Someone's following me..

[mouettoi]

I'm writing this here as I don't really know who else to speak to about it. I keep thinking maybe I'm going mad..

This morning at around 3.30am, I had an alert from my ring doorbell to movement outside of my front door. We live down a private track, so nobody would come to visit really; unless for a reason. We don't have passers by and we are a stand alone house, no neighbours.

I watched in real time as a man (?) walked up to my ring doorbell, looked straight into it, and then walked slowly away (backwards) before turning around and disappearing out of view.

Although they didn't do anything wrong as such, I feel really unnerved by this activity. My DH is away for work at the moment so it's just me in the house.

Has anybody had anything like this happen before??

I'm well aware of when she made it clear, thank you. I just don't always automatically assume the worst in everyone - she may not have felt it relevant as she didn't expect to be picked apart when asking for advice/support?

@OopsAnotherOne bless you, you're a good person

Do you have a large life insurance policy? (Sorry, Ive been watching too much That Chapter on YouTube.)

I'm going with the private investigator theory.
If the OP is still here, have you told your DH someone scary is following you and coming in the night? And you are thinking to move out for the time. If so what was his reaction?

Or are you claiming any benefits based on your living/work situation?

Check your car for a tracking device.

I've text DP but due to time differences he hasn't received it I don't think. As he's not responded as of yet.

Oh stop it you

No I'm not claiming any benefits I'm just a normal working woman, I don't have anything fancy or live in a big house or anything like that. There's nothing around my home either that would be even remotely worth stealing..

You're not in the UK OP? Did I read that right?

Correct, I am from, but not currently living in the UK.

Ignore the nasty people on here.

That would creep me out too, especially as it seems the guy deliberately wanted you to see him, both times. Why else would he put his face close to your camera and then back away?

Be careful!

OP - I'm sure you already know this but some countries allow you to have more effective forms of self defense on your person than the UK does. I'd be looking into the local laws about what you're allowed to carry for your own personal safety (if you feel the need to)

Ah, that would explain the Police response.

Thank you. I'm living in France at the moment so I will look into the laws here, although I'm not sure it's much different to the UK in terms of self protection.

I mean if you live down a private track with no close neighbours it must be a relatively expensive house, no? So a burglar would assume you have expensive things inside the property. Most likely it's someone scoping your house out and tracking your routine for that reason.

Ignore the snarky comments OP.

You may well be a troll but none of what you’ve said is unbelievable so far, so I don’t know why posters are trying so hard to catch you out.

@FleursSechees that's quite an assumption! She could just live rurally.

Good luck, op, and I hope it all works out for you and you stay safe and unharmed.

I live rurally down a track, yes. But not in a particularly affluent or wealthy area. My home is humble and small, with nothing that screams wealth. I drive a small city car, nothing extravagant.

I agree @Leafy3 - I have lived in a similar situation to that which OP described in the past. I can assure you there was absolutely nothing of any value in that little house 🤣

They relish in it and seem to enjoy posting smug, goady comments about how they're right and everyone else is wrong.
I've only posted once before on Mumsnet on a difference account with a genuine plea for help and advice. Every single word I said was true, but I was ripped to shreds by snarky troll-hunters who were fixated on the fact that because my place of work didn't operate like their place of work, I simply couldn't be telling the truth despite the fact I was telling the truth in its entirety. I felt really, really shit, and have refrained from posting again as it was horrible to be called a liar about something I genuinely wasn't lying about, I couldn't understand people's viciousness.

Op you don’t have to defend yourself on here or apologise for starting a thread, you’ve come here for advice and reassurance, you’ve taken the advice offered and gone to the Police.
I would have done the same in your position.

I just needed support this morning. Its all the more unnerving not having my DH here to calm me down and tell me 'it's probably nothing'

It's okay OP - we are here to listen and give advice. It's good you've called the police! I'd seriously consider staying at your friend's house rather than having her stay at your house for the next couple of days though if that's at all possible.

Alright. Was just trying to offer the OP some advice