Had my Limit on the Weird Neighbours

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I have had a couple of Threads on here about the issues I have with some neighbours. On both threads over 80% said I was not being unreasonable. They have really annoyed me with their carry on now. I am trying to think of a way of getting an end to this carry.
I have spoken to Police and Social Work. I am disabled and as such that is a Protected Characteristic. It is supposedly illegal to treat me badly. This is also a recorded diary of the conduct by official parties. The Management Company are also aware.
The last suggestion from the Police was that I should tell my relatives. At first I thought this was not an idea to be considered but as this constant harassment continues I am reconsidering that option. I will not be hanging around if that is the only viable option
I think that there is possibility that this is a mental health issue causing their conduct however that may be me being too kind to bad people. They might be just nasty all the way through. I am now thinking of contacting the local GP Surgeries to try to have them investigate. I am very worried and scared living with the uncertainty of what they are going to do next.
I feel that I am about to be unable to stay in my house safely and without fear. They are totally irrational.
Would writing to the GP be a good option ?

www.disabilityrightsuk.org/how-we-can-help/advice-and-information/disability-hate-crime

Have a look at the above link. Harassment is something the police should be able to deal with. If you aren’t getting any help then go further up the chain and make a complaint and ask your concerns to be taken more seriously. Going to a GP isn’t going to help. They certainly won’t be able to diagnose a health problem in the other party and, even if they did, they wouldn’t be able to tell you. They would log your concerns and how it impacts your health but you really want it to stop. If you don’t get anywhere with the police then you can contact your MP who will talk to the police on your behalf and maybe get some resolution.

I don’t understand the family thing at all. Are they suggestion you tell your family to get more support?

The man was part of a group of workmen who were working on my house, but they said nothing to the man or the men. They just have a go at me especially when I am alone. They could not take on a man

A GP would only do that if they themselves went to see their own GP, who would not then discuss it with you anyway because....you know.....confidentiality and GDPR rules. You could go and see your GP and maybe ask if their behaviour is an indication of any sort of mental disability, but why would you wastes the GPs time when they could be seeing actual ill patients. Just listen to the police and take on their advice.

Even if you knew who their GP was, the GP could not discuss other patients with you.

What did the police actually suggest to you?

Ok, I've quickly skimmed through that link. YANBU but you've told the police, I'd keep reporting anything they do that could be considered harassment and I'd also consider telling your family even though you'd rather not

I would not be asking the GP to discuss anything with me. What I would have hoped for is that the GP listens/reads and from their own knowledge think if what I said was likely to be true.

It could either be keep looking for some person or organisation who could deal with this or take police advice and let the world go to hell in a handcart. I am very different from my relatives. I am quiet and do not get involved in much.

Why are you worried about telling your relatives?

The police are the people or organisation who could deal with this.

@WhenISnappedAndFarted thank you, you have understood. It is harassment but if it is a mental condition they may not have the ability to understand that they must stop their carry on. I may have no option but to tell the family.

Looking at your previous posts, your neighbours seem like a pain in the arse who get stroppy about stuff like communal bins, builders’ waste, parking spaces and people slamming doors. They’re obviously dickheads but it doesn’t sound like a police matter to me. I understand why you’re upset by it and these people are obviously dickheads but your fear of them seems very disproportionate to be honest.

The fact that you’re disabled is irrelevant to this situation. Being disabled does not make it illegal for people to shout at you about bins and door slamming because that in itself is neither discriminatory nor a hate crime. It isn’t illegal for people to ‘treat you badly’ in general.

And no, of course you shouldn’t write to your GP. It’s got absolutely nothing to do with your doctor.

It sounds like your relatives would be willing to stick up for you? If the police are not willing to deal with this then that would be the route to go down surely? I'm still not sure what you would expect a GP to do? They are for health issues?

You need to go back to the police. Report every incidence of harassment and tell them that the suggested action of talking to family is not going to help. Ask for more details of what the police intend to do and keep bothering them until they give a formal response if necessary.

The GP cannot help you in the slightest here. If someone is intimidating and threatening you then it is the police you need.

I don't think the police expect you to get your relatives to fight your corner OP. I think they think you need support from your relatives.

OP, I don’t think you understand what a GP’s job is.

A GP is there to diagnose and treat illnesses in their own patients. They do not respond to reports about other people and ‘investigate’ and neither will they be able to give you any opinion whatsoever on whether your neighbour’s behaviour indicates mental illness - you can’t go to GP and say “I know someone who behaves like this - can you tell me what illnesses they might have?” They absolutely cannot do that for you and it would be unethical if they did.

It appears that your own family would be angry with your neighbours if they knew how your neighbours were treating you. To be honest, it sounds like that would be a good thing. At the moment, you don’t want your neighbours to treat you badly - but you also don’t want anyone to stand up to them, which is probably the only thing that will stop them. Think of it like the school playground. When a bigger kid comes along and tells a bully to leave the little kids alone, the bully gets scared. Bullies are cowards.

If your relatives are rather intimidating people, would it not be a good thing if one or two of them went to see Mr and Mrs Weird, and warned them calmly to leave you alone?

I wanted to be able to cope without my family. They maybe over compensating but I want to stand on my own two feet. They are quite protective but that does not involve arm patting and saying there, there, there. They can be loud, sweary and even worse. Police should have dealt with it. The GP was a thought but I did not know how good a thought it was. Obviously it is not a good thought. So I will consider if I really want the family involved, deal with them myself or just allow myself to be forced to move out my house. All the neighbours seem to be under the control of these people. I am trying to get some independent life, Seems I am not capable/tough enough

I absolutely hate when MNers tell a poster to just move like it’s so easy but I am going to be a hypocrite and say the same thing.

I would honestly try and move because I don’t think you’ll ever be happy here.

For now I would definitely speak to family members and explain what’s going on.

Also log everything.

The gp can’t help you here but if there are any concerns then log it with the police.

Seems I am not capable/tough enough

It’s not about not being capable or tough enough it’s about having support which we ALL need.

It also sounds like there’s only 1 of you and 2 or more of them so it’s not a fair playing field.

Why on Earth are you involving a GP? FGS. I mean, really?

You've spoken to the police and had very good advice on the other thread. Why are you posting again? Calm now and just ignore, ignore, ignore.

Your posting style is very full on: rambling and a bit incoherent a d repetitive- perhaps that's why folk aren't engaging as much as you would like.

And as others have said, your being disabled has nothing to do with this man's behaviour: he's not abused you for being disabled.

Are your family in the Mafia?

But if your relatives go round and tell the Weirds to leave you alone, and then you are left alone to enjoy your home, isn't that what you want?

I understand that you want to be able to manage this situation on your own, but sometimes we have to accept help, in order to get the outcomes we really want.

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How would you even know which GP Practice they are registered with?

I don't understand what you expect the police to do? From what you've written it sounds like your neighbours (you mentioned different people) had complained rudely to you about your old kitchen cabinets being left outside?

I assume as you are disabled that you are in council accommodation? Wouldn't it make more sense to contact the council about the problems you are having instead of the police? Being disabled is not a protected characteristic - that only apply in employment not in neighbourhood disputes.

Are your neighbours also council tenants or are they private owners? Are you in a block? How close in proximity are these neighbours to you?

Sorry, more details needed.