To ask how the hell you sleep through newborn noises?

[Greentartanbow01]

DC is 10 days old and in our room, they’re SO noisy in their crib throughout the night, making grunting, squealing, gurgling noises. There’s no reflux that we’re aware of, they’re burped well and kept upright for 20 mins after feeds. They make all these noises but everytime I jump up and look at them, they’re asleep!

I know they say you have to have them in your room for the first 6 months but honestly, I’m going to struggle as we’re just not getting any sleep!!

I wear foam ear plugs which seem to do FA at muffling the sounds. I’m terrified of SIDS so really want to keep them in our room for 6 months but it’s getting to the point of us being on our knees through sleep exhaustion and they don’t even cry through the night and only have 3 feeds from 10pm-7am which only last about 35-40 mins so we should easily be able to get some hours in but can’t because of these noises.

Is this normal? How did other people cope if so?

I think you are mad for wishing you weren't waking at just 10 days old . It is survival instinct and I wouldn't want to not be woken by nosies that matter. They will gradually make less noises.

You just get used to it

You'll get used to it and start to sleep through it more... having children made me much better at falling asleep and staying asleep through low-level noise. It was a necessary skill to learn 😂

Newborns are noisy. You do learn to drown them out a bit eventually but you'll also probably find that now you're a parent you will never sleep as deeply again.

I don’t expect to not wake at all, but I expect to wake to feed, change etc not be awake ALL night even though they’re asleep. How can anyone survive on no sleep at all night after night? If they were crying all night, fair enough, but little noises in their sleep when they’re fast asleep is just us losing sleep for no reason.

Try some white noise maybe? Spotify have a fan noise playlist. It can smooth over the sudden noises baby makes.
Newborn babies really don’t make any more noises than grown adults tho, this is because you’re on high alert naturally and it will settle down.

This is what it's like. This is why you turn into a zombie.

Can you split the night up and each have time in the spare room perhaps? Just to get a bit of sleep for a few nights. But honestly it will sort itself.

It does end.

I put ds in another room on day 3. It was one of the steps towards breastfeeding failing but there was probably a slight increase in dh overall sleep.

DD1 was sooo bad for this, she sounded like a little velociraptor! Never found anything that made it better or worse and I never really learned to sleep through it. Caved and moved her into her own room at 5 months and life was so much better.

DD2 now three weeks old and not nearly as bad, thank heavens.

I used silicone earplugs which are better. After three weeks he went into his own room with a video monitor and doors open (he was about 2m away from the end of our bed in reality). Yes it wasn't the advice but I was dangerously sleep deprived.

Not something everyone would be comfortable with but worked for us.

Is this your first? 14 days in with my third and I sleep like a log 😅

Me and DH had set hours where we were ’on duty’. The little dinosaur noises didn’t disturb me as much when I knew I wasn’t responsible for getting up. Could you try that?

My mum said the same, she tolerated one night then fired me into the spare room. It was the 1970's though so anything went!

I'm convinced sleeping solo from 24 hours old has made me never went to share a room let alone a bed with anyone.

I was about to say I was such a light sleeper when I had DD1, I'd be up for hours in the night and even watched TV etc. DD2 is 10 weeks now and I barely wake up even to feed her.

You eventually just become so tired you sleep through it lol. I have a ten week old and shes starting to make less weird baby animal noises and more gurgling / ‘chatting’ noises now which is more when she’s awake so it’s better

I remember my boy turned into a warthog at 1am every night and I’d lie awake thinking I love you but I hate you right now. It’s a distant memory now and he’s only 3 if that helps 😂

Oh and it does pass. You have to take things in shifts, sleep during the day, just get sleep where you can. Life with a newborn! It helps to dispense of day/night thinking for a while and just sleep when there are good opportunities.

Got a five week old and having same issue. Part of it is your alertness level, DH sleeps through it much better than me. Fan on for white noise helped. Silicone earplugs also much better than foam. And having DH sleep on the side of the bed next to the cot. When I’m really losing it I go to the spare room for a few hours and DH brings him to me for feeds. I think I’m slowly getting used to it.

You get used to it.

I know what you mean. Yes you expect sleepless nights with a newborn but the idea is to sleep when they do, so it's maddening when you can't because it's like sleeping in a farmyard.

I really struggled with this with both children. I'm really sensitive to noise, but weirdly it's only baby related. I can sleep through a thunderstorm, but a pixie could fart in the cot and I would be wide awake!

2 thing helped me. The first was switching sides of the bed with DH for the first couple of months. He can sleep through anything! I still got up with the baby the majority of the time, but it meant I could sleep between most night waking.

The other thing that helped was white noise. Not for the baby. For me! Don't buy any of the fancy machines, there's plenty on YouTube.

The good news is this doesn't last 6 months. Maybe about 8 weeks until their digestive systems adjust.

Oh and be prepared that when he does eventually shut up you will still wake up to check that he's still alive!

This reminds me of what my mum said, when I was a new parent in mid 1990. In those days it wasn’t normal advice to keep baby in room, baby went into nursery from day 5. But we had a new fangled sleep monitor which we left on next to us during the night. These were just sound , no video back then.
my mum said this monitor was not a good idea and that it would stop me sleeping properly. She said as long as bedroom doors were left open, any significant noises baby made I would hear and wake from, and I wouldn’t be disturbed by all other grunts and snuffles.

clearly, rates of cot death were a lot higher in 1960s when my mother raised us and had no monitor or sleeping in same room

but there again she wasn’t wrong - it can save a babies life but it is shite for parents sleep patterns, leaves parents exhausted, and in some cases stores up all sorts of sleep pattern issues for babies that can’t sleep without the noise and prescience of their parents.

I have to say that a few years down the line you'll probably read this post back and laugh that you thought a few sleepless nights were unbearable!

Babies keep you awake, for lots of reasons for weeks or even months. You have to get used to it. That's why so many parents are constantly shattered.

Congratulations btw, and good luck!