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AIBU?

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DP and his car

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Deliverooaddict · 26/08/2022 17:33

We went out in his car last night and his driving was making me uncomfortable and when I asked him to slow down he wouldn’t because he was doing 70 so not doing anything wrong, then he got pissed off with me all night because I apparently don’t trust him. He’s been driving 10 years, 6 points on his licence, waiting to get done for drink driving and has had 3 accidents in the past year as well as a section 59. I’m not even exaggerating. He’s always getting posted on the local fb group.
It’s not the speed that scares me he’s just so reckless, brakes too late for my liking. He speeds everywhere and goes in between cars. He’s 39 so not a young driver and there’s no excuse for it, and it doesn’t help his car is falling apart from the accidents he’s had. The worst thing is his brother died from driving dangerously. I drive also.

So AIBU for refusing to go in the car with him again? This was the first time in nearly a month and if he won’t even slow down when I ask then I don’t know what to do. Now I’m getting the silent treatment. I am secretly hoping he loses his licence for the drink driving so I don’t have to feel anxious every time he steps foot in his car.

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TheWayoftheLeaf · 27/08/2022 23:06

I wouldn't get in his car... my sister was banned from driving due to drink after her close friend was killed in a horrible horrible way and she didn't cope well She's barely touched a drop since.

If he's making no effort to change he won't change.

And I wouldn't risk my own death.

YelloCar · 28/08/2022 16:41

hettie · 27/08/2022 20:21

Oh lovely, I'm not sure what you've grown up with as 'normal' but aggressive drink driving isn't normal or ok. He's going to hurt someone, you your child, himself or some poor random.The behaviour driving like an idiot is the result of his attitude. And tbh it's not an attitude many of us would want to be around or have our kids around. So all the Mumsnet posters piling in are trying to wake you up to how unacceptable this is....Sorry

This. It’s not normal @Deliverooaddict. You need to raise your standards and your morals.

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