Dd bullied for not having a dad

[Stephthegreat]

My dd had her first day in Year 5 today, she had problems with two of the girls in her class all through year 4 (being excluded, bullied for all kinds of silly reasons like her hair wasn’t nice, etc.). I’m proud she has come through that and I hoped the problems would stop in Year 5 (teachers had tried to resolve in Year 4).

my dh passed away in June and I’ve been trying to keep things as normal and positive for the dcs. Today dd came home and burst into tears saying that she couldn’t join the ‘girl group’ because the girls said it’s only for people with dads. She said she wasn’t allowed to join in because of this.

Im fuming and heartbroken for my dd. AIBU to speak to the teacher tomorrow about this? One of the girls is very mean. There are only 6 girls in the class which makes it worse.

Wow that is the lowest of the low.
Definitely speak to teacher asap.

I am so sorry your daughter had to deal with that, it’s absolutely vile.

Have you spoken to the parents of the girls? I would absolutely want to know if my children said something so hurtful.

Please go back to the school tomorrow, ask for their bullying policy, take it to the governors, whatever you need to do to get this dealt with.

Im sorry for your loss x

No yanbu. I would go apeshit.

Absolutely speak to the school about this tomorrow.

I'd speak to the tea her immediately that's appalling behaviour from those girls.

God that is awful! Yes speak to the teachers and speak to the parents! Nasty girls!!

So sorry for your loss. What a bunch of little bitches! Do not hesitate to spk with the school about this, call them in the morning. I would want their parents to be called and know what horrible little girls they have. I'd be mortified and so disappointed if any of my children said anything like to another child.

That’s appalling, I am so sorry for your DD

given you’ve raised the bullying before id go straight to the headmistress to have this addressed ASAP

I would absolutely speak to the Teacher & I would make it clear that whoever said this to you DD needs a firm telling off & a lesson in empathy & anti-bullying. Hopefully the Teacher contacts her parents too.

absolutely vile & I hate bullying & being unkind. What a total rotter.

your poor DD. Losing her Dad then having to put up with horrible, cruel kids.

This is absolutely heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for you and your girl that this has happened x

Definitely speak to the teacher tomorrow. Are school supporting your DC through their bereavement (I am so sorry for your loss)

Don't go directly to parents, that very rarely goes well.

Also don’t go to governors yet, there is a process to follow

What awful behaviour from your DD's classmates. Definitely complain. By year 5 the girls are old enough to know that this is bullying and completely unacceptable.

actually yes, as stated above - go straight to the Head.

I have never properly shouted at my DD but if she did something like this, I would be so incredibly upset & cross.

The school don’t seem to be able to deal with bullying. I had to fight to be heard last year.

Sorry for your loss OP❤💐

What evil little shits. School needs to be made aware of that ASAP.

Hopefully the teachers are able to encourage some other, more nicer children to play with your DD.

Parents don't like to.move schools but you should consider it. With only a small pool of girls and no action from the school your DD is in a tricky spot. I've moved a child of mine for less.

I would send a blistering email and if I got nothing decent back start viewing new schools.

Is it a new teacher this year?

Is there another school, always hard if there is only a small pool of girls to be friends with, especially if there is a ringleader

Jeez, that is nasty! It's bullying in the worst way, and I think whilst you should speak to the teacher, this also requires something in writing to the head. The school should deal with this very firmly. There is a bullying policy, and it will be worthwhile you reading this so that you know what the procedures are.
Your poor DD.

Teacher here and I’ve just done my safeguarding training today. Bullying comes under child-on-child abuse (and it is bullying, especially if she’s had issues with the same students in the past) and is a safeguarding issue. Definitely contact school and ask what their policy is, and how they will support your daughter.

It’s very rare I comment you must speak to the teacher, but you really must. This needs nipping in the bud, the girls need pulling up on this, it’s nasty, unacceptable behaviour and very upsetting for your Daughter.They are old enough to know better.

That awful!!! your poor daughter.
I would talk to the teachers and if the school isn’t doing enough I would become a pain in their arse (in a polite way).

can you talk to the other childrens parents or do you not think they’d be receptive. I’d be so angry if my child said something like this to another child.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

YADNBU to speak to school. You should report to the teacher immediately, and if you are not happy with the response go to the head.

Your daughter's pastoral care should be a priority for the school.

Please don't speak to the other parents. This could get incredibly emotive for you and may be best emotionally to distance yourself from that side. If their daughters are that horrible to your daughter after her loss here is a chance the parents are not nice people either so for your mental health I'd steer clear of them and focus on getting a response from school.

Kids can be vile, and I am so sorry your daughter is going through this.

You sound like an incredible parent x

This sounds awful OP, I would really consider moving schools if the school don't take your complaint seriously.

Echo about speaking to the class teacher. However, back this up in an email to the head so you have the start of a paper trail.

So sorry this has happened. Some children are just down right vile.

I can't believe you are asking if yabu.
Your poor dd - go straight to headteacher.
Sorry for your recent loss x