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AIBU?

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... to not cry or be at all upset at baby jabs?

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Hugasauras · 08/09/2022 15:02

Wondering if I have a heart of stone or am dead inside!

I always see posts on here, and some of my friends have said the same, that they cried or were in a state for their baby's jabs, one person I know said they wanted to hit the nurse(!), and they've honestly never bothered me at all We've just gone, baby has screamed for like 30 seconds and then we've gone home. Am I a sociopath?! Or is anyone else a callous cow?

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FreezyFreezy · 08/09/2022 15:34

I sometimes wonder if I'm made of stone. I didn't cry at my dc having their jabs, starting school, going on overnight school trips, leaving primary, school performances etc.

NCHammer2022 · 08/09/2022 15:35

They didn’t really upset me either. Not pleasant, obviously, but I’ve never had an injection myself that was more than a fleeting pinching feeling so it wouldn’t be any different for a baby, and they’re so necessary. DD was never particularly phased by them either expect for an initial short cry out. Maybe having a heart of stone myself made me more able to keep her calm and relaxed and less of an ordeal for her.

Angelicapickles1 · 08/09/2022 15:39

Nope totally the same. I remember the nurse noting how calm I was amd I just replied that I knew it was for their health so even though its not nice to see them cry I know it's temporary

Rinatinabina · 08/09/2022 15:40

I winced slightly when the giant ass needles (may be just the country I live in) went in. DD didn’t notice then after about 2 minutes burst into tears. I think it’s on you to keep calm. But no I didn’t get upset, just concerned that Dd was sore.

IHateWasps · 08/09/2022 15:40

I’ve never had an injection myself that was more than a fleeting pinching feeling so it wouldn’t be any different for a baby,

Lucky you. Mine are usually rather painful. It doesn't stop me from getting them though.

MatildaJayne · 08/09/2022 15:42

I did get a bit upset when my 3 day old baby had to have a blood test, but I blame the hormones!

Anamechangeisasgoodasarest · 08/09/2022 15:42

When my son had his first jabs, the GP said "Oh, I hate injecting babies, you're a nurse, would you like to do it?"

I politely declined 😄

Podgywodge · 08/09/2022 15:44

Yeah same, it's all for baby's own good in the end.

mondaytosunday · 08/09/2022 15:44

The nurses my kids got jabs in were great snd I don't recall much crying. More distressing was when my daughter was born she needed blood sugar readings repeatedly and they would prick her heel over and over. I was upset at that, but also that she was unwell and I had just given birth so emotions were running high.
We all get them and know how much they hurt (not much at all) so to get so upset about it seems OTT.

Dinneronmybfpillow · 08/09/2022 15:48

Callous cow here too. Never cried at vaccinations. Mine cried out but was all over in less than a minute and they were comforted throughout/fed immediately after and stopped crying almost immediately.

Tbh mine scream much more at being in the car, and that I do struggle with but only because I can't comfort them. That's pretty horrible. Plus I have twins, so I'm often unable to comfort them as well as I'd like if they're both crying at the same time. So that's pretty shit every day tbh 🤷🏽‍♀️

mmmflakycrust81 · 08/09/2022 15:50

No I didnt get upset - and I was a very anxious mum - I was more focused on settling her as quickly as I could.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 08/09/2022 16:00

and actually it was after the first jabs that I my baby had her first long nap- was blissful

Flossiemoss · 08/09/2022 16:02

Think you’re quite reasonable - all those who get hysterical and cry - well it’s not helping their baby who actually does have the right to be distressed. I actually think they are quite selfish parents.

Strokethefurrywall · 08/09/2022 16:05

I remember bawling my eyes out when my 4 hour old was having his heel pricks done in the hospital and they couldn't get get enough blood out and had to do it numerous times.
He was screaming, I was a sobbing hormonal mess and my husband had no idea who to soothe more, the baby or me! The poor RN kept apologizing to me as I was bawling so much.
I was so upset by it that I made DH stay in the room with him for his 1 week jabs so I didn't have to hear him cry!

After the hormones subsided, I was absolutely fine and didn't upset me unduly for all the rest of the jabs.

HangOnToYourself · 08/09/2022 16:06

I get upset when my cat has vaccinations, let alone my child 😂 I'm soft though

RampantIvy · 08/09/2022 16:06

YANBU. After having nearly lost DD when she was just a few weeks old - major surgery, a spell in ICU, loads of wires attached to her and a cannula, a vaccination jab was the least of my worries. I was glad that she was well enough to have a vaccination.

I was also "hard hearted" in that I didn't sob all summer at the thought of DD starting university.

I love DD to bits, but I am not a clingy mother.

Smartiepants79 · 08/09/2022 16:06

Have no idea why the adult would be crying?? Did they get jabbed too?? And wanting to hit a health care professional for doing something that you asked them to and that my protect your baby from life threatening disease?? 😲
vague anxiety is the about the most I can accept in the circumstances.

FindingMeno · 08/09/2022 16:08

Didn't cross my mind.
I don't think my dc's made a big fuss either though.

Ilovelindor · 08/09/2022 16:09

Its never bothered me too much. Although I remember when one of my kids needed 3 at once. They're terrified wee face when they saw the third one coming did make me feel bad. For all of 5 seconds.

It's not nice for them but a necessary evil. I hate injections and was like a pin cushion during pregnancy. So what comes around goes around.

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Hugasauras · 08/09/2022 16:10

I'm glad it's not just me! It was the topic of discussion at a baby class I was at today with 12wo DD2 and pretty much everyone else said they had cried or been very upset at the jabs or had to bring their husbands with them as they couldn't cope with it solo and I just kind of nodded along bemusedly 🤷‍♀️

Mind you, I did cry on DD1's first day of nursery - not in front of her but on the way home because I could still hear her crying as I walked up the road. So maybe I'm a bit of a softie after all!

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Justcashnosweets · 08/09/2022 16:11

I'm the same. I didn't cry at all when dd had her immunisations.

Weirdlynormal · 08/09/2022 16:11

My DD daughter didn’t cry either and she was getting jabbed. ‘Ard as nails.

Hesleepswiththefishes · 08/09/2022 16:12

You are not a cow

i have always had. Little twinge of awww but these things are for there benefit and I have always been with the philosophy of a cuddle and wipe the tears and move on

i have never gone to pieces

one child had had several surgeries and I did go to pieces with dh but sympathy was given to child with warm live and care but I didn’t lose the plot

Hesleepswiththefishes · 08/09/2022 16:14

There is a difference with ‘going to pieces’ in privacy

megletthesecond · 08/09/2022 16:22

Same here. I wasn't at all upset.
Quick cuddle and back in their sling afterwards and off we went.

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