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AIBU?

To be pissed off with my boyfriend about where I live

113 replies

Beachbreak2411 · 12/09/2022 23:17

He moans. Always. I don’t have car space. I have 2 bed house with sea views on both sides. It’s small. This annoys him

its cluttered.. but I have a kid.. houses are. He moans all the time I need to move somewhere with a Garden. Drive. Open fire. I can’t afford to. He complains my sofa is too uncomfortable and my bed is too. I don’t find them bad. I love him but he’s making me angry. He never cooks for me but tells me how I should do thi gs

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Am I being unreasonable?

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StarDolphins · 14/09/2022 10:24

He’s basically trying to move in with you! But trying to get you to buy a house of his choice! I would think carefully if there’s any future in this. It won’t get better.

Ragwort · 14/09/2022 10:21

Good riddance .. why do you want such a loser in your life?

Enjoy your lovely home, daughter and beautiful surroundings ... what exactly does he offer?

nachoavocado · 14/09/2022 10:04

Beachbreak2411 · 13/09/2022 19:50

You lot are great. I grew some balls and text him he annoyed me with the constant complaints.
his reply was just he didn’t mean to be horrid and now he’s not text me for hours.

im at top of a hill but we have 6 beaches in 10 minute walk. It’s 5 minute walk to my work and 10 minute walk to my daughters school. We aren’t going anywhere.

Fair enough.

In the words of ariana grande- THANK YOU NEXT!

fucap · 14/09/2022 10:03

Good.
He can get to fuck.
He wants a fancy house with a garden and a drive and more space and fuck knows what, he can pay for it.
But he won't.
Had an ex who moved in with me after lodging in a grotty room in someone's house for years. I really should have known better.... but he seemed to have plausible reasons for living there.
Anyway, he was a cocklodger and I got rid of him after a while. He then went and stayed with friends for a while (6 months or so) before ending up in a very small grotty studio flat in the arse end of the world. Probably waiting for the next cocklodging opportunity to arise.
And he was constantly moaning about my place and saying things like the kitchen needs replacing etc....

Lindjam · 14/09/2022 08:56

Tell him to get to fuck!!

Agree with PP - negging and possibly cocklodger in waiting.

I would put this one back in the sea...

MumsHairnet · 14/09/2022 08:54

Do NOT message him he’s trying to train you, you put up a firm boundary so he withdraws affection expecting you to chase after him and never question his behaviour again. It’s another paragraph in the script.

Glittertwins · 13/09/2022 20:30

Beachbreak2411 · 13/09/2022 19:50

You lot are great. I grew some balls and text him he annoyed me with the constant complaints.
his reply was just he didn’t mean to be horrid and now he’s not text me for hours.

im at top of a hill but we have 6 beaches in 10 minute walk. It’s 5 minute walk to my work and 10 minute walk to my daughters school. We aren’t going anywhere.

Your house is sounding nicer and nicer to me!

Aubriella · 13/09/2022 19:52

But are you cooking and cleaning after him, OP? What happens from 1 October when bills will
go up massively? Is he going to live off you most days?

Just dump him!

Beachbreak2411 · 13/09/2022 19:50

You lot are great. I grew some balls and text him he annoyed me with the constant complaints.
his reply was just he didn’t mean to be horrid and now he’s not text me for hours.

im at top of a hill but we have 6 beaches in 10 minute walk. It’s 5 minute walk to my work and 10 minute walk to my daughters school. We aren’t going anywhere.

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lisbonsquid · 13/09/2022 14:52

Sea view on both sides… nice :)

Eddielizzard · 13/09/2022 14:50

Yep, if that's what HE wants, he should get it! He doesn't sound like a keeper. Throw him back.

Butterfly44 · 13/09/2022 14:46

What I would do for a house with sea views - on both sides!!!!!
Get rid of the boyfriend, honestly he doesn't sound great. Your house sounds lovely. So what it's small and cluttered (in his eyes) it's fine for you and I guess you're pretty happy.
Find a bf who likes to see you happy and isn't so selfish.

TooHotToTangoToo · 13/09/2022 12:08

WTAF!!! He wants all these things, tell him to go and buy a house with all these things...

Your home sounds lovely op, sea views, I'm jealous

PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 13/09/2022 12:00

Honestly, if he's pissing you off at this early stage, it's not likely to get any better.

ShandaLear · 13/09/2022 11:57

How dare he tell you what to do. If he wants a big house with a garden then tell him to fuck off and buy one. He’s negging you - bringing you down to raise himself up. You don’t need someone like that in your life.

gamerchick · 13/09/2022 11:49

Howay man OP he wants to ditch the weird windowless bedsit but doesn't want to/cant move in to your house. Therefore you must satisfy his demands.

Tell him he's welcome to stay at home if he doesn't like it.

ImAvingOops · 13/09/2022 11:42

Fgs don't let him move in - you have cocklodger in the making there - contributes nothing while expecting you to make his life perfect!

IDidntKnowItWasAParty · 13/09/2022 11:37

Total knobhead - get rid and raise your standards for how men should treat you, you deserve so much better OP

kimchifox · 13/09/2022 11:32

No time for anyone who can't appreciate the beauty of living by the sea Anyway only you know if he's worth it, but it doesn't sound like it. It sounds like he wants you to pay for a load of new stuff and move house so he can have the benefit. I know what I'd do.

blockpavingismynightmare · 13/09/2022 11:31

OP He is a weirdo. You can do better

MumsHairnet · 13/09/2022 11:29

Bin him off, he’s supposed to be coming over to spend time with you and to pay attention to you not with your sofa and bed.

TheHouseElf · 13/09/2022 11:17

Time to ditch him. Not going to get any better and all that moaning is going to drag you down.

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Snazzysausage · 13/09/2022 11:09

Lose him. Honestly, you won't get to my age( 60s) and think wistfully "I wish I'd had a few more years of "Brian's" constant complaining and moaning. I really miss it". Walk him out the door.

Notlosinganyweight · 13/09/2022 11:03

Agree with the others, cocklodger alert. You can do much, much better OP. He wants you to fund his lifestyle. Tell him it's not working anymore as you can't and won't fund the lifestyle he wants.

Purplecatshopaholic · 13/09/2022 11:02

Your house sounds lovely. He does not. He is angling for you to move and have things how he wants (but you pay for them). If he doesn’t like your house/sofa/bed he doesn’t have to come round does he.. Tell him to zip it, or alternatively (preferably) find someone better…

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