Being told I look middle class

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On a rare date night went out for a nice meal a bit fancy but it was OH birthday treat and went to a sports bar which had good music before we got the train home. I'm quite reserved and a bit uncomfortable in big settings so being in a city Center sports bar on a Saturday night was definitely out of my comfort zone, a very bubbly woman was chatting to me at the bar while we had drinks very out there but I found her really funny and we had a giggle, mid conversation she turned and said you look like you are very middle class, I just laughed in off not really knowing what she meant, I'm curious to know what she actually meant by this, just wondering if I give off a weird vibe for her to think this as I'm guessing it's not a compliment I think I took it as I am/look stuck up which is far from the truth so I would hate to give out that vibe!

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The OP

was not wearing:

a clingy “top” with glittery thread woven into it
a short “Bodycon” skirt
a few blingy gold rings
tottering heels
powerfully strong scent like Opium

or displaying:

delightful butterfly tattoos
a lot of cleavage + butterfly
unnatural straightened sticky-out hair
a trout pout
fillers

etc

🤣🤣🤣

Agree.

Although 'could of' is used so widely now that your statement means at least 50% of the people I meet/work with have no class ...

Anyone who dares to think they are middle class will be gunned down by the key board warriors of MN

As witnessed on this thread

But why is this?!

You think you are middle class? Die bitch die!

I’d take it as a compliment, it probably means she thought you looked smartly dressed.

If you say "could of" instead of "could have" you are not middle class.
Yes I know miow miow.

I think it's more multi faceted than that. The OP is making up presenting a scenario about class mores and gets it wrong so has her arse handed to her.

Bizarre but think every every person in the world would agree that saying your Italian is meant as a compliment because Italians are stereotyped worldwide as stunning. I think all humans are beautiful. But that's A compliment

It's amazing what people think passes for middle class and posh. Upshot is you are born middle class. You are not born working class and then become middle class because you get a university degree, buy your own house and get into lower management in your job. You are still working class

This is patently nonsense. Is Carole Middleton working class ? Any doctor or teacher automatically becomes middle class- they have to. It works the other way too, DB is the son of a teacher and a civil servant, he fucked up his A levels does a vocational job and lives with a hair dresser, he was born middle, both no.one would think that now.

Although he may still have RP he wouldn't fit in to middle class circles....

That’s why thought but darent say it 🙈

Why did you husband take you to a sports bar on a date? Ridiculous,

I would love to actually look Italian. In my head all Italian ladies are pretty, slim, have beautiful olive skin, long, thick dark hair.

Other than dark hair, I definitely don’t fit that image so it was a weird thing to say.

Because it’s obviously just a nonsense thread geared towards the class obsessives on here so they can jump up to frantically type such nonsense as ‘you must have looked slim, you didn’t have fillers etc etc. You didn’t look like the fat dirty sloppy working classes!’

Because if someone in real life randomly approached you in a bar and coyly giggled ‘oh tee hee you look middle class’ you’d immediately say ‘excuse me? I don’t understand, what are you talking about?’ What you wouldn’t do would be jump on mumsnet to ask random people what this person could possibly have meant without elaborating on what you were doing or wearing or what you were talking about previously, because if she said this out of nowhere she’s obviously just a nutter, and if she said it after you asked ‘do you think I look middle class’ then you’re obviously just a nutter.

Perhaps because some consider discussing class to be very vulgar.

Those with money consider discussing money to be vulgar. First rule of class inequality? Don't talk about class inequality.

I have very little money and I’d still find it really really weird if s stranger came up to me in a bar and said ‘oh you look like you make about 40k.’

It’s weird (and let’s be honest never happened) to tell strangers that they ‘look middle class.’ It’s socially abnormal behaviour, and it has nothing to do with discussing class inequality.

That’s a fact. It’s not bitchiness. If you have been properly educated and come from an environment where people talk properly, you would never say that or write that. It doesn’t make sense for a start.

People who say “could of” instead of “could have” clearly have no idea what a verb is because they are using a preposition in its place. Prepositions are obviously a mystery to them, too.

Wrong.

Amazing how people so readily shuffle themselves into 'classes'. Geez - no wonder we've still got a Monarchy!

This! I have no desire to belong to a class.

That’s because it is vulgar.To use the old cliché - money does not buy you class.

You do whether you like it or not.

Probably fair!

Would anyone in a Sports Bar be middle class? I feel that's unlikely.

It sounds like 'of' or 'uhv' because it's: could've

It's a contraction of "could have".

A pp is correct though - anyone who has learned to speak and write correctly would recognise that "could of" makes no sense at all, and wouldn't make that mistake.

Amazing how people so readily shuffle themselves into 'classes'

I didn’t realise it was still a thing until I came on MN.