:37

I would be tempted to send back some bitchy reply.

averageavocado · 19/09/2022 09:43

Neurospicyy · 19/09/2022 09:34

They certainly won’t be getting a reply although I was very tempted to say
“It went to the shop for a pack of cigarettes but it hasn’t come back yet” 😁

I would send this, you have nothing to lose

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 19/09/2022 09:44

“I’ve not had my morning shit yet. When I’ve been it’s all yours.”

TolkiensFallow · 19/09/2022 09:46

She left you in a bar!

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 19/09/2022 09:48

You might want to get your story in first with the rest of the group if you still want to be friends with them...she sounds so brazen she would probably be spreading it around that you started ignoring her on her birthday for no reason

FurAndFeathers · 19/09/2022 09:50

Did the rest of the group turn up at the bar? Or did she go and meet them elsewhere?

Ladybyrd · 19/09/2022 09:51

"Hope you had a great day, CF! Unfortunately, your gift was delayed but it's here now! I can't wait to see your face! Stop by at midday and I'll have it ready. It'll ruin the surprise if I come to you! Lol 😘"

Then go out.

PoseyFlump · 19/09/2022 09:51

And then you woke up and realised it was all a dream.

AlisonDonut · 19/09/2022 09:52

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 19/09/2022 09:48

You might want to get your story in first with the rest of the group if you still want to be friends with them...she sounds so brazen she would probably be spreading it around that you started ignoring her on her birthday for no reason

A obviously met up with the other friends.

LikeTearsInRain · 19/09/2022 09:53

Did your other friends turn up at this bar in the end? Was there no group chat or similar for you to ask if they were still coming?

ChocolateSpreadOnToast · 19/09/2022 09:53

Tell her it’s with her cigarettes.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 19/09/2022 09:56
Hmm
pictish · 19/09/2022 09:57

Did your other friends turn up? Was she out with them after leaving you? Where did she go?

Original poster
Neurospicyy · 19/09/2022 10:06

Yes other friends came when they said they would but I was on my own for about an hour. They were shocked friend A had left me alone and apologised that they couldn’t be there sooner.

OP posts:
Iknowforsure1 · 19/09/2022 10:07

Is it a real sorry about presumably grown up people? I dunno. If it’s not invented, I think your friend needs to seek some mental health support because she sounds unhealthy. If all of this is true, I’d do nothing but blocking her everywhere, including putting her number in a blocked list

Iknowforsure1 · 19/09/2022 10:08

@Neurospicyy
I don’t understand, so friend A turned up later to celebrate or she never turned up again so you and other friend sat there alone?

Pava22 · 19/09/2022 10:10

Send the text op about cigarettes. I don't have time for cfs like this any more. Then Don't speak to her again. She isn't your friend

Ithinkiwanttobealone · 19/09/2022 10:10

"I won't be dropping anything over. You left me sitting in a bar alone for an hour with no attempt at an explanation or apologu. I no longer wish to be in touch."

Then block.

Selttan · 19/09/2022 10:13

Ignoring all the other stuff who sends a text demanding a present for their birthday?

VladmirsPoutine · 19/09/2022 10:14

Really?

So where did she disappear to? Has she explained. Surely you text/called her within that 45min period? Confused