DD off to uni tomorrow.

[Crosswithlifeatm]

I gave her a hug goodnight and am now a soggy,weepy mess.
I will no doubt be worse tomorrow if the overloaded car makes it.
AIBU or are other mums like this?
I have brought her up to be a strong, independent young woman so I've only myself to blame but this is it, she's outgrown home.
How long does it take to reinvent a life as a single woman?

Son goes next week. Just realised its his last Saturday here for a while and now I'm sad.

I used those vacuum bags to store the duvet, pillows and clothes.

but the shite bastardy bags inflated overnight😡😂 so wasn’t successful. Otherwise i used shopping bags.

Mine also doesn't start for 2 weeks - he's desperate to go as all the Fresher's nights out start next week for he thinks he's missing out...

As for his belongings, clothes will go in a suitcase which we'll bring back when he's unpacked. Other stuff in boxes in the car and eellbrjng home anything he decides he won't need.

Ive got a question for you all though...what are your dc using to pack all of their stuff? I’d assumed he’d use suitcases and boxes but of course there’ll not be room at uni to store the cases. I’d love to know what everyone is doing.

4 large squashy holdalls which can then be folded flat and stored under the bed

We dropped Dd yesterday and she's currently on her second night out 🙈

The week before she left was really emotional for us all... Moving day was very functional and ended up being less emotional than I had thought it would be. I felt happy with where she was and am looking forward to regular updates as she settles in and makes more friends.

We took 2 large suitcases, a couple of boxes and the rest was in bags for life and bedding still in original packaging. We took one suitcase home and left a small one there. Boxes and bags were all taken back too.

I've been reading the drop off posts on wiwikau and it's making me emotional. Most seem to be okay for now and mine is enjoying it so far..

That’s so reassuring. I can’t imagine ever feeling fine again with my son so far away but rationally I know I will. As long as he’s happy it will all be fine.

Mine use a combination of cases and plastic storage boxes. The plastic storage boxes then go under the bed as storage for while they're there, a smaller case stays with them for coming home in the holidays (they are both in self catered so can leave big stuff there) and the big case comes home.

I have two in university and they both use the same big case as their terms start on different dates so it can be brought back home for the next one.

My DS left this week and it was hellish. Hellish in many ways. In the days before, I found myself remembering vividly times from his early childhood; funny little events. It was like I ran through all his milestones. Bawled my eyes out.

Then, unbelievably, I caught Covid. Bawled some
more as I realised I wouldn’t be able to travel with him and DH. Ended up like Queen Victoria directing everything from my sick bed. Awful. Cried when he left, cried at the empty bedroom, cried cos I felt so ill.

On what he used to pack. A suitcase (medium wheeled), a backpack and 3 blue Ikea bags so he can use them for laundry, storing extra clothes and bedding under the (ottoman) bed.

Bless you xx

Dropped him off today and he seems to have settled in ok. I wasn't too tearful, but really miss him now . Most nights at 10pm ish he would emerge from his room and we would have a chat for half an hour over a cup of tea.
He is only 40 mins away.. I've threatened that if he doesn't answer my calls I will turn up on his doorstep

Sorry this made me laugh! My DH and I have done just that this evening and our DS is a post grad! The look of pure bemusement on his face was priceless. To be fair we did have valid reasons to be concerned.

Well,finally had a phone call from her!
She likes her flat and flatmates and met some people on her coarse that she'd chatted to on social media.
She's cooked for everyone this evening.
They were out last night and there's a big party 🥳 n Tuesday.
So I'm reassured.I also lied through my teeth and said I was fine!!
She's also also said she will phone on Sundays.
Hope everyone else is getting by, this bit of parenting is tough!

Glad she's settled in well, at least that's one less worry.
My DD is now in her 3rd year, it does get easier x

We had Saturday night as a family in a hotel, after unpacking everything. Eldest made the most of the cocktails on us and was a little hungover.

Dropped him off yesterday and everyone kept it together, but it was tough. Was a long drive out of London and home.

There was a welcome party in the halls last night. Apparently the beer was crap, so he hit the white wine.

Fingers crossed he will really settle in and enjoy it.

Mine has been a bloody nightmare. I’ve had to drive back down to her today to try and calm her before she starts lectures tomorrow

Cheesechops oh no! How far away is she? I hope she's better today

Is she/you ok?

@Crosswithlifeatm Luckily she’s just over an hour away. She is en route to her first lecture and hoping to meet someone from her course outside. I feel sick for her. This is a millions times worse then when she started school. We are both exhausted and I’m praying to the Uni Gods that she finds some friends and settles in.

She has met the other girl outside! Had a little weep in the loo at work which seems overly dramatic but I am just so relieved as this girl is quite possibly the first person she has spoken to since she got there.

She'll be fine as she makes friends.
Why has she not met anyone, isn't she in halls/shared flat?

She’s in halls but in her flat there are two boys. One of which has no interest in being friends and the other is almost never there. The other room is still empty

@Cheesechops if it's any consolation my son has just called to say he is finding it lonely. He has ASD and I am praying he finds some like minded people when he starts his lectures. He has meet the head of school tomorrow.
His flat is mostly foreign students and I think he is regretting his choice accommodation wise. I hate feeling so useless . I suspected he might struggle mind you :/
God it's hard!

My DD is in a flat with another girl and 2 boys. They’re all quiet. No interest in mixing. DD knows a few in other halls and they’ve had one night out but these 3 have declined every thing DD has offered 🙁.

ive told her to keep asking, dont give up! They might be shy, missing hone, im sure once uni starts they’ll get to know each other.