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To wish I hadn’t got a dog

111 replies

Ihatemydogbmnamechange · 17/09/2022 23:41

Before people say what a horrible arsehole I am, I didn’t want a dog but gave in to years and years of pressure from everyone else in my family and now I am stuck with a dog who is ruining my life. still a puppy but is showing some possessiveness around food and I wish with all my heart I had never got him. My daughters are so happy my wife is happy but the dog can be awful to them too.

i hate everything about having a dog.

when is it ever going to get better z

ive sat and cried tonight becssue i wish I could go back in time

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StoneofDestiny · 17/09/2022 23:43

Why not just give it to someone who wants one?

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YellowTreeHouse · 17/09/2022 23:44

Just rehome. It’s not a big conundrum. It’s not a child. It’s not working out, so rehome.

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OzziePopPop · 17/09/2022 23:47

Honestly, the quicker you either rehome or embrace training the better. It will get worse fast if you don’t. You literally have two options. A decent trainer and behaviourist can absolutely turn this around but if you can’t or don’t want to, please rehome responsibly asap. If you’re in the southwest or south I can provide a good rescue’s details. 🐶

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walspoy · 17/09/2022 23:57

Poor dog, find it a better home

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Isaidnoalready · 18/09/2022 00:00

Part of me wishes I hadn't got cats we can't spontaneously go away they are pains in the arse I had to fish one out of the bin today and the other demolished my bookcase searching for treats but I wouldn't be without the little feckers if you can't feel the same way about your dog you should maybe rehome

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Testina · 18/09/2022 00:00

Well you know, you could just bloody train the poor thing? 🙄

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Tigofigo · 18/09/2022 00:01

The impression I get is that a lot of people feel the same way about their dogs.

Lots of owners I speak to sound exhausted and resentful about their dogs.

I know a few that sold their dogs after a few months as couldn't cope.

What I'm confused about is how your wife and children are happy, but you're not? Is the dogs behaviour aimed at you? Or is it because you just don't like dogs? If it's about the responsibility can you not just tell them they need to do everything dog related?

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Butchyrestingface · 18/09/2022 00:02

StoneofDestiny · 17/09/2022 23:43

Why not just give it to someone who wants one?

If everyone is happy in this scenario except the OP, I suppose OP runs the risk that they'll be want to rehome him/her before the dog ...

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LovelyDaaling · 18/09/2022 00:02

Possessiveness around food? Bad sign that none of you are handling that dog well. You have to speak up now and rehome it asap.

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CherryGenoa · 18/09/2022 00:04

Surely if you didn’t really want one and the rest of the family did, they should be responsible for most of its care.

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Lycanthropology · 18/09/2022 00:06

Puppies are a nightmare. I didn't like dogs but caved and got one. Getting through the puppy stage and toilet training was a nightmare and took longer than expected. I had regrets, to put it mildly.
But then it all clicked into place: dog grew up and got into good habits, and became the softest, most affectionate and well behaved friend. I absolutely adore my dog.
I hope you can have my experience, but if things don't start to improve soon then you should probably re-home the poor thing.

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InterviewWorry · 18/09/2022 00:08

I think most dog owners have a moment of thinking “what have I done?”

You need to get serious about training now. Possessiveness over food isn’t good and you need to deal with it and the underlying causes- unusual in a pup in a happy house. Do you have other pets?

Everything gets way easier from about 2yo, provided you’ve put the work in early on.

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Shelaydownunderthetable · 18/09/2022 00:09

How long have you had the dog?

It’s tough at first, no doubt about it

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Sunnytwobridges · 18/09/2022 00:10

Please find the poor pup a new home with someone who will live him

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Wombat100 · 18/09/2022 00:13

It never fails to amaze me how many people on these threads simply see dogs and other pets as disposable. Really sad.

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EmeraldShamrock1 · 18/09/2022 00:14

Things might change.

I wasn't a dog person and we became accidental dog owners I saved a puppy she is a year-old springer she has brought so much joy to the household.

We were lucky she has a lovely playful nature, my Dsis bought a really expensive dog around the same time, he is a rascal frenchie who refuses to toilet train.

If everyone loves the dog give them the opportunity of caring for their pet.

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SwordToFlamethrower · 18/09/2022 00:15

Not unreasonable. Social media paints this rose tinted view of keeping pets. They're loyal, fun, perfectly behaved, grateful etc. The reality can be very different!

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SD1978 · 18/09/2022 00:18

What are you expected to do for it? Do the rest of the family train, play and feed it?

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Jasminejoy · 18/09/2022 00:20

I've had my moments with my puppy who is now 12 months. It does get easier as they mature.

Did you just have a bad day because ivr been there but my overwhelming feeling is I lover her so much and more every day so I can cope with those moments.

Have you bonded with the dog?

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pompomdaisy · 18/09/2022 00:21

Yes my neighbours got a dog during lockdown. Now they leave the poor thing barking all day when they go out. No interest in training it. Only mum walks it and that's just weekends. Why?

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Jasminejoy · 18/09/2022 00:24

That's so cruel..

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EmeraldShamrock1 · 18/09/2022 00:27

Yes my neighbours got a dog during lockdown. Now they leave the poor thing barking all day when they go out.
Mine too.
She doesn't bark she is a large breed sat in the back garden alone 24/7. 😥

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Wombat100 · 18/09/2022 00:38

EmeraldShamrock1 · 18/09/2022 00:27

Yes my neighbours got a dog during lockdown. Now they leave the poor thing barking all day when they go out.
Mine too.
She doesn't bark she is a large breed sat in the back garden alone 24/7. 😥

So sad ☹️

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MrsTerryPratchett · 18/09/2022 00:44

If you gave the breed and the behaviour, you might get some suggestions.

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avamiah · 18/09/2022 00:45

What breed is it if you don’t mind me asking as I have had 3 big dogs all from puppies and they were rotties and I trained them from the crate so I’m happy to help and give you advise.

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