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To think Prince Harry should now do whatever it takes to cancel his book contract?

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FromageRouge · 16/09/2022 22:13

And withdraw his book?

A rapprochement looks possible if he meets the RF halfway.

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MsBucket · 19/09/2022 17:35

Rapidtango · 19/09/2022 08:05

Mumneedswine, perhaps the plane was on the tarmac for an hour because they were waiting for Harry, he was held up and they had to leave - very time critical, obviously.

I'm not an advocate of violence but the scrote Piers Morgan needs taking round the back of a shed somewhere... The Daily Mail makes a lot of money in the UK and US, mainly down to divisive stories such as 'Royals v Meghan and Harry', so it's in their interests to whip the situation up. If people stopped reading and believing everything they read the world would be a happier, far more pleasant, less divisive place.

The Daily Mail makes a lot of money in the UK and US, mainly down to divisive stories such as 'Royals v Meghan and Harry', so it's in their interests to whip the situation up. If people stopped reading and believing everything they read the world would be a happier, far more pleasant, less divisive place.

MsBucket · 19/09/2022 17:36

Posted too soon. Completely agree @Rapidtango

mumsneedwine · 19/09/2022 17:40

I couldn't read the DM if you stuck a gun to my head. Weird paper, always going on about woman flaunting themselves somehow. No, they're wearing a dress.

Harry is free to publish whatever he wants. But he will hurt his family and I'd think that would be a strange thing to do when you are complaining how they hurt you. Doing the same thing back makes you as bad as them.
Go be happy, live your life but why the need to do all your arguing in public ? Not going to help your kids live a press free life. Look at Peter and Zara and even Edward. Never in the papers for anything gossip worthy. It is possible.

MsBucket · 19/09/2022 18:01

TheWheeledAvenger · 17/09/2022 02:28

The thing with streamlining the monarchy and not giving HRH titles to anyone except the monarch/heir's children is that it is an excellent idea in theory but tricky to implement due to the family dynamics, and there are concerns about ramifications on future generations.

It's a shame the Queen didn't start slimming things a generation ago. It would have been so much simpler if Charles' children were the only ones given HRHs and all three younger children treated the same. It's harder when there are only two because the divide is more stark. If Harry had siblings whose children were also not HRHs it would reduce the impression this is about punishing or not punishing him for leaving. The treatment of the Queen's grandchildren was also a bit of a mishmash due to sexism (Anne's children not automatically getting HRH just because Anne is female) and Andrew's pushiness with his girls.

The other issue is the future. Issuing new LP saying the grandchildren of a monarch are no longer entitled to HRH means that Charlotte and Louis' children likely won't be HRHs. Who knows what William thinks about that precedent being set and whether he would want his future grandchildren to be HRH or not. But the royals do have to think in the long term and to think about precedent. The RF are all about tradition and the longterm. They aren't going to make permanent changes just because one relatively unimportant person left.

@TheWheeledAvenger You’ve made a lot of good points but I always thought it was Anne’s choice for her children not to get titles just as Edward and Sophie chose to do similar?

mumsneedwine · 19/09/2022 18:09

It was Anne's choice. Sensible woman.

derxa · 19/09/2022 18:21

mumsneedwine · 19/09/2022 17:40

I couldn't read the DM if you stuck a gun to my head. Weird paper, always going on about woman flaunting themselves somehow. No, they're wearing a dress.

Harry is free to publish whatever he wants. But he will hurt his family and I'd think that would be a strange thing to do when you are complaining how they hurt you. Doing the same thing back makes you as bad as them.
Go be happy, live your life but why the need to do all your arguing in public ? Not going to help your kids live a press free life. Look at Peter and Zara and even Edward. Never in the papers for anything gossip worthy. It is possible.

Totally agree. Harry can do what he wants. I don't think he will ever be pleased with his lot though. If I were Charles I would give Harry's children 50 titles.

mumsneedwine · 19/09/2022 18:22

😂 long ones. V v long titles. Prince of that town in Wales with the v long name.

TomPinch · 19/09/2022 18:58

MangyInseam · 19/09/2022 13:34

Your relation to history is your own obviously, but this kind of angst over it isn't universal or a realistic relationship with the nature of history.

