DH is reasonably helpful. I wouldn't say its 5050 but he does make an effort most of the time and more lately because he's seen how stressed I am at work. He took our 2 young DC away for 2 days to leave me home alone for 2 nights. He takes them out without me. But he's never cleaned a loo in his life. Swings and roundabouts I guess
Anyway every Friday night he plays computer games with his mates. He also plays games at various points...like if the kids have a nap he'll jump on the computer
But on Friday night he plays until 3am or later. He does try to help the next day but he's obviously a bit dazed. Both our kids are waking in the night at the mo so I'm dealing with that while he games on Friday.
I just have the ick. Listening to him talking about shooting this or that over his headset at 2am. Bleugh. He's 44.
He says it's his one thing. He doesn't go out drinking anymore. It doesn't stop him doing any childcare or anything. I just find it really unattractive.
AIBU?
AIBU?
To lose respect over video games?
IdiotMom · 03/09/2022 07:51
Am I being unreasonable?
299 votes. Final results.
POLLDarkness22 · 03/09/2022 08:29
Ffs of course fucking hobbies. Most don't involve disappearing into an fake land til 3am and absolving yourself of adult responsibilities. You don't have to agree with me.
Darkness22 · 03/09/2022 08:12
I cannot see how any well rounded functioning adult with a job, a home, a partner and children has time to play video games.
BadNomad · 03/09/2022 10:29
Yes! Children should be up chimneys and men should be down coalmines! Not sitting at home entertaining themselves in their spare time.
I get fat sitting watching Netflix.
Bestcatmum · 03/09/2022 10:24
I think computer games are the bane of modern life. i wish I had never bought one for DS when he still lived at home.
People just sit in front of them living in a fantasy world achieving nothing and getting fat.Fucking waste of a life.
When my grandfather was your husbands age he was always busy fixing up the house, growing vegetables for the family, keeping bees, chopping wood and being 100% involved in raising his family, not sitting in front of a screen.
IdiotMom · 03/09/2022 08:43
So he has a lie in this morning and I have one on Sunday.
Last night I was up with the baby at 2am resettling him and could hear DH saying things like "fucking kill that nube" (I don't know what it means either)
I just felt like I could hear a teenage son rather than my husband. He has a whole different tone and language on there. He loves it. LOVES IT. He's visibly excited on Friday late afternoon
I don't have any hobbies. I work full time and have a baby and toddler. Even seeing my friends feels like an effort these days. But that's on me. I find time to go on MN sometimes and watch terrible TV but I'm not sure those count as hobbies that actually benefit you!
IdiotMom · 03/09/2022 11:13
@BadNomad Not when there are demons and zombies to kill.
Hawkins001 · 03/09/2022 13:27
Call of duty by any chance ?
IdiotMom · 03/09/2022 11:13
@BadNomad Not when there are demons and zombies to kill.
KassandraOfSparta · 03/09/2022 13:30
Clearly not, given that the series is based on real-world warfare scenarios. Which you'd know, if you weren't just making stereotyped assumptions.
Hawkins001 · 03/09/2022 13:27
Call of duty by any chance ?
IdiotMom · 03/09/2022 11:13
@BadNomad Not when there are demons and zombies to kill.
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