Being told I look middle class

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On a rare date night went out for a nice meal a bit fancy but it was OH birthday treat and went to a sports bar which had good music before we got the train home. I'm quite reserved and a bit uncomfortable in big settings so being in a city Center sports bar on a Saturday night was definitely out of my comfort zone, a very bubbly woman was chatting to me at the bar while we had drinks very out there but I found her really funny and we had a giggle, mid conversation she turned and said you look like you are very middle class, I just laughed in off not really knowing what she meant, I'm curious to know what she actually meant by this, just wondering if I give off a weird vibe for her to think this as I'm guessing it's not a compliment I think I took it as I am/look stuck up which is far from the truth so I would hate to give out that vibe!

@Gwenhwyfar Women who look feminine with blonde hair and blue eyes that I have known get mistaken for being swedish or swiss, not German.
When I am in Germany even the Germans think I am German. I can be at a tourist place and others get spoken to in English, and they speak to me in German. I have never been mistaken from being swedish.

I agree. I always consider 'middle class' to refer to the 'average' 60% of the UK population - the demographic represented on this forum.

Some people do come out with the weirdest shit. I am working class. Born working class, raised working class by working class parents, (in a working class area,) and I am still working class...

I started working in offices in the early 1990s, (after working in factories and shops for a few years, along with most people I know.) Several people - ex colleagues and neighbours, said 'oooh you're posh now' and 'aren't you clever?' and one person assumed I had been to university, because I had taught myself to type, and learned to use a computer.

It's amazing what people think passes for middle class and posh. Upshot is you are born middle class. You are not born working class and then become middle class because you get a university degree, buy your own house and get into lower management in your job. You are still working class.

I was brought up working class. I am well educated, have many qualifications, and my house was paid for some years ago (in a rural, middle class village.) I also have a senior level job. I am still working class. Always will be.

😂 Oh I've heard it all now! You were buying mozzarella and someone automatically thought you must be Italian. OMFG!!! Just when I thought I'd read it all on here!

So only women with blonde hair and blue eyes look feminine then?

Turns out I have NOT seen it all now (like I said in my last post there ^) What a load of absolute hysterically funny bullshit.

And I say that as a blue eyed blonde woman!

@WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps That is not what I said at all.

Working in an office did used to mean you had risen up the working class ranks. Those in a lower rung worked in shops and factories.

I have never, and can't ever imagine, having a conversation which ends with a stranger (or anyone I know for that matter) saying "you look x class".

Outside of MN do most people actually care?

No. I also don't know anyone who looks at house prices or school fees either. So odd.

They do.

On a night out I would think you were dressed ‘sensibly’.

Maybe she just meant, you have your own teeth, a waistline, and hardly any tattoos?

Were you wearing a Breton stripe top from Boden?

Well, I don't consider upper middle class to be a class. Like I said later, I am very working class and I don't consider middle class to be posh. Anything I can become by having the right job isn't posh. 😬

This

"Well, I don't consider upper middle class to be a class."

It's a subset of middle class obviously. The difference between upper middle and lower middle can be huge.

"Like I said later, I am very working class and I don't consider middle class to be posh."

That's fine for you, but I do consider some upper middle class people to be posh. That's up to me.

Until now, I didn't realise anyone said could have. It always sounds like could of to me (or maybe could 'uhv' even if we write could have. It's understandable that some people write it 'could of' if they don't understand where it comes from grammatically.

Op I think she was trying to be nice to you. As a pp said it’s something you say to someone who isn’t but comes across that they really want to be.

im guessing there’s a story behind this that you’re not keen to share, as no one comes out with something so weird and random. And your odd phrasing about coming across stuck up, tells me you’re firmly working class as no one middle or upper would consider middle class stuck up,

Were you wearing a Breton stripey top? ... Dead give away...

Are you Mrs Bucket? Sorry...Bouquet.

"And your odd phrasing about coming across stuck up, tells me you’re firmly working class as no one middle or upper would consider middle class stuck up,"

Not sure I agree with that.

No, it isn't. Guitar must have read your post too quickly.
Could it be that you're not tall and we associate blonde Swedes with being tall?

Were you wearing pearls and clutching them?

It’s “centre” unless you are in the US of A.

Wrong quotation against Apols.