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... to not cry or be at all upset at baby jabs?

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Hugasauras · 08/09/2022 15:02

Wondering if I have a heart of stone or am dead inside!

I always see posts on here, and some of my friends have said the same, that they cried or were in a state for their baby's jabs, one person I know said they wanted to hit the nurse(!), and they've honestly never bothered me at all We've just gone, baby has screamed for like 30 seconds and then we've gone home. Am I a sociopath?! Or is anyone else a callous cow?

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 08/09/2022 15:04

yep- honestly didn't get upset. I know that being jabbed must be horrible for a baby, i know it's in their best interest and I know they wont remember it. Not sure why anyone cries at them.

Burgerqueenbee · 08/09/2022 15:04

No I feel the same way, obviously it is never nice to hear your baby cry like that but it lasts a couple of minutes. My dh would be absolutely heartbroken if he went though!

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 08/09/2022 15:06

I felt the same but babies crying never upset me in the way it does some people. They're just complaining for a bit not traumatised for life.

Willbe2under2 · 08/09/2022 15:07

Nope, I'm the same and when she got her tongue tie cut too. Obviously she got lots of cuddles etc afterwards but I wasn't upset myself, much better those few seconds of pain than the illness they're preventing. She did kick the nurse during one of her jabs though 😆😆

Alloftheboys · 08/09/2022 15:08

Some people are way too dramatic when it comes to things involving their children.
Vaccines are a “medical procedure” that could stop them dying or becoming disabled from a disease.

Small amount of discomfort for a lot of benefits.

Testina · 08/09/2022 15:08

You’re the normal one. The others are attention seeking idiots!

Heartofglass12345 · 08/09/2022 15:09

I didn't get upset but also made my husband have them on his lap

SBAM · 08/09/2022 15:10

I’m a callous one too!
I hate them being unwell, but I don’t get upset about them getting a vaccine to prevent serious illness that they’ll have forgotten about in half an hour.

HowManyWaysAreThereToSayThatEverythingSucks · 08/09/2022 15:10

Hello from a fellow callous cow. :-)

I also don't feel extremely bad if dbaby falls or gets a little bruise or bump or scratch.

On the other hand I do feel heart broken when I think they might be in mental anguish. Hate leaving crying baby every day at nursery.

stopitleaveitgetdown · 08/09/2022 15:13

Yep I didn't get upset either.

I had a friend who cried when her daughter had her jabs (and she's a nurse) and my SIL acts like an idiot too.

I get it's not nice for the little one but it's a minor thing. No need to cry over it

Greenbeanmcgee · 08/09/2022 15:13

Vaccines are a “medical procedure” that could stop them dying or becoming disabled from a disease.

Small amount of discomfort for a lot of benefits.

The fact that the babies are being taken for their vaccinations suggests that the parents know that. It doesn't mean that they can't find it a bit upsetting.

I don't have a baby but I used to have attend regular medical appointments and I dreaded when they'd make them during the baby clinics. Some cried for far, far longer than 30 seconds and some sounded as though they were being flayed alive and I did find it somewhat upsetting while being simultaneously pleased that the babies were receiving preventive health care.

BeanieTeen · 08/09/2022 15:16

I was the same. Maybe because I’m not that bothered by jabs myself? I know some people have terrible needle phobias so I can understand you’d be upset for your child to go through the same thing.
But I did cry when my DS had his tongue tie clipped. Perhaps because, linked to the above, I wouldn’t want anyone clipping my tongue 😂
As a pp said though it does generally come across as attention seeking. The dread and angst that some display doesn’t come across as genuine. Like the OP I think maybe a lot of people think they should feel bad, so then maybe that’s why they feign distress over it?

MadisonAvenue · 08/09/2022 15:16

My cousin actually offered to take my son for his baby jabs to save me the upset! It hadn’t even crossed my mind that I may be upset - and sure enough, I wasn’t.

Blueeyedgirl21 · 08/09/2022 15:16

my Baby cried for about 30 secs, she cried worse when she’s in the car and hungry and we are stuck on a red light to be honest. Popped her dummy in and it was like she hadn’t even had them. Crying is a bit much. But she did have to have two blood tests in hospital before we were discharged when she was born and she was more distressed at that so it wasn’t too bad. My nephew was very premature and had to have so much medical intervention, my SIL says she rolls her eyes internally when people say the jabs are too traumatic - try having a 2lb baby on a ventilator!

Wifflywafflywoo · 08/09/2022 15:21

Felt absolutely nothing. Just did the 16 week ones yesterday and I laughed as she let out a really odd scream. She saw me laughing then burst out laughing herself bless her

Calphurnia88 · 08/09/2022 15:24

I found it hard to hear him scream like that (especially the 1st time) but I didn't cry. The nurse let me use a private room to BF him in after, which helped calm him.

The way I saw it was that it was for the greater good, and he was fine after about 5 mins. Even less the 2nd and 3rd time.

workinmums · 08/09/2022 15:25

I was upset the first time when he got 4 or 5 at a time!
After that I wasn't bothered

blaydon · 08/09/2022 15:25

Haha OP I didn’t feel terrible either, and all my NCT friends said they cried, and they’re none of them overly soppy or weepy. I think it must have been their hormones, but I wasn’t remotely bothered and DC calmed down quickly!

FarFromHome2 · 08/09/2022 15:28

Crying when your baby is vaccinated is pretty much the same as screaming when you go into the Sistene chapel; performative bollocks.

girlmom21 · 08/09/2022 15:30

I'm the same as you. It's a dick move. If your baby's in distress they need you to distract them from that.

We did the one year jabs last week. LO needed me smiling and laughing and playing and she got over it really quickly.

Marvellousmadness · 08/09/2022 15:31

Bahahaha to cry when the baby gets a little jab? That is bizarre. They should get their head checked 😅

A baby gets a jab
It cries. And then its fine.
Most of the time the babys cry mostly because they feel how tense the parents are.

secretllama · 08/09/2022 15:32

Testina · 08/09/2022 15:08

You’re the normal one. The others are attention seeking idiots!

🤣 why would someone want attention for crying when their baby is upset? This is such a weird thing to say. I got teary taking mine for their jabs, I couldn't help it. Sorry if that makes me attention seeking 🙄

But on the flipside I sent my youngest away to his grandparents overnight at 3 months old and had the best night out with friends...no pining, no worrying... whereas many others have pointed out they could never do that. So everyone has differences in what theyre comfortable with. About to do the same with baby 2 and it doesnt affect me at all in the way others say it does to them.

IceStationZebra · 08/09/2022 15:32

I was a bit peturbed because I’d never heard my DS make a scream like it, but I wasn’t upset.

bloodywhitecat · 08/09/2022 15:33

I didn't cry at vaccines nor when they started or even left school. I did get a lump in my throat when they left home though.

takingmytimeonmyride · 08/09/2022 15:34

I was fine when my PFB had his jabs, he was nice an calm, never made a fuss. I was fine when numbers 3,4 & 5 had theirs as they hardly made a sound. And I have no problem with injections or needles myself.

DS2 though was absolutely hysterical after his, screaming and screaming, for quite a while. Which upset me as I could nothing to calm him, so I ended up crying and the nurses comforted me. He honestly did sound like he was being murdered, poor baby (he's 20 now, and not at all bothered by needles)

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