I regularly work on a street named after a governor who systematically in his work persecuted and killed my ancestors. It was in fact his job to do this and he apparently was quite keen on it at a personal level too - by all accounts a right bastard. This in no way affects my sense of myself as a person. It does not pain me to go to work in the morning. We are all the products of the past, we all have ancestors who have been slaves, and in some sense also we all are the products of the winners who climbed over the bodies of others.

The vast majority of major artifacts from the ancient world up through the modern period are the product of forced labour of some kind, the craft of people who were not wholly free. We can see them depicted on everything from Greek vases to illuminated manuscripts and 17th century paintings.

Frankly I think this kind of rhetoric is mainly a way to avoid considering the degree to which we are all, today, relying on goods and infrastructure that are equally the products of exploitation and often of modern slavery - and that to a large degree there is little we can do about it. Somehow if we throw ourselves into despondency over things that happened several years ago we can imagine we are good people who would never be implicated in anything like that.

Does it start with a C or a K? I hope you don't mind me asking?

TomPinch · 19/09/2022 19:11

I’ve no doubt the highly intelligent and dignified Obamas carried off the meeting with aplomb, they can handle anything that’s thrown at them, but that doesn’t negate the fact it was a faux pas.

It sounds like a faux pas to me too, but the issue is perspective. The UK's history as a slave trading nation and a colonial power is under a particular spotlight right now. Once the Queen's funeral is no longer news this will only increase.

Why is this happening at the time that people who actually lived under the empire are dying off? Because the world is moving on, the UK isn't as important as it was, and present values - whatever they are - are always affirmed by a wholesale rejection of the past. Right now that puts the UK in the crosshairs despite that being the very country that eventually suppressed the trade. If, 100 years from now, we live under a world dictatorship, American values will probably get the same treatment and only a few archaic cranks will argue for any sort of nuance.

The Obamas understand this very well if half the things they've said about American values were sincere.

MsBucket · 20/09/2022 03:30

Roussette · 19/09/2022 06:24

Where did they give Andrew a seat? And why couldn’t Harry get on the same flight? Maybe it was fully booked?

Umm... they're not on EasyJet!

Harry and Meghan and the kids . living in America wasn’t part of that original plan? But I’m sure someone called or messaged him. I’m also assuming there is a time difference so there is a possibility that he could have just missed the call?

Oh dear

@Roussette What do you mean?

Roussette · 20/09/2022 05:46

MsBucket · 20/09/2022 03:30

@Roussette What do you mean?

What do I mean, what?

Your post said Harry probably heard about the queen only minutes before the public because of the time difference. What time difference???

He was on the UK and had been for days

SleepingAgent · 20/09/2022 11:06

FromEden · 19/09/2022 01:13

They told Harry the Queen died minutes before making it public after telling the prime minister who had only even been pm a couple days.

Probably because they didn't want Omid Scobie announcing on Twitter that the queen had died before the official channels had reported it

@FromEden there's strict protocol around flights - I believe William and Harry can't fly on the same plane as if, in the small chance it went down, that would mean the loss of the heir and the 5th in line now.

bellabasset · 20/09/2022 11:14

Apparently Meghan has requested a visit with the King to discuss issues. Harry had to leave his lifestyle when they left the UK. Whatever you think of Meghan wasn't that what was expected of her, a woman who had no experience of living in the UK let alone the RF.

I hope for Harry's sake she'll manage to start to repair the damage done by the Oprah interview and mend her fences with her own father. However should Harry ever want to move back to the UK isn't the King guardian of his gc so could use that to insist they were brought up in the UK if Harry wanted that?

Puzzledandpissedoff · 20/09/2022 11:23

should Harry ever want to move back to the UK isn't the King guardian of his gc so could use that to insist they were brought up in the UK if Harry wanted that?

I believe this is so in principle, but does anyone imagine that taking a woman's children from her is a hill Charles would wish to die on, just to placate his son?

The media would go absolutely berserk and this time they'd have a point, so while I'm not going to speculate about divorce, any consequences which arise from Harry's own choices will be for him to deal with

Cameleongirl · 20/09/2022 13:59

Puzzledandpissedoff · 20/09/2022 11:23

should Harry ever want to move back to the UK isn't the King guardian of his gc so could use that to insist they were brought up in the UK if Harry wanted that?

I believe this is so in principle, but does anyone imagine that taking a woman's children from her is a hill Charles would wish to die on, just to placate his son?

The media would go absolutely berserk and this time they'd have a point, so while I'm not going to speculate about divorce, any consequences which arise from Harry's own choices will be for him to deal with

There's the additional hitch of the children being dual citizens too.

