To find it strange how people think they own a seat after they sat in it once?

[Anon778833]

Obviously I’m talking about seats in public places, not in homes etc.

I have literally seen people almost come to blows because someone else was sitting in ‘their’ seat.

A lot of people seem to feel if they sat somewhere once, they own the seat. I think it’s childish and not reasonable at all!

But the blow ups I’ve seen happen make me think there must be something primal behind it.

Nesting

Presumably some public seats are 'owned' by more than one person.

I was about to say this!! I've never seen such wrath!!

I had to change my lunchtime once and walked into the staffroom to find someone else in my spot! I didn't say anything. But I've not forgotten.

Omg yes! Bingo. DO NOT ATTEMPT TO EVEN LOOK AT SOMEONE ELSES SEAT.
Especially if it's an afternoon session when all the regular old dears are there

We had this too - and as a trainee teacher we had our own area as we weren't allowed to sit with 'proper' teachers

I rent a desk in a hot desk office - I do like my own corner 😁
We also have alcove type sofas that are comfy to take calls on - two of us were heading towards the same sofa this morning. I got there first 😂

& as an organisation, we're moving back into permanent office after a year without one-will be hotdesking, so that will be fun.
Except I can use the SMT office, or if I choose to use a desk in the general office, only a couple will have the accounts system loaded, so I'll get first dibs on where I want to sit.:)

We are territorial creatures and once we get used to a thing it feels like we are losing it.

So yeah, I feel mildly put out when someone gets there early and grabs my preferred spot. But I'm adult enough to recognise that it doesn't belong in to me so I get over it.

Similarly, I get that people have a preferred mug. But it's downright unreasonable to expect you to make a note of everyone's and be off with you if you use theirs. It's real 'I should be the centre of other people's universe' thinking.

I often have a coffee in Waitrose before I grab some shopping. I like the first little table by the window. I feel slightly discombobulated if someone else is sitting there and I have to sit somewhere else.

Have you tried the words 'Fuck off you flabby cunt!' In a sixth form teacher's kind of way?

Reminds me of a country pub DH and I were in once. A dog was lying on a chair. he got off and went somewhere and in the meantime a man sat in the chair. The dog returned and started barking at the man. The man eventually went and sat somewhere else.

This happened when I was out with my (Now) ex, we was in a restaurant and we was queuing up to order when he sat down on a near by table, it was empty, a man then walked over and literally started screaming at him for sitting at his table, my ex stood up immediately and apologised but the man was telling him to come outside, honestly never seen anything like it he was acting like he was going to beat him up over it, never knew people got like that over seats 😐

Oh yes, I’ve seen that one, too 🤣

it is probably the same people that think they own the space outside their house on a public road with no restrictions

When i was teaching...i would move tables and chairs about to encourage mingling etc...but you could tell students were put out....and a bit puzzled for a few mins before the class started....

I’ll see your bingo and raise you the British Legion on an evening when there’s bingo and a turn.

I’ve experienced it. My elderly relatives, whom I was visiting, signed me in etc etc, then they started chatting to other oldies so I got us some (very reasonably priced, hurrah for the British Legion) drinks and sat down at an empty table. The horror! My rels scooted over (as fast as they could for octagenarians) to inform me that I COULD NOT sit there, those seats belonged to X, Y and Z and that I had to get up and move to the correct table before X, Y and Z arrived. Which was going to be imminent, apparently, because the national anthem would be played at 8 pm and we’d all be standing up for the Queen.

My unwitting seat gaffe was the escandalo of the night. Every time I looked up from my bingo card a different set of white haired people were surreptitiously pointing at me. I was pleased to have done them a service by giving them something to talk about!

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I came here just for that comment lol, it's the first thing I thought of!
Oh and you have to make sure you take the cushions, it's not technically the seat but it's "the essence of the chair" 😁
Love the username by the way 😁

It's a bit like your spot in the pilates class.

Because I'm always at the back, second from left. Someone needs to tell the new bitch!

@Mumdiva99 you gave me a chuckle with "the loving room"

Ok, I’m nodding along to all the daft “stolen” cafe tables and bus seats.

But everyone has their right place at the dinner table in the house! Surely?! Do people just sit any old where around the table each day? Obv if guests / extras are round, then we all sit in diff places to accommodate them best. But normal times normal seats? None are worse or better - they’re just usual.

But everyone has their right place at the dinner table in the house! Surely?! Do people just sit any old where around the table each day?
No, it's me and DH at both end seats, 2 kids at the others and both in their own place.
If you deviate from this you'd probably get a "look" and a "hey, why are are you in my seat when yours is over there?!" 😂

The head teacher where i work made someone move & said “as it is my chair” during a staff meeting.

We hot desk. I booked a desk next to my team and sat there. Well you’d have thought I’d committed a crime. The guy who likes that desk sat next to me and moaned that I had ‘his desk’, his phone was logged in, I pushed the phone closer to him but it was ‘the wrong side’. He even mentioned in a phone call ‘well I’m not at my normal desk so bear with me..’ every desk is the same because we are hot desking!

Sometimes I'm a CF moving from a wheelchair to a comfier seat. I really dislike when people take my spot, especially one where I can fit under the desk or the only quiet corner I can cope😅