To ask how the hell you sleep through newborn noises?

[Greentartanbow01]

DC is 10 days old and in our room, they’re SO noisy in their crib throughout the night, making grunting, squealing, gurgling noises. There’s no reflux that we’re aware of, they’re burped well and kept upright for 20 mins after feeds. They make all these noises but everytime I jump up and look at them, they’re asleep!

I know they say you have to have them in your room for the first 6 months but honestly, I’m going to struggle as we’re just not getting any sleep!!

I wear foam ear plugs which seem to do FA at muffling the sounds. I’m terrified of SIDS so really want to keep them in our room for 6 months but it’s getting to the point of us being on our knees through sleep exhaustion and they don’t even cry through the night and only have 3 feeds from 10pm-7am which only last about 35-40 mins so we should easily be able to get some hours in but can’t because of these noises.

Is this normal? How did other people cope if so?

Exhaustion. In could have slept through in the corner of a night club (not that I was going anywhere exciting as that).

My newborn went in their crib onto the landing after a couple of nights! Still within a few feet of us but far away enough that the the constant noises didn't keep me awake. If you have trouble getting to sleep as I do , it's the only way.

Very true!

They get quieter and you get used to it.

I’m severely deaf. I have no hearing in my right ear, and only 30% in my left ear.

Nothing wakes me at night. Except when my baby cried.

My dh, who has no hearing problems, slept through.

That is how strong your parenting instinct is.

They are really noisy at that age but down lessen off over the next couple of months as they quieten down.

Sleep deprivation is not fun; I ended up with PPD partly due to not coping without sleep. I would say the most intense period of this is the first couple of months. I got so caught up in it, even once DD was sleeping better though I’d still lay there awake lol.

I moved the crib as far from me as I could whilst still in the room. I got some headphones which were comfy to sleep with and put music on, also then tried white noise and earplugs (please note I could absolutely still hear her when she cried out and needed attention!), sleep meditations…

Good luck, it does get better, and looking back it was just a short time (but feels endless when in the grips of it!!)

Earplugs, really good ones. I still woke up if DD was upset, but helped block out all the other sounds.

Baby monitors don’t reduce SIDS.

I get it, but your DH is also a parent! So much pressure put on mothers to be martyrs 😞

Unfortunately, DH can’t sleep through the noises either, he’s on high alert too.

I don’t expect to be getting 8 hours sleep a night FGS, I appreciate we’re going to be sleep deprived but that’s different to no sleep, for no real reason!

I’ll try white noise tonight, see if that helps!

You really do just get used to it, but we also put DS's bassinet at the foot of our bed instead of next to me and had white noise on because he was as noisy as a farm animal. It helped to dull all of the grunting and snuffling but didn't block out any actual waking or crying.

White noise! If you have one, the iPhone plays a brilliant rain noise that masks most noise but not actual baby wakes. Ps. You'll look back in a few months and laugh at the idea of being on your knees with tiredness after 10 days 🫠

It’s hard it really is but it’s normal. The SIDS risk is lower by them being in your room because your aware of all those little noises and altered to when they stop! Take it in turns with your partner to sleep in another room if you really are at breaking point. Cat naps during the day really can make a big difference.

My first baby was like this and he ended up going into his own room at 3 weeks old. On reflection I am really not sure that was a good thing to do (he slept very well only waking for feeds) but I got really really desperate. I remember posting on babycentre something very similar.

It worked out well though as I got so much sleep (as like I said he slept for hours even from newborn).

we had a Ewan the dream sheep for DD. It did nothing to help her sleep at all but I used to put it on so it drowned out her noises and sent me to sleep instead 🤣

You’re getting some harsh responses, hang in there. Honestly, the exhaustion gets you and you can sleep better.

Even when they stop sounding like an actual pig you wake up at every little noise, the first time you don’t get woken up by them in the night you will think they’re dead. Our daughter stopped being noisy by about five months (she has huge tonsils, so was noisy for longer), despite her now being a quiet sleeper all she has to do is move a bloody toe and we wake up.

You’ll soon be able to fall asleep quickly after waking up from snuffles and snorts.

Could you take turns to sleep elsewhere?

Our DD did this until she was about 12 weeks. We got a wedge pillow that helped. I found it impossible to sleep through

DS is 14 weeks tomorrow and I haven't learned to drown him out, even with silicone earplugs. DH and I do shifts so I spend half the night in the spare room. I can't wait till DS is six months and can sleep in his own room!

Ah my first was like this- we used to joke that she sounded like she was playing a little trumpet sometimes.
The weird newborn noises at night don't last that long from what I recall, though it is all a bit of a blur really. We moved my husband in to the spare room and he used to take the baby for a few hours at the end of the night/ early morning so I could get a few hours stuck together.
My second didn't do the weird noises at all really, so not everyone will understand what you're talking about. First is a bit of a snorer still, but not so as to disturb anyone.

Have very low expectations of what you will do during the day. I used to go to my favourite cafe and sit there for absolutely ages, just so I wasn't stuck in the house all day but also didn't have to actually do anything. Eating out has gotten much more expensive since I had a baby, but between busy service times you could probably get away with nursing a coffee for ages. It will pass before you know it x

First DC is always like this. It's your survival instincts (for your child) going batshit. I didn't sleep for the first month of DC1's life. When we brought DC2 home from hospital we had her in our bed in her sleepyhead between me and DH, with both of us with a hand on her either side (remembering how DC1 needed to feel held for his first few weeks). I said to my DH 'I know I won't get a wink of sleep tonight, but I'll just close my eyes for a minute'. Mate, I was snoring in seconds.

You get used to the noises. Exactly the same as people who live next to roads/train lines etc tune out, you’ll tune out to the normal noises that don’t need attention.

it’s just that you’re still learning what needs attention.

You've had your baby for 10 days and are already fed-up with the noise and lack of sleep 😮. You've got a LONG way to go yet

This does settle down eventually, but please don't wear ear plugs. Nature has developed to make us wake at unusual noises. You will get used to these noises and realise they are normal. Eventually you can sleep and wake when really needed.

I couldn’t - DC1 spent 6 weeks with us until I moved her to the room directly opposite ours, DC2 went in own room at 3 weeks old. Both were excellent sleepers and we all slept better when they were in their own rooms.

I found I was so exhausted I cld have slept standing up probably at a party 😂

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Well aren’t you a delight. I’ve had 3 babies and I’ve never truly been sleep deprived. I’ve had disturbed sleep for sure but I’ve never once in the whole 13 years of being a parent went a single night with no sleep. Neither has my husband.