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To send my neighbour's parcel back and not give to them

153 replies

mummy203 · 26/08/2022 15:51

So I’ve just had a parcel delivered from justfab. My neighbours name but my address and postcode. They’ve used the second line of the address to say “deliver to (their door number) it looks like they deliberately had it ordered to my number. Why would anyone do that?

This neighbour has lived near me for three years. All through lock downs. They’ve made it very clear they didn’t want to be neighbourly for example I wave if we pass each other etc. They make eye contact but ignore me. I pull over so we pass each other on the small road. They refuse to. Even if it means me reversing 20meters and they would have to reverse a couple of feet.

Aibu to just send it back to justfab?

OP posts:
MatildaJayne · 26/08/2022 17:00

Hwory · 26/08/2022 16:25

Just fab have a large discount for first time buyers.

So they’ve made a new account at your address to get the discount twice.

I think this poster has got the reason. I would send it back, ‘not known at this address.’

RaRaRaspoutine · 26/08/2022 17:05

YANBU, I did it the other day. Parcel for (abusive) neighbour landed through my letterbox. I just reposted it. I'm not fucking Postman Pat and I'm certainly not doing my next-door arseholes any favours.

Wickedgreengirl · 26/08/2022 17:09

Send it back and if they ask do a vague ‘oh we did get a weird parcel but we didn’t know who it was for so we returned it to sender’.

Redqueenheart · 26/08/2022 17:13

Send it back.

It is unacceptable for them to have used your address and as some people have mentioned it could be a scam on their part.

Yes, there is a possibility that they selected the wrong house number by mistake when placing the order but if they have always been unfriendly towards you, there is no reason why you should feel obliged to deliver the package to them.

I had some really rude next door neighbours for a while who never even acknowledged me when I said hi if we met on the stairs.

I had quite a few couriers trying to deliver stuff to them and ringing my bell instead to ask if I was happy to take a delivery and pass it on to them. I always refused. I only do that for neighbours who can be bothered to behave in a civilised manner towards me....

Jamaisy82 · 26/08/2022 17:17

I would just give it to them and explain the situation if it keeps happening then yes don't give them again but its probably just a simple mistake.

TheOriginalClownfish · 26/08/2022 17:18

Why be petty and go to all that trouble to send it back?

Just hand it over and ask them not to deliver to yours again otherwise you'll return to sender. It's not like they are going to want to be your bestie if you say 5 words to them.

phishy · 26/08/2022 17:19

Pu4o8 · 26/08/2022 16:53

Theres a group of neighbours I ignore. For over a year I gave clear singles I didn’t want to chat (e.g breezy hello but walking on if they tried to engage me). Despite this, every time they try and make inane small talk. I find their behaviour to be really rude, so I ignore them now. I also refuse to take any parcels and my heart sinks when somethings dropped off at one of their houses as I know they’ll try and chat.

They might be relieved if you send it back and refuse to take any future parcels.

I think you should ask companies not to deliver to your neighbours, so these friendly people you seem to despise can be spared you knocking on their door.

phishy · 26/08/2022 17:20

TheOriginalClownfish · 26/08/2022 17:18

Why be petty and go to all that trouble to send it back?

Just hand it over and ask them not to deliver to yours again otherwise you'll return to sender. It's not like they are going to want to be your bestie if you say 5 words to them.

They probably won’t open the door.

Kazibar · 26/08/2022 17:21

Give it to then but then a brief, look I was uncomfortable as this was addressed to my house rather than yours. Could you not do this please.

CactusBlossom · 26/08/2022 17:23

Slip a note through the door to tell them it's arrived and a date and time when it's convenient for you for them to collect it.

Think how you would feel if the situation were reversed.

startfresh · 26/08/2022 17:24

All the neighbours sign for each other parcels but then we’re all cordial.

Difference between signing for a parcel addressed to the right address and signing for one addressed to you incorrectly.

I gave a letter to a neighbour once which was addressed to my house. My mum told me not to do it again as people can set up accounts and use proof of address. This was likely a mistake as it was handwritten, but still...

latetothefisting · 26/08/2022 17:27

Hwory · 26/08/2022 16:25

Just fab have a large discount for first time buyers.

So they’ve made a new account at your address to get the discount twice.

This sounds like the most likely explanation. If it was as innocent as their address not being listed (which is unlikely as all those retail websites use the same address database, so unless their house is very new, it would be on there, and if it WAS new they wouldn't be able to get any deliveries or post) then surely it would be polite to come over and say 'I'm sorry to bother you, I'm trying to order from website x and it won't find my address, is it ok to deliver to yours?"

Anyway they are cheeky as fuck for doing this and yes I would 100% send it back and not tell them. If they ask say you were worried it was fraud or a scam because you knew you hadn't ordered anything from there.

Mindymomo · 26/08/2022 17:27

Personally I would leave it till after bank holiday and see if anyone comes round. They would have received notification that parcel has been delivered, and even sometimes a photo showing your doorstep, if they don’t come round by Tuesday I would return it.

Hazjack · 26/08/2022 17:28

I'd hand it over in hope that if anything of mine was delivered to them accidentally they'd do the same. I don't fuck about with immature games anymore.

One woman is lovely, but the other has shouted abuse at me over the fence when my kids were a bit too loud in the garden for half an hour and also has a serious issue with me feeding the wildlife 🙄

But I'd just hand it over to her and be excruciatingly nice about it.😁

EngTech · 26/08/2022 17:29

Send it back, Not known at this address 👍👍👍

blisstwins · 26/08/2022 17:33

I would give it to them and ask them not to do it again. They probably did it for the discount as mentioned above.

Deliverooaddict · 26/08/2022 17:35

It’s most likely a first time user discount code she used, that can only be used once per household so she’s put a neighbours one instead

Batshittery · 26/08/2022 17:35

Surely it's more hassle taking it to the post office to return it than it is to just give it to the neighbour?
It obviously didn't work putting her address for delivery

LadyCatStark · 26/08/2022 17:37

Hwory · 26/08/2022 16:25

Just fab have a large discount for first time buyers.

So they’ve made a new account at your address to get the discount twice.

This is why…

User36373729472847273 · 26/08/2022 17:40

I have no problem taking in some parcels but it can start to take the P! My neighbour became heavy reliant on me taking in rather large parcels he needed. I don't mind usually but it would be massive bloody boxes in my stair wag every single damn day and he'd me messaging me asking to look out for the courier etc so they wouldn't leave without delivering.

anyway, back to your op. Send it back. I wouldn't be doing favours to people who don't give you the time of day! OR give it to them and make it clear you won't be taking in anymore!

howdidigethere · 26/08/2022 17:40

So have you got the parcel in your house and they'll have to come round to collect it? If it's been delivered to the nominated address (you!) how will they know when you've got it? I suppose the delivery company took a photo.
My point is, wait until shitty NDN comes to your door to get it then ask why they would give your address. Make them squirm, explain, apologise...oh, fat chance but they might not do it again if you show them you're not happy. Tell them all future mail will be given back to the PO.

Anewuser · 26/08/2022 17:44

Be aware, Justfab can also be a subscription service so you could end up with monthly deliveries.

donttalkaboutbookclub · 26/08/2022 17:46

I'd take the parcel round and make them squirm with my niceness and reasonableness.

Ariela · 26/08/2022 17:48

Make them speak to you. Go and knock on their door with the parcel. Be super nice.

Surplus2requirements · 26/08/2022 17:48

It's always best to escalate petty neighbour relationships as it invariably leads to zen like blissful harmony....

Probably

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