Monday morning CF

[Neurospicyy]

I know lots are off today but there’s nothing like a bit of cheeky fuckery to start the week off so I thought I’d share.

I have a friend (A) who I socialise with very often, they bought a house close to me not long ago and I’d say we see each other more than any others in our group. We have been socialising alone for many months now as life has kept other friends too busy and this friend basically started treating me like shit. Trying to humiliate me, clearly had jo respect for meetc. I tried ending the friendship several times but always forgave.

Fast forward to earlier this week we were due to meet up with some other friends to celebrate friend A’s birthday. Friend A and I were waiting at the bar for other friends who weren’t due to arrive for an hour so they said they were running to the shop for some cigarettes. I was sat for 45 minutes before I accepted friend A wasn’t coming back. I haven’t spoken to them since and accepted the friendship is over. I am not going to be disrespected like that by anyone.

But woke up to a text this morning. Yesterday was their actual birthday, “drop my present round whenever”.
Aibu or are they a CF?

I think you constructed the best comeback yourself OP, the one about the present going to get cigarettes. Please ignore the posters saying this is all your fault, and it's because you don't have a backbone that you attract these types of people. It's not true at all, you were unlucky, you have now seen what his character is like and you have made the right decision to distance yourself.

Clever one, go for it.

I'd certainly copy his 'not in the mood' message to the others.

I would definitely not accept this kind of behaviour and couldn’t just not reply. My reply would be ‘what makes you think I’d buy you a present after you left me on my own in a bar without any explanation?!.. not what friends do is it!’

Well spotted!

OP look at that pic again. Even your phone thinks she's a CF, telling you to put "okay... I... haha" 😆

I'd reply 'sorry, I only buy presents for my friends. I hope your fags were worth it'.

I’d just tell them I wasn’t in the mood

I think it's CF to ask you to drop the present round anyway unless you asked when you could give him his gift but the whole thing is weird as it's you and other friends he stood up.

@MagpiePi no I’m not hoping for anything romantic in the slightest.

Text her and say you f*ed off and left me like a Billy no mates. After 45 minutes of waiting I assumed you had a better offer and weren't coming back. So I kept your presant for myself because I was pissed off with you.

Did any of the others have presents?

Ask if they got the same message?

I'd reply: "?!?"

"Sorry, whos this? no one I know has a birthday around this time"
and do not reply after they reply, obviously flabbergasted.

‘Eh? You said you weren’t in the mood to celebrate your birthday? I took the hint you didn’t want the present after you left me stranded the other day.’

Then when he says he does, ignore.

“Drop my present round whenever”

"I'm not in the mood."

"Yep I can drop you a present no bother, YOU are getting dropped as a "friend", don't contact me again"

There, that should do it nicely

He sounds v selfish! Give him a wide berth xx

Sounds slightly more believable now we know it was a man. It shouldn't make a difference but it does.

In his head he gave you a present for your birthday so would expect one back. Probably thinks nothing of not going back to the pub because he knew others were coming soon. He won't change so either ditch him or change how you interact with him.

Believe it or not I’m actually known for falling out over ‘petty’ things but it’s because if someone acts in a way I think is disrespectful I have no interest in maintaining a friendship. This one continued after many accounts of that because we share mutual friends and even after I voiced how I felt, I put it aside so the group could socialise without awkwardness.

But I feel like the entitlement here is baffling and I still haven’t replied. I am so tempted but I know it won’t be a graceful reply if I do. I have sent the text to a mutual friend and they have said they agree it was wrong

Brilliant

I actually find the text demand for a present worse than the bar situation.

Sorry but this person sounds unhinged. I'd not count as a friend any more.

I think it's worse that it's a man. What man leaves a female alone in a bar and fucks off home? Especially bad they didn't even check you were OK, and that your other friends did actually turn up.

Either don't reply or send the it's gone for a pack of ciggies message @Neurospicyy

Talk about drip feed! The way you’re telling this story is irritating!

'Oh I left it at the bar, I left straight after you did so I assumed you went back?'

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