People laughing at my disabled son

[Jennybeans401]

My ds has physical and mental disabilities. We are currently on holiday and I've been feeling upset today as several people have imitated/mocked him (not to his face but laughing in couples behind his back). They have also done this in front of me knowing I'm his mother.

It's made my family feel uncomfortable and I've been thinking should I speak to the hotel about it? We have worked hard to have a nice hiday and didn't expect the guests to be like this.

No decent human would ever do this- scum like this need to be called out. You and your son have nothing to be ashamed of- I'd confront them!!!
Im so sorry OP, please dont let it ruin your holiday.

Are you on a package holiday? I'd raise it with the rep if you are.

That is so awful, and I'm so sorry.

I think you have two options - either call out the behaviour as suggested above, or resolve to ignore it.

Choose whichever is easier for you and will have least impact on the enjoyment of your holiday. It's not your job to educate these assholes. I know that any kind of confrontation can leave me riled up for hours, so I suspect in your shoes I might end up relaxing and enjoying myself a bit more if I made a decision in advance to steadfastly ignore. But if you will feel better for saying something, you would be entirely reasonable to do so.

Can’t understand people saying it’s not the hotel’s problem.

If there was a creepy guy bothering your teenage DD you’d say something.

These people are openly bullying a disabled child.

Fuck me but the bar is low for how we treat disabled people in this world

Ds seemed to only notice the hard faced women because they made it so obvious. He's been oblivious to everyone else. Dh is fuming and wants to kill them. I'm just upset that in 2022 people can still be like this.

Pardon my French OP, but what absolute utter cunts.

I'd be raging and would probably get kicked out the hotel for violence.

I hope it doesn't ruin the rest of your holiday.

They are the ones with the issue. Fucking twats.

Special place in hell for people who mock disabled people.

I'd definitely raise it with the hotel!

Not sure why people believe it's nothing to do with them

I've had to make fellow guest complaints a few times and every single time it was handled, with two of the incidents leading to said guests being removed from the property.

Go to the bar, ask for 2 drinks of water, walk up behind them and dump em over their heads. Preferably in front of your son.

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this.

My daughter has Tourette’s, and I’m now at the point where I call out this behaviour every time.

I ask them to explain what they are doing and why they’re doing it. Usually ends up with embarrassed mumbling and shuffling off.

I hope it doesn’t ruin your holiday

@Sunnyqueen I really feel like doing that! My inner rage is intense!!

Honestly, go for it.

How dreadful. That's so upsetting for you. It's hard to believe that adults behave like that.

I’m sorry this is so awful :(

Absolute scum. This INFURIATES me. Ignorant, dragged up scrotes to mock a young boy like that. I am so sorry you are experiencing this OP. I would mention it to the hotel. You have nothing to lose and if it were other guests keeping you awake at night or making a nuisance of themselves you would complain. Making fun of a disabled boy is top of the wanker list.

I would address the people directly rather than get the hotel to do it.

Enjoy the rest of your holiday. Some people are just arseholes.

The good thing is that ds is loving his holiday, he was upset about the two women who were openly mocking him but has not noticed anything else.

Dh has gone to our room to calm down.

This is just awful. Agree with a PP: be super polite, ‘excuse me, what are you doing and why?’ To ANY response ‘well that’s awfully ignorant and prejudiced of you isn’t it?’ WALTZ OFF.

wankers. Big hugs for you. X

Thank you for the support, I feel very protective and just want to cry. How hard is it just to be kind and understanding?

Sympathies

People are crappy.

So sorry you and your ds are going through this. What complete arseholes they are. I think I’d raise with the hotel, even if they can’t do anything you’ll know you’ve done all you can. Plus hard stare and eye roll at them if they do it again.

I agree with those who say to raise it with the hotel too. If they are any good they will speak to the guests directly and tell them to stop their utterly unacceptable behaviour.

Sorry to hear this !
People can be horrible.

Yes I would stand up and call them out in the moment, if you can.

How absolutely awful for you, your son and your husband, @Jennybeans401 . They are truly ugly, nasty people, your son will shine like a beacon next to them.

Why are you accepting the crap your son has received without telling the people mocking him to fuck off? Complaining to the hotel is pointless, hotels can't control how people interact with each other unless violence involved, in which case they call the police.

Find your anger and be a strong advocate for your son. Giving hard stares is not enough with people who make fun of a disabled person. You need to speak up, loud and clear, to the people laughing at your son. Trust me, if you confront them head on they will stop.

That is utterly disgusting of them op and I'm not surprised you feel so upset. If you can manage the restraint that some previous posters suggest you could ask them what is so amusing. I think I would be hard pushed not to shout at them and ask what the fuck they think they are doing. Why on earth would this be acceptable in any culture?