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To be pissed off with my boyfriend about where I live

113 replies

Beachbreak2411 · 12/09/2022 23:17

He moans. Always. I don’t have car space. I have 2 bed house with sea views on both sides. It’s small. This annoys him

its cluttered.. but I have a kid.. houses are. He moans all the time I need to move somewhere with a Garden. Drive. Open fire. I can’t afford to. He complains my sofa is too uncomfortable and my bed is too. I don’t find them bad. I love him but he’s making me angry. He never cooks for me but tells me how I should do thi gs

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ItsNotNormalLove · 13/09/2022 10:04

twilightermummy · 13/09/2022 09:26

How do you not immediately respond with, “you live in a bedsit?” Rinse and repeat. That would be my initial reaction and I’d continue along that vein.

Exactly this!

TurtleCavalryIsSeriousShit · 13/09/2022 10:10

Ooooh no!!! He is definitely angling for you two to move in together somewhere big and comfortable. DON'T DO IT!!!!

Dimondsareforever · 13/09/2022 10:13

Answer is simple. He buys the house with the garden and drive and open fire. You stay in your lovely sea view cottage :-)

Glittertwins · 13/09/2022 10:13

Sounds like you have a lovely place that suits you and DC just fine. He's probably jealous but I'd not be rushing to sell up and move in with him - he'd not be satisfied with anything

TheMoonisaBalloon · 13/09/2022 10:16

He has a bedsit with no windows? Where is it - Strangeways ?!

SmellsLikeMiddleAgeSpirit · 13/09/2022 10:22

He lives in a room without a window????
And he criticises your house?
Bloody hell.

I was going to say your house sounds like a palace compared to his, but in fact it sounds nice in any case and suits you fine.
Lose this loser; he can find his own ideal house.

jay55 · 13/09/2022 10:37

He's a cocklodger in waiting. What a tool.
Lives in a cupboard and complains about getting to stay in a lovely house by the sea.

Foronenightonly22 · 13/09/2022 10:38

He’s jealous as he feels inadequate. Your home sounds lovely and as long as you and your child like it that’s all that matters. I’d lose him as he doesn’t sound like a great partner. If this is early days it’ll only escalate. Life’s too short to be with a moaning pessimistic pr**k.

WithIcePlease · 13/09/2022 10:39

You are definitely under 50 otherwise you'd have told him to fuck right off with his criticisms 😂

pinkyredrose · 13/09/2022 10:41

He wants you to move somewhere he likes so that he can engineer moving in with you. Cocklodger alert!

10HailMarys · 13/09/2022 10:55

What the hell are you getting out of this relationship where a man who lives in a windowless bedsit comes to YOUR house and tells YOU it's not good enough? He's an absolute cunt. If he wants to live in a house with a garden and a drive he needs to bloody well buy one of his own. He does not live with you. He has precisely zero right to have any input into anything about your house. Get rid of this arsehole.

zingally · 13/09/2022 10:59

What's HIS house like? Still living with mummy and daddy, or housemates, I expect!

He's a cock lodger of the highest order. Dump him.

AryaStarkWolf · 13/09/2022 11:00

tell him piss off back to his bedsit

Purplecatshopaholic · 13/09/2022 11:02

Your house sounds lovely. He does not. He is angling for you to move and have things how he wants (but you pay for them). If he doesn’t like your house/sofa/bed he doesn’t have to come round does he.. Tell him to zip it, or alternatively (preferably) find someone better…

Notlosinganyweight · 13/09/2022 11:03

Agree with the others, cocklodger alert. You can do much, much better OP. He wants you to fund his lifestyle. Tell him it's not working anymore as you can't and won't fund the lifestyle he wants.

Snazzysausage · 13/09/2022 11:09

Lose him. Honestly, you won't get to my age( 60s) and think wistfully "I wish I'd had a few more years of "Brian's" constant complaining and moaning. I really miss it". Walk him out the door.

TheHouseElf · 13/09/2022 11:17

Time to ditch him. Not going to get any better and all that moaning is going to drag you down.

MumsHairnet · 13/09/2022 11:29

Bin him off, he’s supposed to be coming over to spend time with you and to pay attention to you not with your sofa and bed.

blockpavingismynightmare · 13/09/2022 11:31

OP He is a weirdo. You can do better

kimchifox · 13/09/2022 11:32

No time for anyone who can't appreciate the beauty of living by the sea Wink Anyway only you know if he's worth it, but it doesn't sound like it. It sounds like he wants you to pay for a load of new stuff and move house so he can have the benefit. I know what I'd do.

IDidntKnowItWasAParty · 13/09/2022 11:37

Total knobhead - get rid and raise your standards for how men should treat you, you deserve so much better OPFlowers

ImAvingOops · 13/09/2022 11:42

Fgs don't let him move in - you have cocklodger in the making there - contributes nothing while expecting you to make his life perfect!

gamerchick · 13/09/2022 11:49

Howay man OP he wants to ditch the weird windowless bedsit but doesn't want to/cant move in to your house. Therefore you must satisfy his demands.

Tell him he's welcome to stay at home if he doesn't like it.

ShandaLear · 13/09/2022 11:57

How dare he tell you what to do. If he wants a big house with a garden then tell him to fuck off and buy one. He’s negging you - bringing you down to raise himself up. You don’t need someone like that in your life.

PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 13/09/2022 12:00

Honestly, if he's pissing you off at this early stage, it's not likely to get any better.

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