To be upset with DP because he didn't order me a pizza?

[PinkStarAtNight]

DP and I weren't planning to see each other this weekend as we just spent a week together and he left to go home earlier this week, so we were going to see each other next weekend.

However, DP arranged a night out with his friends to watch the boxing match (his friends live close to where I live so they often go out in a town that's a lot closer to my house than his own) and subsequently realised that the trains were striking. He said he could get out to the town he was meeting his mates in by bus, but asked me if he could crash at mine tonight after the night out, as my house is in walking distance from the town whereas to get back to his own house without a train would take ages.

I agreed to him staying here. We talked on the phone before he went out and he said he was planning on getting a takeaway pizza on way home. I said I really fancied a pizza and he said he would get me one too. I told him what I wanted and asked him to get potato wedges, garlic dip etc...I was really looking forward to it. I thought it would be really nice when he arrived for us to have pizza together and chill out. I didn't eat much all evening, in expectation of the pizza.

Anyway, at about 11:30 I felt quite tired so laid down, and actually ended up falling asleep. I was woken up at 3am when DP arrived back from night out. He came in and didn't have any pizza with him so I said 'where's the pizza?' He said 'oh, well I've ordered myself one, its on its way.' I said 'what about mine?' He said 'well I called you to see if you were awake and you didn't answer so I assumed you were asleep and didn't get you one.'

I'm actually really pissed off. It was a firm agreement that he was bringing back pizza for both of us, he knew I was excited about it, I had given him my order of what I wanted...even though I was asleep and didn't answer, AIBU to expect him get me a pizza anyway, thinking I probably would wake up, be hungry and want the pizza I was promised, like I have done!? Or am I being pathetic to be so pissed off with him?

He's now downstairs enjoying his pizza that arrived two mins ago while I lay on my bed hungry and annoyed!

@MrsRobinsonsHandprints exactly
people are fixating on the fact it’s pizza and 3am and therefore she shouldn’t be having it in the first place
but yet the DP was perfectly entitled to eat it at 3am

maybe she just really like pizza from there and its a treat she doesnt normally get?

Then he can used the money he saved last night to buy her this rare treat today.

SalmonEile · Today 11:15
@MrsRobinsonsHandprints exactly
people are fixating on the fact it’s pizza and 3am and therefore she shouldn’t be having it in the first place but yet the DP was perfectly entitled to eat it at 3am

He was up anyway; even awake enough to order a pizza! He’d walked home, he’d probably been drinking and needed something to soak up the alcohol. Meanwhile OP was in bed fast asleep.

Yes, this!
I agree with everything you said about nice to chill eating together after being out but at 9pm at the latest - why would you go a whole day being hungry with the anticipation of having a big meal at 11.30pm then presumably going to bed soon after, and trying to sleep after eating that nuch stodge? Let alone 3am?
I would be fuming if someone woke me up at that point to randomly eat pizza then try and go back to sleep!

If you wanted pizza you could have ordered it yourself at any point during any of these conversations!

@SalmonEile

he was eating it as he was just back from a night and probs pissed - normal

her being in bed asleep and having to be woken up to eat pizza is weird

he called op and she didn’t answer - he probs thought she’d already eaten (as let’s face it most people would have done)

@glamourousindierockandroll

he did let her know - he called her

and no way would I curb my night out for tenuous plans to have takeaway with my partner, can do that any night

YABU OP

He should have ordered you one when he knew you still wanted one

But why is it too big for breakfast, why does breakfast have to be light? Who makes the rules that large meals are only suitable after mid day?
Why can't the light meal be at evening time?
I just find these regimented ideas about food so weird.

I suppose it’s how we were brought up. I guess anything goes these days!

Except there’s no way he could have known. Unless OP has a regular 3 am pizza habit!

I think it's a bit silly to get worked up over it- he did call and takeaway pizza can be quite pricy so I can understand why he didn't buy you one if he thought you were sleeping.
Had he come in earlier with no pizza for you, yeah that would have been annoying.
Just get him to get you a nice takeaway today and enjoy it.

In this situation, I'd expect to wake up and have mine cold for breakfast. I'd be upset if he'd made the decision for me that I no longer wanted it.

He knew when he walked in and woke her up at 3am and she asked him where the pizza he'd promised was!

@LuckySantangelo35 @CecilyP
so eating pizza at 3am is ok if you’re drinking ?

look I get that the DP rang got no answer thought “shit she’s probably gone to bed by now I’ll just order my own and eat it and go to bed”
but i still don’t see why it’s so outrageous for the OP to have fallen asleep for a couple of hours (she hadn’t intended to , she didn’t actually go to bed just lay down it sounds like - maybe she fell asleep on the sofa ) and still want the pizza they’d talked about
if the DP hadn’t woken the OP coming in maybe she wouldn’t be annoyed this morning ?

I personally think this is more about the DP just using the house as a crash pad for the night but that would be ok with proper communication
I reckon the DP probably said I’ll probably just grab a pizza or something later - didn’t actually offer to bring her one at first but then she said she’d like one too and then he said he’d bring her one but that hadn’t been his intention
I think once she was awake he could’ve apologized and ordered one or she could’ve done so - unless you can only order in the shop itself at that hour

Bit late then, wasn’t it!

Nobody in their right mind who had not been on the night out would want to be woken at 3am for pizza surely?? I don't think your DP is unreasonable to think you probably didn't want one anymore at that time and having been fast asleep for hours.

Why didn't you just order your own pizza last night at a reasonable time if you fancied one? You could even have ordered his ready for him coming in late, since it keeps so well.

YANBU

I don't understand the 3am pizza eating obsession on this thread. Even if OP was asleep, Pizza tastes fantastic the next day.

OP your partner was thoughtless.

No it wasn't, he had ordered his own and was waiting for delivery so obviously the pizza place was open and he could have called back to amend his order couldn't he!

so eating pizza at 3am is ok if you’re drinking ?

I don’t think it’s great for anyone, but the difference is he was awake and walking to OP’s house. I don’t think many people wake up in the middle of the night and eat a big meal, or any sort of meal, to be Frank.

Just about edible, yes. Fantastic, no!

Do you normally eat that late? I don't think your DP was being unreasonable to think that it was late, you would probably be asleep and wouldn't want the pizza.

If I was you, I would have just had dinner in the evening. Maybe even ordered my own pizza and then gone to bed. It's very late to be waiting up to eat with him.

only if he'd just ordered it, otherwise it would be too late.

I couldn't think of anything worse than a drunken boyfriend waking me up to share a greasey pizza at 3am when I haven't been out anywhere. Sleep on the sofa and don't disturb me!! I'd have done the same as your boyfriend, no reply you are clearly fast asleep in bed.

Hands up who's ordering pizza for lunch 😋

Yabu and further Yabu for sulking .
Go get some toast .
He did call for goodness sake.

Not sure about that. Not sure if he picked it up on the way home or ordered it on the way home. It doesn’t sound like he ordered from OPs house but if he did, he could have woken OP to ask again.