The American government is very strict regarding "forrin" parents taking their children to live abroad, I know this because I'm British married to an American and our children are dual citizens. Unless Meghan was completely on board with moving back to the UK, there's no way Harry could bring them, absolutely no way. The Americans wouldn't make an exception for them as it would be a terrible legal precedent.

Harry's in a tricky position in the US. He can't apply for citizenship as he'd have to forfeit his titles (all of them) so he'll always be on a visa and have fewer rights. I doubt he considered any of this before moving, but there we are.

Dinoteeth · 20/09/2022 14:17

bellabasset · Today 11:14

Apparently Meghan has requested a visit with the King to discuss issues

How much would you love to be a fly on the wall listening to that conversation?

I'm curious to who leaked the information, surely to goodness they all realise leaking information just isn't the way to do it. Have the meeting without people immediately asking what was that about.

OhMerde · 20/09/2022 14:22

Not much time for meetings. Charles is now back in Balmoral with Camilla.

Beowulfa · 20/09/2022 15:31

I imagine the book will have huge sales as people buy it in the hope of enjoying tasty revelations about senior royals calling Meghan the N word to her face whilst feeding live kittens to a slavering corgi pack.

What they'll get for their £19.99 is 600 pages of self-indulgent wank about mindfulness, self-healing and finding yourself (90% ghost-written) padded out with glossy pics of Harry and Meghan looking wistful whilst staring at a Californian sunset.

Along the lines of the books celebrity bloggers/influencers release for the Christmas market.

Beowulfa · 20/09/2022 15:58

For the record- I would assume any book published by William & Kate to be tedious too.

Most celebrity autobiographies are dull and poorly written IMO.

ReneBumsWombats · 20/09/2022 16:30

Cameleongirl · 20/09/2022 13:59

There's the additional hitch of the children being dual citizens too.

The American government is very strict regarding "forrin" parents taking their children to live abroad, I know this because I'm British married to an American and our children are dual citizens. Unless Meghan was completely on board with moving back to the UK, there's no way Harry could bring them, absolutely no way. The Americans wouldn't make an exception for them as it would be a terrible legal precedent.

Harry's in a tricky position in the US. He can't apply for citizenship as he'd have to forfeit his titles (all of them) so he'll always be on a visa and have fewer rights. I doubt he considered any of this before moving, but there we are.

Why would he have to forfeit his titles?

Maireas · 20/09/2022 16:33

Beowulfa · 20/09/2022 15:58

For the record- I would assume any book published by William & Kate to be tedious too.

Most celebrity autobiographies are dull and poorly written IMO.

Harry has a good ghost writer (can't remember his name, but very experienced)

Cameleongirl · 20/09/2022 17:26

ReneBumsWombats · 20/09/2022 16:30

Why would he have to forfeit his titles?

You have to forfeit all foreign titles when you become an American citizen. I've been through the naturalization process myself and it's one of the requirements.

Personally, it wasn't something I needed to worry about. 😂

Maireas · 20/09/2022 17:40

Cameleongirl · 20/09/2022 17:26

You have to forfeit all foreign titles when you become an American citizen. I've been through the naturalization process myself and it's one of the requirements.

Personally, it wasn't something I needed to worry about. 😂

Really?. Surely Archie and Lilibet are American citizens - does that mean they can't have titles?
If not, what was all that business on the Oprah show about being denied titles because of colour?

ReneBumsWombats · 20/09/2022 17:43

Cameleongirl · 20/09/2022 17:26

You have to forfeit all foreign titles when you become an American citizen. I've been through the naturalization process myself and it's one of the requirements.

Personally, it wasn't something I needed to worry about. 😂

Surely that just means he can't use them in America? The titles were inherited/bestowed under British law. No other authority can say they don't exist, and he can't renounce his princehood.

Cameleongirl · 20/09/2022 17:56

@ReneBumsWombats I don't know the ins and outs of how it works, but this is what it says on the naturalization application:

A. Do you now have, or did you EVER have, a hereditary title or an order of nobility in any foreign country?

B. If you answered yes, are you willing to give up any inherited titles or orders of nobility that you have in a foreign country at your naturalization ceremony?

The correct answer is yes if you want to become a citizen!

I presume that means that he couldn't use the Duke of Sussex title in the US. As you say, I don't suppose it makes any difference in the UK.