... to not cry or be at all upset at baby jabs?

[Hugasauras]

Wondering if I have a heart of stone or am dead inside!

I always see posts on here, and some of my friends have said the same, that they cried or were in a state for their baby's jabs, one person I know said they wanted to hit the nurse(!), and they've honestly never bothered me at all We've just gone, baby has screamed for like 30 seconds and then we've gone home. Am I a sociopath?! Or is anyone else a callous cow?

Oh and I do grimace inside when mums say things like “ohhh the nasty nurse made you cry.”

I know they’re transferring their guilt onto me but I want to shout “I’m not nasty, I’m just doing my job!”

Yes, I'm definitely getting that feeling. All the smug comments about how they didn't cry and how parents that cry are attention seeking.

When I went intomDS2's baby jabs (and I was just his first set of baby jabs I got upset at) I was expecting a calm experience like my first (and subsequent children) I was expecting him to scream like I've was being tortured. So I did get upset. Not because I'm attention seeking, or think I'm a better parent, just because it was a truly distressing experience (and thinking back it was probably a culmination of stress and grief from a house move and my brother dying)

Also the same! I didn't burst into floods of tears when my daughter started reception this morning, or even shed a tear. Clearly have a heart of stone!

I was worse with the pre-school boosters. Dd1 was a funny old baby were cuddling her actually made her worse, so I used to have to buddle her crying into the pushchair, where she would stick her thumb in and calm down.

This. Never heard of people being upset. I couldn't watch tounge tie being cut but the jabs were not a big deal. Last one age 16 weeks she didn't even cry.

I'm stone hearted with things like that!

So much weird ‘I’m hard as nails, me’ smugness

I give jabs, less than 1 in 10 mums get upset/cry (at least in front of me). Hope that reassures you!

I’ve been the same with both babies. A simple ‘sorry bubba sorry’ does tbe jobto soothe them. I’ve never felt like crying or getting emotional.

Saying that though, I think all my emotion went on DS whilst in NICU. Seizures, him crying when they put the cannula in etc. In a way, I think immunisations were somewhat pleasant because they were normal thing😂

I absolutely dread my babies' jabs. I find it so difficult emotionally and sometimes cry. I just hate it (but obviously just do it because I know it's essential and am grateful the jabs are available to protect babies).

No, I haven't had an easy life. The first 23 years of my life were hell and I've suffered horrendous abuse. No, I'm not an 'attention seeking idiot'. I cry involuntarily and actually hate the crying and always try to hide it because it just makes me feel stupid! I dislike any attention it brings. No, I don't think i'm better than the parents who are fine with it! I just hate seeing my children vaccinated, there is no rhyme or reason to it! We're all different. The criers are no better or worse than the non-criers.

My baby went unresponsive for five minutes after hers. Took 4 people to revive her. Most traumatic day of my life. Yes I cried.

No, just felt madly grateful that we have access to vaccinations and that children here don't die from those horrific illnesses, unlike many parts of the world. I actually made a donation to help children get vaccinations where they aren't free.

Neither of my babies even cared. They watched it go in.

And neither did I. I don't go for in that performative weeping. They'll do it on the first day of school as well. Their whole identity is 'motherhood martyrdom '.

I was never upset either.

And like another pp I didn’t cry the first day of school or when she left home to go to college. I’m not like that.

I was the same. I'm a sole mum of twins, so was more worried about the practicalities of getting two babies up the stairs to the doctor's surgery.
I was just matter of fact - quick jab, cry for a few seconds, cuddle, swop baby for the second one to get the jab.
I hear some women can't do it, and have to get their husbands to take the baby for the jab. I always wonder how they'd cope if they were sole parents.

(I probably will cry on their first day of school though, since I'm so used to having them close to me - I work from home with them minded by their nanny).

Yeah this thread has become a bit sneering.

Some people cry (I didn't), some people don't. Neither earns you a medal but belittling someone's instinctive emotional reaction to seeing their baby in pain - as for a lot of mums this might be the first time they do - by labelling them 'hysterical' or 'attention seeking' is a little mean spirited.

Yeah, me neither. Not upset or guilty about going back to work either, or emotional when they left or started schools; clearly I don't love my kids. 😛

Not meant as a snark at parents who do feel emotional about it - it's interesting how differently people do react to this stuff!

I find it interesting too, we spoke about it in our NCT group since our babies are a similar age. It was a fairly even split, although all of us found it unpleasant.

It sounds like your reaction is normal! Why get upset about something that could save their life, be grateful.

I felt winded and glazed over like everything was happening to someone else. Totally involuntary reaction. Just got on with it but my DH clocked how I was for the rest of the day and announced he was doing it when we had more babies. So I must have looked very odd for him to take time out of the working day and keep remembering. I wouldn't choose to be like that or give it a little of airtime, it's just a reaction.

And I'm hugely grateful for vaccines. Nothing to do with that. If I was a sole parent I'd do it.

This. Some really nasty comments on this thread.

I saw this title and my jaw dropped, it hadn't occurred to me that someone WOULDN'T find it traumatic, I was an absolute state! Maybe I'm "pathetic and attention seeking" but I had never seen him cry like that and it was really hard seeing him experience pain for the first time.