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To be pissed off with my boyfriend about where I live

113 replies

Beachbreak2411 · 12/09/2022 23:17

He moans. Always. I don’t have car space. I have 2 bed house with sea views on both sides. It’s small. This annoys him

its cluttered.. but I have a kid.. houses are. He moans all the time I need to move somewhere with a Garden. Drive. Open fire. I can’t afford to. He complains my sofa is too uncomfortable and my bed is too. I don’t find them bad. I love him but he’s making me angry. He never cooks for me but tells me how I should do thi gs

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Aubriella · 13/09/2022 01:32

Why are yu cooking for this waste of space? Does he contribute to your house if he spends time there?

Dump him before the increase to energy costs in 2 weeks time.

nocoolnamesleft · 13/09/2022 01:39

The sea view sounds great. The guy...not so much.

GrazingSheep · 13/09/2022 01:41

Why are you inflicting him on your child?

Boxowine · 13/09/2022 03:31

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vodkaredbullgirl · 13/09/2022 04:24

100% dump him

MintJulia · 13/09/2022 04:30

Get rid of him. He's just making you stressed.

My last one did the same. My internet wasn't fast enough, he didn't like the bedroom blinds, my car was too old, my garden was too big, my fence was too scruffy, my child was too annoying.......

I think they do it because you have a nice settled comfortable life that works and they need to disrupt it for some reason, show that they are boss.

It doesn't get better. You need to get rid of him. Sorry.

Zonder · 13/09/2022 05:40

Do you laugh at him when he says all this?

I hope you can see through this thread how ridiculous he is.

GladysGladioli · 13/09/2022 05:51

It's envy. His way of feeling better about his crappy bedsit is to criticise your lovely house.

He's basically an insecure twat.

nachoavocado · 13/09/2022 05:52

Beachbreak2411 · 12/09/2022 23:42

Thank you all for confirming.

he lives in a weird bed sit with no windows. He does have a comfy armchair and his bed is soft but no window.

HAHA sorry that made me laugh. I was expecting you to say he lives somewhere with 3 rooms and it was his weird way of hinting you should move in. LTB

FreudayNight · 13/09/2022 06:06

It’s very unreasonable that he’s your boyfriend.

Wearefoooked22 · 13/09/2022 06:08

Keep the sea views an ditch him!

JemimaPiddleDick · 13/09/2022 06:10

Makes me wonder why he’s so keen on you when your home is obviously so ghastly.

seriously though, this behaviour won’t improve, tell him to get fucked.

MrsSkylerWhite · 13/09/2022 06:10

Have you told him how crappy his living arrangements are?

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 13/09/2022 06:12

Beachbreak2411 · 12/09/2022 23:42

Thank you all for confirming.

he lives in a weird bed sit with no windows. He does have a comfy armchair and his bed is soft but no window.

Wow..

He sounds a Prince...
This would drive me mad.

If you're into him... I'd give him ONE chance...

"Stop moaning Now about car park space, bed, bed sofa, family clutter."

This is MY house and this is your only warning. You are on notice for being dumped.

CampRedLeaf · 13/09/2022 06:16

Tell him if he doesn't like it he can fuck off

itsnotmeitsdefinitelyyou · 13/09/2022 06:24

What do you love about him OP?

Make a list of pros and cons - include everything down to the last little thing he whinges about and see how much you think you love him after that x

klipwa · 13/09/2022 06:25

Start endlessly complaining about his place and use that as a reason to dump him!

Seriously, tell him to shut up or leave

pictish · 13/09/2022 06:28

Eh? He lives in a windowless bedsit, yet comes to yours and complains about your home not being big, comfortable or convenient enough for him? Ok.

I’d give him both barrels then declare the subject closed. He’s welcome to move out of his bedsit and into a spacious semi with a garden and a drive whenever he wants.

Forgottenmypasswordagain · 13/09/2022 06:56

Exactly what@pictish said.

Shinyandnew1 · 13/09/2022 06:58

Tell him to stay at home with his parking space. Honestly? Relationships shouldn’t be be like this!

TheEggChair · 13/09/2022 07:20

Some women have extremely low standards when it comes to men. Better to be single than be stuck with a sponging leach like your boyfriend.

shandon14 · 13/09/2022 07:33

Tell him as he doesn't like your house you can start coming to his from now on and he can host you including cooking you a lovely meal. Then complain about the windowless bedsit and tell him he needs to move.

Alternatively tell him his comments are rude and must stop, if he doesn't let up, move on, you deserve better than this.

Lullabies2Paralyze · 13/09/2022 07:38

Unless you live up a massive hill and the sea in the sea views is miles away, then I don’t think you really need a garden as the sea is the garden and all the outdoor space your child needs!
your house sounds lovely

an open fire space? He has some specific requests! 🤣
tell him to buy the house he wants and not expect you to buy it.

FlamingoQueen · 13/09/2022 07:44

So he lives in a bedsit whilst you have a 2 bedroom house with sea views! He sounds mightily jealous. As someone that would love to have a sea view, please do not ever let him make you leave your home. The best way to create more space and not worry over parking is to ditch him!

EnjoythemoneyJane · 13/09/2022 07:46

What @pictish said, but with the addition of the fact he directs and micro manages what and how you cook for him?! And never does anything for you?

Fkn hell, OP, how has this choosing beggar got you so well trained to put up with his BS? Unless he’s a stand up comedian with a magic penis, what exactly are you getting out of the relationship? Tell him not to let the door hit his arse on the way out and then relax and enjoy your lovely sea view without his whinging face in the way.