... to not cry or be at all upset at baby jabs?

[Hugasauras]

Wondering if I have a heart of stone or am dead inside!

I always see posts on here, and some of my friends have said the same, that they cried or were in a state for their baby's jabs, one person I know said they wanted to hit the nurse(!), and they've honestly never bothered me at all We've just gone, baby has screamed for like 30 seconds and then we've gone home. Am I a sociopath?! Or is anyone else a callous cow?

Same here.

I also haven't felt a shred of so-called "mum guilt", ever.

Some people make a huge deal out of stuff.

The jabs were fine. The aftermath is DS looking me in the eyes while he screams for hours and that absolutely kills me.

Jabs were fine. The only thing that upset me the most was the heel test they did to check vitamin K levels (if I remember rightly - it was over 20 years ago).

The babies were only a day old and with my oldest the midwife didn't get enough blood initially so had to go back for a second dig.

Never heard of anybody being upset by jabs. YADNBU.

Oh and when I say it upset me, it did, but I didn't cry. Just felt incredibly guilty that I was allowing someone to stick needles in my newborn.

Same here. The only way for DD to be protected was to have the jabs so why cry about it?

I agree, can’t see the need for sadness or upset.

I never got what all the fuss was about when DC had theirs.
Likewise "firsts". All very nice, but I realised that nobody else cares.

It's worse when they're age 2 and over and know what is happening. And you have to hold and immobilise a struggling toddler. I usually have a lollipop to hand to pop in the mouth immediately afterwards.

I didn't have a problem with the baby jabs since there was no anticipation. A moment of discomfort, a cuddle and all done. Much better than a full-on wrestling match in the nurse's room.

Nah just performative parenting

This is such a horrible thread. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with not feeling upset by your baby’s jabs. But there’s also nothing wrong with being upset too. Some mothers are really struggling at those first jabs, hormones, anxiety, pnd, just overwhelming feelings of protectiveness. It does not make them selfish, attention seeking, hysterical, performative or all the other nasty bullshit posted on here.

I was the same as you op. I was fine and never thought to be upset about it. I was also perfectly ok when my children on their first day at school. They need their parents to be calm and supportive as it's the babies and children who need to be comforted and encouraged.

Didn't bother me something which needs to be done and no point getting emotional about it.

Didn’t bother me. He cried briefly, but he cried A LOT as a baby anyway. I have him big cuddles during and after. Worth it for the immunity.

You know, I forgot about vitamin K. Both mine had vitamin K injections about an hour after birth.

The heel prick tests are horrible. I don't remember DD2 having hers.

Jabs I think the fact your child isn't sick means you can (hormones permitting) keep in your head this is for their benefit and they wont remember it. Keep calm and comfort them.

But when I was holding my youngest down for over 45 minutes as doctors tried several times to get a line in to a very ill dehydrated 3 week old and spinal tap - yep the tears flowed then. I was a hormonal mess and petrified - medical staff were amazing but I admit I did feel embarrassed afterwards.

@Goldbar when my dbro had his toddler jabs he wriggled so much he twatted his head off a table and was momentarily stunned - my mum said ‘jab him now!’ whilst he was in his stunned state 🤣 They did get him an ice pack for his head after. Mum is a nurse and very matter of fact

My NCT friends are the same... in addition, they'll all go straight home and won't leave the house afterwards, 'just in case' of a reaction... (I just carry on as usual but pack calpol in the changing bag and am prepared to be flexible and go home if I need to).

Me neither, never gave them a thought. I remember chatting to the Nurse about Big Brother that was on at the time (one of the early seasons). In fact DD barely whimpered as she didn’t pick up any stress from me. That or she’s hard as nails.
I was the same with the first day of School, I had a dentist appointment I was more worried about.

My children are my entire life, I love them with everything I have, but no, the jab thing didn't bother me at all with either of mine - it's for their own good, isn't it?

I don't get emotional about first days of school either. Sometimes I do feel a bit like a robot!

I thought I'd be fine with it genuinely I did. But no floods of tears.

I’m not happy that she’s going to be upset but at the same time it never occurred to me to cry. It’s a vaccination. I stick her on the boob and she stops instantly.

I did cry when they did a lumbar puncture on her when she was 8 weeks old but that was more the anguish at thinking that I could possibly lose my precious DD because the silly nurse declared she really was a very sick little baby and I thought she was just having a reaction to her vaccines. Result - she was having a reaction to her vaccines.

I agree. I am a volunteer steward at a covid vaccination centre and some parents come in with their children holding on to them and telling them to 'Be brave!'. The families that just breeze through in a matter of fact way have an easier time - all the fuss just prolongs the agony.

Didn't bother me at all and I've never known anyone say they did.

The nurse at our GP has pissed me off every time as she makes such a big deal about it. Saying how she hates seeing them in pain and how hard it must be for the parents. I nearly complained about her once. I'm sure she thinks she's being nice but I can see her making someone wavering on having them at all change their mind and she ought to just crack on.

I wasn't upset when DS had his first jabs. I did get upset a few hours later when he woke up and started crying and wailing and didn't stop for three hours unless I was holding him and walking around. Swelling around the injection site was almost at the point where medical attention is suggested.

Calpol, cuddles and letting him stare at the TV while the cricket was on worked eventually.

Second lot of jabs I was apprehensive, but we didn't have a repeat.

Very upset and distressed was for when DS had a non-blanching rash and I had to hold him still while the Doctor tried to get an IV line in - they had to try both legs and an arm before succeeding.