Tradesperson inviting people into my home

[IvyPlant]

Currently got a tradesperson in to do a job. They quoted me a day rate of 8 days work (which I think will take less time than that, but they're the expert...)

Anyway, that's not my AIBU. I checked my security footage this week and noticed a woman popped round to my house when I was out and tradesperson was working alone in my house. I can only see her walk past my front door to the back garden gate, she knocks and then the feed ends. She's seen leaving 4 hours later. The next day, same thing, except 3 hours.

At present the tradesperson gets here for about 8am and has already stopped working by 3pm. So that's 7 hours of work, fair enough, but 4 (and 3) of them an unknown woman here is (it's not his wife, I did a little social media digging and it's not her).

AIBU if I question him about it next week? He still has 4 days left to finish the job next week and I don't l like the fact there's an unknown and univited person in my house when I'm not there, plus, how much work can he really be doing if his "mate" is there for 4 hours.

Why on earth anyone would want to defend a married man shagging in someones outbuilding and charging someone else for the pleasure is mind blowing.

It sounds like there are conciences being pricked by a load of afternoon shed shaggers.

Glad you've taken the pic down, it means even more people on this thread could be paranoid they're being filmed at work this week 😂

Enjoy your son's birthday.. I think you're doing the right thing letting this play out and please keep posting for us who are utterly invested! Roll on day 8 !!! xxx

Enjoy your son's birthday.. I think you're doing the right thing letting this play out and please keep posting for us who are utterly invested! Roll on day 8 !!! xxx

Enjoy your son's birthday.. I think you're doing the right thing letting this play out and please keep posting for us who are utterly invested! Roll on day 8 !!! xxx

Ahhh, OP, I am SO enjoying this thread - thank you for keeping me entertained! I, for one, think you are being utterly reasonable in waiting until the job is complete before you confront him, as I too would prefer to be armed with all the facts and in a home that has working electrics! I hope your family have a lovely day celebrating young IvyPlant's birthday tomorrow, and look forward to reading more once you have something to update us with - good luck!

Fwiw I would also do exactly what you have done in terms of letting him finish the job because I would not risk being without working electrics. I would also of set up cameras and I would also not be paying him for the time he had his side piece round. If he invoices you for the full time then technically he is stealing from you. Please ignore all the posters on here who are 'baffled" ... a MN favourite word 🥱

Happy birthday for tomorrow for master ivy 🎉🎉

Fwiw I would also do exactly what you have done in terms of letting him finish the job because I would not risk being without working electrics. I would also of set up cameras and I would also not be paying him for the time he had his side piece round. If he invoices you for the full time then technically he is stealing from you. Please ignore all the posters on here who are 'baffled" ... a MN favourite word 🥱

Op.people on here pick a victim and go for it.even if you can clearly see they don’t actually believe their own questions.I can’t pretend to understand it but it “baffles” me every day on here.it seems to depend on the day on who gets picked.then no matter the logic behind ops post people somehow twist and even change the words to fit a narrative.
but anyway.I’m glad your getting your evidence together. I for one can’t wait to see how you handle this.you seem so strong and capable.I’d be a wimp!
what he’s doing is wrong.it’s taking the piss.and totally takes the trust aaway and makes your agreement unsafe.
keep strong.
don’t feel downhearted the more capable the woman on these threads sadly the stronger people try to bring them down. Which is really rather saddening.

Op.people on here pick a victim and go for it.even if you can clearly see they don’t actually believe their own questions.I can’t pretend to understand it but it “baffles” me every day on here.it seems to depend on the day on who gets picked.then no matter the logic behind ops post people somehow twist and even change the words to fit a narrative.
but anyway.I’m glad your getting your evidence together. I for one can’t wait to see how you handle this.you seem so strong and capable.I’d be a wimp!
what he’s doing is wrong.it’s taking the piss.and totally takes the trust aaway and makes your agreement unsafe.
keep strong.
don’t feel downhearted the more capable the woman on these threads sadly the stronger people try to bring them down. Which is really rather saddening.

Love this!

Hope your son has a lovely birthday and I think u are doing the right thing getting the job finished first!

Hope your son has a lovely birthday and I think u are doing the right thing getting the job finished first! Let’s hope he doesn’t read mumsnet and leave the job early!

The entire nature of AIBU is to inspire debate on both sides. I personally, having read every comment, still don’t understand why OP doesn’t just confront him and said that. She’s explained fairly vociferously why she doesn’t have want to. Fair enough. Me having an opposing view doesn’t make me a troll or a lemming or unable to think critically as another PP suggested though. It doesn’t mean I’m tearing down a “victim” either. If OP didn’t want anyone not to agree with her, which from the tone of her responses she clearly didn’t, she should’ve put this in Chat.

I agree with you op, let him finish, tradesman are utter currs and know they have you over a barrell in terms of finding an alternative at short notice, however you have perfect evidence to not pay.

And in case it's not been cleared up there is a difference between estimate and quote. Estimate is a best guess to give and indication, quote is the final price and is the accepted amount to pay. I assume the workman will provide his quote at the end of the job with invoice, however the op has evidence to dispute this.

I think you are doing the right thing with not confronting him until he’s finished.
Is there any way you or DH can be at home now until he’s finished and then he will get it done quicker?
Enjoy your sons birthday

I think you are doing the right thing with not confronting him until he’s finished.
Is there any way you or DH can be at home now until he’s finished and then he will get it done quicker?
Enjoy your sons birthday

Please can you make sure you link to the trust pilot review when all this is over. You’re handling it perfectly

Gosh, this is an eye opener, what a horrible time for you to have to deal with this. You’ve got a few more days, so I would say I will be back during the day, even though you won’t. You want your work done and him gone. Good luck and happy birthday to your son. This post is going to be full soon, at 40 pages, so you will need to start another.

I absolutely agree with getting him to finish the job before you confront him. We had an electrician disappear (to prison..!) in the middle of rewiring our house and it was almost impossible to find another electrician to finish the job and then certify the lot. Don't risk it! It's super gross what is happening but not as terrible as having the job half done.

Wishing your lad a wonderful birthday, IvyPlant. And I hope all three of you have a great day celebrating.

Thank you for sharing this saga on here - I have been absolutely riveted! For what it’s worth, I also think you’re doing the right thing by letting this play out, thereby giving you ample evidence to reasonably and fairly negotiate the final bill, whilst keeping your family safe. Good luck!

So report the OP? Troll hunting breaks talk guidelines too but here you are.

@IvyPlant I 100% think you're doing
this right, the work needs to be finished and then talk to him about reduced billing for his half days work.