To ask my bridesmaids to contribute towards there make up

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I am getting married soon and would like the opinions on whether it's reasonable for me to ask my 4 bridesmaids to pay £20 towards having their make up done on my wedding day? Overall it's £60 each so I would pay the rest and be saving £80 in total. I am going to pay for their hair as well.
The reason I ask is I have been bridesmaid for 3 of them (the most recent one being a few months ago) and they paid for both hair and makeup and didn't ask for any contribution.
We have a budget for our wedding and I don't want to go over that so trying to save where I can.

🤣🤣 fair play!

Anyway sorry for pissing you all off but also thank you for your opinions either way! Hope you all have a good rest of your Saturday and I promise never to do a reverse again now I've been well and truly told!

I think it's really unfair to ask them to contribute. I wouldn't feel comfortable doing my own makeup to be a bridesmaid. I also wouldn't want to pay for it myself when the only reason I would be getting it done professionally is because I've been asked to be a bridesmaid and will be 'on show' and in the photos..
For the sake of 80 pounds and the risk of offending them I would try to save the money somewhere else..

You’ve taken one for the team in good humour - perhaps others will learn from it 🤣

FWIW - YANBU - pay it, don’t pay. One makes you look generous, the other just budgeting in a way that’s socially acceptable to many. But £20 makes them look tighter than just not paying any!

If you are resenting it so much then say you don’t want to be a bridesmaid any more. Presumably the bride is a long standing friend so you are aware of the financial situation, so you need to either suck it up , smile and stop gritting or if you feel she is taking the piss then walk.

Always funny when posters who do a reverse say “oh but I didn’t know people didn’t like them”

Either every one of them must be new to MN (unlikely) or there is a fake naivety which is as frustrating as a reverse

Ask them to do their own. I wouldn't ask them to pay towards getting it done professionally.

If you want professional make up I think you need to pay. Otherwise they do their own.

I see it's a reverse. Irritating. I don't think the bridesmaids should pay for their own make up, dresses, alterations or any of that though anyway.

Completely unreasonable. I don't wear makeup so couldn't do my own but also would only wear it at all to make the bride happy/ respect her wishes for everyone to look the same - I'd really be a bit irritated to be told to pay towards something that I wouldn't want but would be going along with out of goid will!

oh 🤦 a reverse🙄

I don’t wear makeup - I can’t do it and I certainly wouldn’t be paying for it to be done for someone else’s wedding, or buying my own products that would never be used again.
You should either pay 100% of the costs or accept it’s their choice to do their own makeup or not.

You don't know how their financial situation is and I think it's up to the bride to pay if you want that uniform look.

As soon as the Bride wanted a fancy hen do, I’d be saying ‘thanks but no thanks’ to the Bridesmaid role.

Either carry on with this ridiculous nonsense or stand up for yourself. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yabu

Tighter than a ducks arse asking for 20 quid each. You'll forever be remembered as a cheapskate.

sorry no. if bride wants so many bridesmaid she pays for everything. from listening to friends aswell as bring bridesmaid myself and having bridemaids. the deal is bride pays for dress hair and make up. bridesmaids pays for shoes underwear and jewellery. how was the hen paid for ? did brisdmaids contribute to pay for the hen on the night (as commonly done) I am sorry but this is very stingy. I would be reducing how much money I give as a present plus re thinking my friendship. and yes getting make up done for bridesmaids is a thing. there is normally a deal done with make up crowd for bride mother of bride and bridesmaids.

YABU for doing a reverse. They are a pain in the arse, and I understand they are against Talk Guidelines.

It's also quite manipulative. So double YABU.

You should absolutely be the one paying. If you couldn't afford it you should have said from the beginning that there won't be a professional hired and they need to do their own make up.

Find your own make up artist.

Reverse or not it's the bride's wedding - she should pay.

Your wedding, you pay.

Very mean of you to expect them to pay.
You're supposed to pay.
Or else let them do their own make up.

If you want their makeup done professionally then you need to pay.

I think you should pay if thats has been the custom in your friendship group.