How often married/long term couples intimate?

[Queenieloveforever]

If you are married or in a long term relationship how often are you intimate with your partner? Honestly!

Together 12 years. 2-3 times a week normally: if super shattered/ period can be nothing for a week then loads as we're missing each other.

Together 20yrs, usually twice a week.

Together 17 years. 38 and 40. No kids.
I'd say on average once a week and ALWAYS in the morning! I know that sounds strange, but it's what we like!
If we're going through major stresses in life, we might not have sex for a month or more, but neither of us minds or puts pressure on one another.

Together 14 years, married 7.

Once a month I'd say. Our sex drives are mismatched but my DH doesn't seem to mind (his is higher).
It's always pretty amazing when we do though.
We're just busy with a young child and busy jobs. CBA most of the time.

Together 20 years, married 14. Average four or five times a week. Every day if on holiday.

Married 40 years - share a sofa and hold hands a lot whilst watching tv etc. Usually sleep in contact with each other.
Sex a couple of times a week.

Together 13 years, married for 6, 2 kids (4 and 2) and we probably have sex twice a week? About right for me atm but DH would like it more. Hopefully when kids are a bit older we can up it a bit!

Been together/Married just under 9 years.

4 kids together, intimacy/sex was up and down during postpartum/early years.

Currently have sex once per day (my choice) except during period. If it was up to my DH, it’d be maybe 1-2 times a week?

My libido is zero and I share a bed with my baby who still wakes frequently in the night, DH is in the spare room.

Sex now is regimented and only to conceive number 2.

I've been really tired since having a baby, but reading these responses I'm realising we need to make time for ourselves. Even if it's not for sex.

Married one year
Baby under one
Maybe averaging just once a week at the moment, some weeks with none and some more often

Honestly surprised by some of these responses.

Together 20 years, from a young age. No sex, the last time was around 9 years ago.
It makes me feel really sad. I am considering leaving the marriage, but not sure if it seems silly to take such drastic action. I feel very low.
Massages, cuddles and snuggles on sofa though. I care a lot for him

Together 13 years

About 3 times a week (same as gym and hair washing I guess)

4-6 when on holiday

25 years together , anything from 2-5 times a week. 4 children , youngest is 5. Sexual attraction still strong on both sides though there have been stages for me when I have gone off it. Sometimes if I think he's not making effort in my , home life etc. I always tell him though then he tries harder.

15 years married, 2/3 times a week average. More if on annual leave and less during heatwaves 🥹

Together 8 years and married 2. We have regular PinV sex but we also have none penetrative/embracative sex just as often too.

I'd say 2-3 times per week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. We are tactile all the time with hugging and kissing, holding hands and paying each other complements.

Yes! We have a one year old who wakes so much in the night. I’m in bed for 9. Dh always makes comments but what can you do?!

About once every 2-3 months with each other, interspersed with about once every 2 months with other people (for both of us)... occasional very busy times and dry spells!

Married for 12 year and I'd say we average once a week but I'd like more.

Together 23 years, married 19, 3 kids. Every couple of months generally.

That's a bit regimental. After 20 years we're usually twice a week. But it's not a planned thing. Some weeks it won't happen (period, kids up till late, not in the mood) Doesn't it take away some of the fun?

Together for 25yrs, married for 15ys, 2 kids. He'd have sex everyday but I really am not very attracted to him anymore and he's an asshole to me much of the time, so it's every few months. Could be up to once every 6 months if I'm lucky. He'd have it a few times a week if he could but the sex is terrible.

I couldn't imagine having it 4-5 times a week. Just the thought of that makes me tired 😆

This made me laugh!!! These men!!!

Been together 5 and a half years with a 3 year old (both have an older son each from previous marriage).
I'd say about every other day on average. The only real reason it's not every day is due to our son being around constantly (used to like sex in the afternoon) and I sometimes go to bed earlier in the week.

That sounds lovely. I like sex, but I think sensuality and loving closeness is the most important aspect of a relationship.

We are just coming up to 25yrs married (together for 30yrs)
It's all gone to shit in the last year as I'm peri-menopausal and bleed like mad for 2 weeks, have a week being ok ish but knackered (as I have bled heavily for 14 days) and then I have PMT for a week and I am so angry for that week he comes no-where near me and I do not blame him!
to be fair we have accepted how it is for now- still affectionate etc - had an amazing sex life for 23 yrs and I think we'll get back there before too long. You have to take the good times and the bad- he was very physically ill in his early 30's for a couple of years and I looked after him- he looks after me when I'm not 100% - it's part of the deal. You can still keep the closeness without sex and when it comes back it will be a massive bonus! That's what I'm counting on.