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Someone's following me..

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mouettoi · 26/08/2022 10:00

I'm writing this here as I don't really know who else to speak to about it. I keep thinking maybe I'm going mad..

This morning at around 3.30am, I had an alert from my ring doorbell to movement outside of my front door. We live down a private track, so nobody would come to visit really; unless for a reason. We don't have passers by and we are a stand alone house, no neighbours.

I watched in real time as a man (?) walked up to my ring doorbell, looked straight into it, and then walked slowly away (backwards) before turning around and disappearing out of view.

Although they didn't do anything wrong as such, I feel really unnerved by this activity. My DH is away for work at the moment so it's just me in the house.

Has anybody had anything like this happen before??

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CockSpadget · 26/08/2022 13:19

@Wildflowercottage exactly, I'd be out of there, not typing on Mumsnet.

Wildflowercottage · 26/08/2022 13:21

CockSpadget · 26/08/2022 13:19

@Wildflowercottage exactly, I'd be out of there, not typing on Mumsnet.

Well good on you for acknowledging that people are different and that you'd have a different reaction to OP. I would then probably run into the nearest shop, burst into tears, call my partner, my mum, my best friend and everyone else I trust before calling the police. If all the above isn't exactly what you would do too, does that make me unreasonable? Or just a different person with different reactions?

SunnyD44 · 26/08/2022 13:22

exactly, I'd be out of there, not typing on Mumsnet.

She did get out of there.

She was just on her phone as she did so, which is exactly what I would have done too.

Angip3 · 26/08/2022 13:25

mouettoi · 26/08/2022 12:25

I'm beginning to think this is one big wind-up joke. This kind of thing surely doesn't happen in real life Sad

They most certainly do, I had someone that would leave notes all over my car at 4 am, i had him on camera spending over an hour carefully sticking 3 notes on my car, and ended up with a restraining order, it was eventually found out that he had been let go from a job one of my neighbors worked at for sexual harassment, it DOES happen and for absolutely no reason you have done.

maddening · 26/08/2022 13:31

CockSpadget · 26/08/2022 11:21

Great minds and all that

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I also grew up in a small rural village and live in another small village now and in both places the postman knows everyone, the police are v local etc etc it is a very different situation to town and city police.

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mouettoi · 26/08/2022 13:55

Colleague at work is almost certain she recognises the man on the ring doorbell footage I've shown her, to be a gentleman that she was assisting with in a case around 7 months ago. She doesn't recall him being a strange man back then.

OP posts:
lilroo87 · 26/08/2022 13:58

mouettoi · 26/08/2022 13:55

Colleague at work is almost certain she recognises the man on the ring doorbell footage I've shown her, to be a gentleman that she was assisting with in a case around 7 months ago. She doesn't recall him being a strange man back then.

Very strange! I would be concerned with how this person knows where you live aswell.
Maybe they have been following you for some time.
Please make sure you have people with you at all times outside and at home if you can, I'd be feeling extremely uncomfortable about this and not very safe as you don't know what their plan is.
Definitely update the police with the information, especially if your colleague remembers their name as they can, hopefully, speak to them. Might scare them off if it's them

FleursSechees · 26/08/2022 14:04

That's a good development, especially if she remembers his name. The police can hopefully do something quickly with this information!

I hope he doesn't follow you home from work though. Stay safe, OP.

SunnyD44 · 26/08/2022 14:59

That's a good development, especially if she remembers his name. The police can hopefully do something quickly with this information!

I agree.
That is good news OP.

StarCourt · 26/08/2022 18:11

Fingers crossed she can remember his name

felineweird · 26/08/2022 18:28

Please stay somewhere else tonight! You poor thing!

Marotte · 26/08/2022 18:53

But you typed on here before you got back to the office, just confused as to why you wouldn't just translate it? Ideally she'd neither type to Mumsnet nor translate it, standing in the car park, vulnerable, but she was getting support in real time from here because she was scared and not thinking straight (and was working from the office today, not home). Translating is a bit more involved though. Haven't RTFT yet.

Marotte · 26/08/2022 18:56

Now I have (RTFT). Hope you are okay OP, not too shaken, getting the help you need, and with someone (at your home or in another place, but not alone) tonight. Flowers

Jubaju · 26/08/2022 19:02

what did the note say?

SunnyD44 · 26/08/2022 20:32

How is everything OP?

BlankTimes · 26/08/2022 20:35

Hope you're safe OP and have friends with you tonight.

RobertsRadio · 27/08/2022 12:56

How are you Op? Did your stalker turn up at your house last night? And what do the police say now your colleague thinks she knows who he is? Hope you are ok.

belliniqueen · 27/08/2022 18:51

I need to know what has happened 😂😂😂

LickYouLikeACrispPacket · 27/08/2022 21:36

This is so unnerving. I hope you get the some answers and can put this behind you.

Beansprout30 · 27/08/2022 23:36

The doorbell thing would freak me out totally, I hate it even when a passing cat sets mine off in the early hours . I hope you are safe OP

Smartish · 02/09/2022 12:12

@mouettoi how are things now?

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