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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To be pissed off with my boyfriend about where I live

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Beachbreak2411 · 12/09/2022 23:17

He moans. Always. I don’t have car space. I have 2 bed house with sea views on both sides. It’s small. This annoys him

its cluttered.. but I have a kid.. houses are. He moans all the time I need to move somewhere with a Garden. Drive. Open fire. I can’t afford to. He complains my sofa is too uncomfortable and my bed is too. I don’t find them bad. I love him but he’s making me angry. He never cooks for me but tells me how I should do thi gs

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TooHotToTangoToo · 13/09/2022 12:08

WTAF!!! He wants all these things, tell him to go and buy a house with all these things...

Your home sounds lovely op, sea views, I'm jealous

Butterfly44 · 13/09/2022 14:46

What I would do for a house with sea views - on both sides!!!!!
Get rid of the boyfriend, honestly he doesn't sound great. Your house sounds lovely. So what it's small and cluttered (in his eyes) it's fine for you and I guess you're pretty happy.
Find a bf who likes to see you happy and isn't so selfish.

Eddielizzard · 13/09/2022 14:50

Yep, if that's what HE wants, he should get it! He doesn't sound like a keeper. Throw him back.

lisbonsquid · 13/09/2022 14:52

Sea view on both sides… nice :)

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Beachbreak2411 · 13/09/2022 19:50

You lot are great. I grew some balls and text him he annoyed me with the constant complaints.
his reply was just he didn’t mean to be horrid and now he’s not text me for hours.

im at top of a hill but we have 6 beaches in 10 minute walk. It’s 5 minute walk to my work and 10 minute walk to my daughters school. We aren’t going anywhere.

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Aubriella · 13/09/2022 19:52

But are you cooking and cleaning after him, OP? What happens from 1 October when bills will
go up massively? Is he going to live off you most days?

Just dump him!

Glittertwins · 13/09/2022 20:30

Beachbreak2411 · 13/09/2022 19:50

You lot are great. I grew some balls and text him he annoyed me with the constant complaints.
his reply was just he didn’t mean to be horrid and now he’s not text me for hours.

im at top of a hill but we have 6 beaches in 10 minute walk. It’s 5 minute walk to my work and 10 minute walk to my daughters school. We aren’t going anywhere.

Your house is sounding nicer and nicer to me!

MumsHairnet · 14/09/2022 08:54

Do NOT message him he’s trying to train you, you put up a firm boundary so he withdraws affection expecting you to chase after him and never question his behaviour again. It’s another paragraph in the script.

Lindjam · 14/09/2022 08:56

Tell him to get to fuck!!

Agree with PP - negging and possibly cocklodger in waiting.

I would put this one back in the sea...

fucap · 14/09/2022 10:03

Good.
He can get to fuck.
He wants a fancy house with a garden and a drive and more space and fuck knows what, he can pay for it.
But he won't.
Had an ex who moved in with me after lodging in a grotty room in someone's house for years. I really should have known better.... but he seemed to have plausible reasons for living there.
Anyway, he was a cocklodger and I got rid of him after a while. He then went and stayed with friends for a while (6 months or so) before ending up in a very small grotty studio flat in the arse end of the world. Probably waiting for the next cocklodging opportunity to arise.
And he was constantly moaning about my place and saying things like the kitchen needs replacing etc....

nachoavocado · 14/09/2022 10:04

Beachbreak2411 · 13/09/2022 19:50

You lot are great. I grew some balls and text him he annoyed me with the constant complaints.
his reply was just he didn’t mean to be horrid and now he’s not text me for hours.

im at top of a hill but we have 6 beaches in 10 minute walk. It’s 5 minute walk to my work and 10 minute walk to my daughters school. We aren’t going anywhere.

Fair enough.

In the words of ariana grande- THANK YOU NEXT!

Ragwort · 14/09/2022 10:21

Good riddance .. why do you want such a loser in your life?

Enjoy your lovely home, daughter and beautiful surroundings ... what exactly does he offer?

StarDolphins · 14/09/2022 10:24

He’s basically trying to move in with you! But trying to get you to buy a house of his choice! I would think carefully if there’s any future in this. It won’t get better.

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