To be pissed off with my boyfriend about where I live

[Beachbreak2411]

He moans. Always. I don’t have car space. I have 2 bed house with sea views on both sides. It’s small. This annoys him

its cluttered.. but I have a kid.. houses are. He moans all the time I need to move somewhere with a Garden. Drive. Open fire. I can’t afford to. He complains my sofa is too uncomfortable and my bed is too. I don’t find them bad. I love him but he’s making me angry. He never cooks for me but tells me how I should do thi gs

[TabithaTittlemouse]

How long have you been together?

He could buy you a new mattress?

[cushioncovers]

Get rid of him.

[Elderflower14]

And you are with him because??? 🙄 🙄 🙄

[Aposterhasnoname]

How about he moves to a place like he describes then you can visit him there, and every one’s happy.

[Magenta82]

@Aposterhasnoname

How about he moves to a place like he describes then you can visit him there, and every one’s happy.

This.

[KatherineJaneway]

So what I am hearing is he wants you to buy the type if house he wants to live in but won't get off his arse and work hard to buy for himself?

[NurseIngaHangover]

He sounds like he will suck the living joy out of everything!
Trust me, I had one like that and life improved immeasurably when I got rid, I am a happy go lucky person and I could literally feel the joy of life being sucked out of me when he was around.
Some people are radiators and bring happiness to others around them and others are drains and feed off negativity. He is a drain, he wont change.

[userxx]

@AnneLovesGilbert

Why are you putting up with this? Why?

I'm intrigued too.

[IceStationZebra]

In the words of Beyoncé, “Tell him ‘Boy, bye!’”

[MysteriesOfTheOrganism]

Tell him to take a hike back to his glorious hovel bedsit.

[Wouldloveanother]

Cocklodger.

[StoneofDestiny]

Easy to solve this, change your house or change your boyfriend.

[TeeBee]

I'm guessing he's pressurizing you to move somewhere bigger that is more to his liking. You will then get 'oooh, this is too much for you to manage on your own, I'll move in'. He's a parasite. Mark my works. Just get rid OP, he's a waste of air.

[Caroffee]

If your boyfriend wants all those things, tell him to buy/rent them for himself. He has less than you do. He's a CF.

[ILikeHotWaterBottles]

Tell him to buy a bigger house then. Step up, be a man and buy a bigger house, all the furniture etc provide properly.

And then dump the prick.

[Imissmoominmama]

It will look much more spacious without him in it…

[NovaDeltas]

You have a lovely little cottage by the sea and it sounds like it's yours. Mr Jealous Fucker just wants you to sell up so he can buy with you, absorb your share and play Man of the House. He's jealous of what you have and is urging you to give it up. Independence. Freedom. Your own property'.

Big warning sign. Angry, aggressive man bullying you into giving up your home. So, so common. There's a billion threads on here with the same thing. You buy somewhere bland together and then he ends it, waving the joint documents at you and taking half.

He knows where the door is.

[NovaDeltas]

Aha just read your second post that he lives in a windowless bedsit. He definitely wants his sticky hands on a joint home with you. And he's definitely jealous, because he is a loser who lives in a windowless bedsit.

[sorrycanthearyou]

Classic controlling behaviour and it always escalates if you ignore it. Ignoring it means staying with him.

[fucap]

Get rid of him.
He sounds to me like a cocklodger in the making.
He's making all kinds of demands and basically implying you should find a different place to live which meets HIS needs. But has he said how he's going to contribute towards this dream home? I bet he hasn't....
And even if he has "made noises" about moving in together etc, don't believe a word he says.

Just get rid.

[twilightermummy]

How do you not immediately respond with, “you live in a bedsit?” Rinse and repeat. That would be my initial reaction and I’d continue along that vein.

[cstaff]

Ah would you just buy him a gaff wherever he wants with plenty of parking!! What kind of partner are you at all... 😆

[TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination]

I hope you're just on a wind up!


If by some chance you're not, ditch this twat! Today. Enjoy your life, with your child & your wee house by the sea!!!

[TeeBee]

@cstaff

Ah would you just buy him a gaff wherever he wants with plenty of parking!! What kind of partner are you at all... 😆

Yes, you really should be using your resources on his wants rather than on your child. Come on OP!

[sandgrown]

My ex had no house when we met .He stayed at mine but criticised . I had a large house that needed a lot of work but it was mine . He said he thought I would live in a little palace because I was always nicely dressed! I think he was jealous . Your boyfriend sounds the same .