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Patchy nursery attendance DS

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slippe · 09/09/2022 08:26

My DS goes to nursery full time. 5 days a week.

I can count the weeks he has actually attended 5 days a week on one hand probably. He has been going since January. There is always something- usually an illness or trying to avoid and illness before a trip we have to go on etc.

I had a baby in april and kept him off for a few weeks, again, to avoid an illness around this time. Things were hard enough having a new baby etc.

During the summer we went away for a month and then had family visit for a couple of weeks and he was also sick.

He has missed a lot of nursery. Even when I do send him, I tend to leave him at 10ish and pick up at 4ish.

I didn't want to change his hours when the baby came because I didn't want to lose the place and also think it's good for him to go.

I am wondering if anyone else does this with their nursery ? My DS has moved to preschool now and the teachers mentioned that it would be better, in preparation for school, for him to come in at a set time and not miss as much time ( unless he is ill of course ).

This made me realise that they probably think we are a bit strange to have him miss so much nursery time. But it was just situational the last few months. I fully plan on sending him in as much as possible now he is in preschool.

I thought the nursery would be happy to have one less child to worry about, but they actually seem to want him to come in more. I think that's really lovely.

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cansu · 09/09/2022 18:01

Illness is one thing but it sounds more like you have kept him off for other reasons. Changibg times is also not great I think you need to consider the structure of the day a bit more. Being kept off for weeks at a time also doesn't help him to settle and get used to the routine.

cadburyegg · 09/09/2022 19:44

I think if you want to keep him off for random days then just reduce his hours. But be consistent on the days he is in. I don't mean get there at 9.00 exactly every day but try and get there at a similar time. As has already been said, there will be set times for snacks etc and it's a pain if a child comes in when they're about to finish an activity.

I am also feeling ill today, so if we have a cold brewing, it might be better to keep him home today

To be honest it sounds like you keep him off for every little thing. Just try and keep to a more consistent routine.

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