People laughing at my disabled son

[Jennybeans401]

My ds has physical and mental disabilities. We are currently on holiday and I've been feeling upset today as several people have imitated/mocked him (not to his face but laughing in couples behind his back). They have also done this in front of me knowing I'm his mother.

It's made my family feel uncomfortable and I've been thinking should I speak to the hotel about it? We have worked hard to have a nice hiday and didn't expect the guests to be like this.

I do know though that continental Europeans in general are not familiar with disabilities as much as our accepting societies are, basically because they're aborted if they have disabilities. It's a weird thing. They may not be used to children with disabilities. What nasty fuckers though. Jesus.

No advice as such (I would lose my shit in your position) but just wanted to add my heartfelt sympathy.
What utter utter cunts

I feel for you, we’ve had this, occasionally, even in the UK It’s so awful. I just call it out, every single time. I’m very calm, but very loud and draw attention to them and their awful behaviour. Remember, how sad and unhappy their lives must be, that they do this to a child. You’re doing an amazing job, taking your child on holiday and giving him a wonderful life. 💙

Yep😞

A lot of disabled babies and children are also shipped off to orphanages and “institutions” in a lot of mainland and Eastern European countries.

I'd be in their face asking them what their problem is!
My sons mentally disabled to believe me I wouldn't hesitate to get my claws out if anyone mocked him x

If dh is involved he will likely punch these people if we confront

So keep DH out of site with DS around the corner while YOU confront them.

One of you needs to do something!

I think the wanker hand movement is understood in any language 👍🏻

Sight not site, sorry.

I think you only need to challenge anyone who DS notices if a hard stare is working with everyone else.

Don't make it obvious to him that people are mocking him if he's oblivious. When he's not, show him you've got his back.

So sorry to read this. My sister-in-law who died had cerebral palsy and was in a wheelchair was made fun of at Disney World's Epcot Centre German country by two employees who I overhead (They didn't realise I was part of the family).

Americans however were brilliant and they'd stop and smile at her.

Halta dee klappa is the phonetic pronunciation of Shut up in German.
Tay twa is the phonetic pronunciation in French
Figlio (feelyo) di putana works in Spanish or Italian lol for a man
or Figlia (feelya) di putana for a woman. Portuguese would understand that too.
Or use fucking English and say - you're nothing but a piece of fucking inbred shit lol. Confuse the cunts.

I'm so sorry that your holiday has been ruined. Try not to have him around these pieces of shit.

This a a very sensitive and difficult situation firstly op is trying to make sure her ds is having a lovely holiday while also trying to protect him few of us have to deal with such nastiness.

I think op once you get into your stride of confronting them ( away from your ds) it will become easier. You don’t need to shout or show anger. I hate confrontation and in your case I would feel I wouldn’t be able to keep control but you will and it will get easier I wish you all an enjoyable holiday keep us updated (if you have the time)

Either accept they are a lower life form and ignore them. If your husband punches one of them, and the police are called. You might get kicked out as well. Or wait until you are ready to leave, and if they are still there then, decide what to do then.

It was one thing I noticed when I first went to mainland Europe (from Ireland) - how comparatively few people one saw with disabilities and especially intellectual disabilities. Either not born in the first place or perhaps 'shipped off' as you say. One really positive development in Ireland in the last few years is that people with disabilities are increasingly living in community settings and are just much more visible and active in very ordinary ways and not just on 'outings' - so at the hairdressers, shop, cafes, running club, workplaces etc. Still a long way to go but much progress too

Do you feel strong enough to look them directly in the eye? Make them realise you saw and heard them.
What utter shits.

I'm sorry, that's atrocious behaviour on their parts. Just disgusting.

You've been far more restrained than I would be - I'd probably be removed by the hotel security for the scene I'd cause, in your position. I wouldn't be able to bite my tongue and, as others have said, I'm pretty sure the word "cunt" doesn't need translating.

I'm sorry that your family is experiencing this.

I'm probably not the best person to be offering advice here as I would be angry and would need to be hauled off them lol, so just ignore me.
Try to keep your lovely little boy away from the cunts though. What he doesn't know can't hurt them.

That's the second thread about this sort of behaviour from people in Europe. They must have people with disabilities and impairments? Are they just hidden away, is there no inclusion?

im sorry but telling the hotel is useless, it’s not school and they aren’t a parent, the folks will just deny it. I’m afraid the only way to deal with it op is speak to the people concerned.

Op, I always challenge people when they do this even if I just turn and stare at them to make them feel uncomfortable. People are only too happy to scurry away then and not even look back.

One time though I didn’t have to do anything as someone else did it for me. We were in Disney Paris waiting to get on the teacups and my son was making his happy noises which we’re just like a baby lying in it’s cot and blethering away to itself. We were also in a special queue for those who had disabilities. Anyway one guy who was sitting on a wall really took umbrage with the crooning noises or the fact we were not having to wait as long as he was and the next thing he started booing my son - then just as I turned to say something to him I saw a hands appear in the crowd and knock him backwards off the wall. He went down like Humpty Dumpty and everyone around us cheered 😝

As it happens he was German.

This is appalling. Utter scum.

They're generally aborted.

In many European countries it's not that common at all for children to have disabilities, so for some it might be an 'odd' sight

No excuse to be a dick but it's not as common to see in many countries on the continent

If you call them an idiot they will probably understand as idiot is also a French and a German word. You can look up the German and French pronunciation online.

Yes, because they're aborted. Not because they have superior genes.