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Anothernamechangeplease · 2022-09-16T18:32:14+00:00

Ok, so this will probably get called a stealth boast, and maybe it is a bit, but I am so delighted that I have to tell someone! It has been a shitty week. Expensive and seemingly never-ending house maintenance problems, work stress, dd's exam stress, worries and frustrations about an elderly relative etc. I stayed in the office late this evening to get some work done. DH is overseas at the moment so it is just me and 17yo dd at home. I knew I would be coming home to an empty house because dd had a party to go to. All fine. I just got home and she has tidied the whole house from top to bottom. [shock] Hoovered upstairs and down, wiped surfaces... she even made my bed! And there are even fresh flowers! So lovely to come home to a tidy house![smile]

KateofGhent · 16/09/2022 21:15

@Anothernamechangeplease
You described this lovely suprise so well, I can picture the scene, as if it was me who was coming home to it. Your DD spent not just her time, but bought flowers too.

TiaraBoo · 16/09/2022 21:22

Love that!!!!! 💖
On Mother’s Day, my DD (15) decluttered the kitchen and cleaned downstairs. I was soooo happy. It was the best thing ever!

WimbyAce · 16/09/2022 21:35

Aww that is lovely 😍I hope my DDs grow up to think of doing nice things as she did.

Minimalme · 16/09/2022 21:36

Well, my ds15 would have tidied our house top to bottom, but he washed up once last summer. He is exhausted poor little thing

UWhatNow · 16/09/2022 21:40

That's lovely that it made you feel good op but for me I’m a bit phobic about my daughters getting praised for cleaning and tidying. I don’t ever want them to think that a woman’s worth is about her domestic skills. I would’ve been a bit disappointed if my dd had wasted her day doing that.

Magnificentbeast · 16/09/2022 21:45

How lovely! 💕

illiterato · 16/09/2022 21:47

Don’t want to piss on your parade but ask her a question only she would know the answer to… just to check she hasn’t been kidnapped by aliens and replaced by an imposter.

Lemonsandlimez · 16/09/2022 21:55

Lovely! I hope my kids do this for me one day!🤣 Enjoy!

Schmordle · 16/09/2022 21:59

This is so lovely, well done OP’s daughter! Hope you can bask in your clean house tonight and have some respite from all the stresses of the week

Witchofthedales · 16/09/2022 22:38

That is lovely ❤

Mythreefavouritethings · 16/09/2022 22:47

Oh thank goodness, a nice thread! I was beginning to give up. Enjoy every moment, OP!

newjobwhodisperhaps · 16/09/2022 22:53

👌🏽 lovely girl

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Anothernamechangeplease · 16/09/2022 23:42

UWhatNow · 16/09/2022 21:40

That's lovely that it made you feel good op but for me I’m a bit phobic about my daughters getting praised for cleaning and tidying. I don’t ever want them to think that a woman’s worth is about her domestic skills. I would’ve been a bit disappointed if my dd had wasted her day doing that.

Honestly, I don't think it's ever occurred to my dd that a woman's worth has anything to do with her domestic skills...and a good thing too as my own domestic skills are distinctly lacking. Also, the value was not so much in the cleaning and tidying itself, but rather in the kindness of her actions.

There have been so many lovely, kind comments on this thread. I'm not sure that I was expecting such a generous response. You have all helped me to enjoy my evening in my lovely tidy house all the more.

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Anothernamechangeplease · 16/09/2022 23:44

Passmethecrisps · 16/09/2022 21:11

This is absolutely lovely. I remember at about the same age, having been pretty unkind to my mum up until that point, I took to making her packed lunches and hiding wee notes in them. Just a smiley face or a ‘hope you are having a nice day’. I think this is the age some start shaking off the more negative teen stuff and you see that beautiful, honest generosity of spirit that so many of them have.

enjoy you lovely clean house! You clearly deserve it

That's adorable @Passmethecrisps. So sweet!!

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Bayleaf25 · 16/09/2022 23:45

Bless you for bringing up a lovely person.

imnotapensioneryet · 16/09/2022 23:52

Smashing. 😬

DeanStockwelll · 16/09/2022 23:59

UWhatNow · 16/09/2022 21:40

That's lovely that it made you feel good op but for me I’m a bit phobic about my daughters getting praised for cleaning and tidying. I don’t ever want them to think that a woman’s worth is about her domestic skills. I would’ve been a bit disappointed if my dd had wasted her day doing that.

So I suppose by this measure your presume that op waste her days cleaning the house too ?

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Anothernamechangeplease · 17/09/2022 00:01

DeanStockwelll · 16/09/2022 23:59

So I suppose by this measure your presume that op waste her days cleaning the house too ?

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Lol, I could probably do with wasting a few more days cleaning the house tbh!

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Maray1967 · 17/09/2022 00:05

She’s a credit to you, OP, what a thoughtful thing to do - flowers as well.

Cakeandcoffee93 · 17/09/2022 00:09

I remember doing this for my mum a few times in my teenage years. I was a messy cow for most of my childhood but I remember how happy she was when I did clean- it’s only now I’m a mum I realise how much a clean house brings happiness!

DeanStockwelll · 17/09/2022 00:13

@Anothernamechangeplease
This was a really nice thing for your DD to do, I think it shows more than just cleaning she's noticed you've had a stressful week so there's probably planning this for a little while which put much more emotion and thought into what she's done.

Its Nice if you could buy her a small box of chocolates to say thank you, but also show her this thread so she really knows you appreciate effort that she has put in and how you feel about it and how will lots of other mum's and dads would feel if their sons or daughter's did this.

Ps if your lovely daughter is free next weekend I have a hob that really could do it being cleaned 😂

ManateeFair · 17/09/2022 00:57

UWhatNow · 16/09/2022 21:40

That's lovely that it made you feel good op but for me I’m a bit phobic about my daughters getting praised for cleaning and tidying. I don’t ever want them to think that a woman’s worth is about her domestic skills. I would’ve been a bit disappointed if my dd had wasted her day doing that.

Oh ffs. The OP clearly said it’s just her and her DD at home at the moment and the OP works so how do you propose anything gets done in the house if neither of the the two women in the house ‘waste their day’ on it? Not everyone actually enjoys living in a grubby/messy house, so clearly someone’s got to do it.

Don’t devalue domestic tasks by not praising them, just because you’ve got negative associations with them. Sneering at something domestic like that is just internalised misogyny with added snobbery thrown in. Cleaning a house is no less valid than going to work in an office, regardless of whether it’s done by a man or a woman.

OP, your daughter sounds lovely.

WhatLikeItsHard · 17/09/2022 01:27

UWhatNow · 16/09/2022 21:40

That's lovely that it made you feel good op but for me I’m a bit phobic about my daughters getting praised for cleaning and tidying. I don’t ever want them to think that a woman’s worth is about her domestic skills. I would’ve been a bit disappointed if my dd had wasted her day doing that.

You're projecting your own issues here and pissing on OPs chips a bit.

The majority of people enjoy walking into a clean and tidy house, it feels relaxing and calm. And it shouldn't take all day to tidy up, wipe down the surfaces and whizz round with the hoover. Unless you live in a mansion and/or complete shit tip.

Always4Brenner · 17/09/2022 01:39

That’s lovely it really, you’ve a cracker there.

Fraaahnces · 17/09/2022 01:58

What a magnificent human she is. Not only kind but empathetic. Please let her know how proud you are of her! I would be singing her praise to the rafters too.