... to not cry or be at all upset at baby jabs?

[Hugasauras]

Wondering if I have a heart of stone or am dead inside!

I always see posts on here, and some of my friends have said the same, that they cried or were in a state for their baby's jabs, one person I know said they wanted to hit the nurse(!), and they've honestly never bothered me at all We've just gone, baby has screamed for like 30 seconds and then we've gone home. Am I a sociopath?! Or is anyone else a callous cow?

I felt upset but DD was a NICU baby and had already been through lots and lots of nasty medical procedures by that point. Just couldn’t bear the thought of any more needles going in to her by that point! She could have cared less as needles didn’t bother her at all by then, poor thing.

Another callous cow here.

I was told by a phlebotomist who took a blood sample from one of my small children that the reason my child was so calm about it was because I was calm and the baby was picking up on that.

Don't know if it's true but I assume she was going by her own experience when taking blood and this is what she'd observed.

Whatever, my children where always okay with jabs. Obviously, they'd cry a bit when they were small but as they got older it was always very easy.

Well, I do think you lack empathy for your own baby. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Is that what you wanted to hear? Or just to be reassured that it's normal?

Yanbu. I had varying degrees of feeling awkward during jabs. The heel prick when she was tiny was the most emotional for me, then they became easier. Maybe it was hormones or the fact that as dd became bigger I was less "protective" . I always thought that these were rather silly and useless emotions to have and an overreaction to a small prick that will not be remembered and willprotect her from far worse suffering. Your attitude seems entirely sensible and normal, I would not think you were uncaring in any way.

I distracted mine by tapping them on the bridge of the nose, they didn't notice most of them. One time the nurse was impressed and I ruined it by saying I did it to the dog when he was getting his vaccines at the vet as well.
It didn't go down very well

Yes I was completely fine and i’m the sort of person that picks and chooses which vaccines to give my child, very much into gentle parenting etc. Was also fine when baby had to have a small medical procedure done, I knew they were in good hands and it needed to be done. Whereas other women told me they cried and couldn’t bear it, I didn’t even ask them, it didn’t make me second guess my love for my dc or my role as a mother but I did choose not to share how little I ‘cared’ as i felt I’d get judged by them. So I just smiled and stayed silent. Sometimes I don’t get the need to go on and on about horrific it was. I feel like saying well don’t get it done next time if it’s sooo bad 🙄

I didn't cry or get upset when either of my DC had their jabs. They got upset but it's over quickly and it's for their benefit ultimately, so a necessary thing. My DH struggles to take them for jabs as he does get upset by it.

How is it attention seeking or performative? Someone has a different reaction to you, doesn't make it wrong, or purely for attention or anything similar.

Threads like this are so depressing, the nasty sneering tone towards any parent they see as lesser than themselves for being emotional about something

No I think your normal! I felt bad for my baby but held them, comforted them until they calmed down and got on with my day.

Was the same for me.

Had been warned that DS would scream like I'd never heard before. Braced myself. He cried the way he was crying every night for over an hour, but for less than a minute then calmed down.

My MIL warned me how upsetting it was when DC have their vaccines. SIL had to take MIL with her and leave the room because it was so "traumatising"🙄.

Both DP and I went and there were no issues at all. Despite DC's age, we explained what was happening and gave him a cuddle when it was all done. He did cry but stopped before we'd put him back in his pram.

I also took him with me when I had my flu jab as I want to normalise having vaccines. I do think a lot of it is down to how the parents react. We're generally very calm and so is DC unlike MIL / SIL who over react to everything (MIL was unhappy as DC had a babygrow with spiders on it, just one of her many phobias).

Same. It needs to be done. I don't get all the angst or emotion.