Yeah, actually I think your description here is pretty far off base
This does not surprise me in the slightest.
I am familiar with the painting thanks, are you familiar with the history of African peoples in the Dutch Republic in 1654? (the date of the painting).
A trading nation with a 5% share of the transatlantic slave trade (trading somewhere between 500k and 1 million slaves in total) and colonies in the Caribbean, slavery directly contributed to its growth as a major economic power. Merchants from all over the world visited with their slaves.
What benign narrative do you conjure for an African child in domestic service at that point? Virtually all Africans in Europe at that time were slaves or descendants of slaves. Those who had been freed were generally in domestic service or labour - which contributed, with slavery itself, to the conception of Africans as a servile race.
Hanging the painting in a museum as an important piece of history, is not the same as hanging it in the private apartments of a family with a history of profiting from slavery, surely you can see that?
The Israeli President and his wife are arriving for tea. Do you display your picture of “The Wandering Jew” when your family has a history of anti-semitism?
I’ve no doubt the highly intelligent and dignified Obamas carried off the meeting with aplomb, they can handle anything that’s thrown at them, but that doesn’t negate the fact it was a faux pas.