To be upset with DP because he didn't order me a pizza?

[PinkStarAtNight]

DP and I weren't planning to see each other this weekend as we just spent a week together and he left to go home earlier this week, so we were going to see each other next weekend.

However, DP arranged a night out with his friends to watch the boxing match (his friends live close to where I live so they often go out in a town that's a lot closer to my house than his own) and subsequently realised that the trains were striking. He said he could get out to the town he was meeting his mates in by bus, but asked me if he could crash at mine tonight after the night out, as my house is in walking distance from the town whereas to get back to his own house without a train would take ages.

I agreed to him staying here. We talked on the phone before he went out and he said he was planning on getting a takeaway pizza on way home. I said I really fancied a pizza and he said he would get me one too. I told him what I wanted and asked him to get potato wedges, garlic dip etc...I was really looking forward to it. I thought it would be really nice when he arrived for us to have pizza together and chill out. I didn't eat much all evening, in expectation of the pizza.

Anyway, at about 11:30 I felt quite tired so laid down, and actually ended up falling asleep. I was woken up at 3am when DP arrived back from night out. He came in and didn't have any pizza with him so I said 'where's the pizza?' He said 'oh, well I've ordered myself one, its on its way.' I said 'what about mine?' He said 'well I called you to see if you were awake and you didn't answer so I assumed you were asleep and didn't get you one.'

I'm actually really pissed off. It was a firm agreement that he was bringing back pizza for both of us, he knew I was excited about it, I had given him my order of what I wanted...even though I was asleep and didn't answer, AIBU to expect him get me a pizza anyway, thinking I probably would wake up, be hungry and want the pizza I was promised, like I have done!? Or am I being pathetic to be so pissed off with him?

He's now downstairs enjoying his pizza that arrived two mins ago while I lay on my bed hungry and annoyed!

YABU. 3am us a ridiculous time to have dinner at. He did check to see if you still wanted it, so I get his point. You’re now hangry.

If he'd been out with his mates he may well have managed the extra pizza himself at 3am.

This is a typical man type story. It's no big deal. They just don't think like us. You roll your eyes and move on.

Im not a man! But in the same position I would have assumed (correctly) that OP was a sleep and it would be a complete waste buying her one. The only difference would be,if I was buying one for myself, I might forgo the meat in case OP wanted some.

I am with you . When Dh has a night out in the next town he brings back pizza or a burrito for us to have a before bed snack and natter . If I am asleep or not hungry I have mine the next day . Also my Dh and I always share if there is only one and he avoids ingredients I don’t eat if he knows he might have to share , such as only putting chilli on half .
it’s not that you can’t order another one it’s the thoughtlessness that is bad . Even if you slept through a call the door was likely to wake you up .

Which is crazy. Pizza takeaways haven’t gone anywhere. OP can still order one today if she wants.

@CecilyP I wouldn't want a pizza at 3. But to be fair to OP, he said he would bring her a pizza in after his night out. She was looking forward to seeing him, and pizza. So he should have stuck to that. He changed the deal.

Personally I think she's making a big deal about not very much. But I do get it.

He probably should have made a better estimate of when he’d be back and not even offered. Then OP could have made her own arrangements for dinner. He should have then come back quietly and finished his pizza without waking OP.

My DH would get short shrift if he woke me up to offer me a pizza at 3am!

This whole post just sounds really immature all round.

It seems perfectly reasonable to assume no-one wants to be woken at 3 for a pizza. Even if I did wake up at that hour, I certainly wouldn't want to get up and start eating. In fact, given that he was never going to get back before midnight, if I were you I would have ordered my own much earlier.

I am with your OH.
You were asleep.
Who wants to be wakened at 3am for a pizza?

YABU.... As others have said, I would have gone mental if I'd been woken up for pizza. Why didn't you order it earlier? You could have put his in the fridge.

I’m leaning towards YANBU, OP — I think he should’ve just got you what you’d agreed and left it for you for the next day. I can kind of see why he didn’t, but still.

What I don’t get is the number of posters who are being extraordinarily rude to you. Lots of folk on here seem to be Billy Brass Neck from behind a keyboard.

The default anger levels on here are getting way beyond.

Thats pretty judgemental. I'd be disappointed too if I was told he'd be bringing pizza but didnt. I may or may not eat some at 3am and I'm willing to bet that my 25 inch waist is smaller than 99%+ of the sneering posters here

@Sparklfairy its not judgemental if OP admits she has an eating disorder and goes to the GP about it.

The average person would rather eat a pizza before they go to bed, not go hungry all evening and then want to get woken at 3am.

Your waist size is irrelevant and judgemental in itself as just because OP has an eating disorder doesn’t guarantee that she’s overweight or underweight.

I’m on team dp. He even tried to ring you to check.

The poster who A/S OP pointed out she was overweight. Someone else used the term 'overeater'. Posters who get their knickers in a twist with regimented rules about what they can eat and when, and apply those rules to strangers on the internet are the ones with issues around eating.

I pointed out my own waist size as I'll eat curry or pizza for breakfast or at 3am if I choose. That doesn't make me a problem eater, and I'm a perfectly healthy size. It was way out of line A/S OP and other posters sanctimoniously saying 'oh NOW it makes sense'.

I wouldn't have wanted pizza at 3am either. He's probably drunk and not thinking straight. I wouldn't have wanted to wait past 11pm to eat. Would have already eaten by then. Next time say no to crashing at yours.

I’d find it weird that you went to bed without dinner expecting a pizza after someone was on a night out.

How old are u

I pointed out my own waist size as I'll eat curry or pizza for breakfast or at 3am if I choose. That doesn't make me a problem eater, and I'm a perfectly healthy size. It was way out of line A/S OP and other posters sanctimoniously saying 'oh NOW it makes sense'.

But OP does have an eating disorder so of course it’s going to make more sense.

If she was just greedy or trying to find something to be annoyed at with her bf then it would be massively different to her having a medical disorder.

It sounds like you’re projecting because your diet or waist size is irrelevant if you don’t have an eating disorder.

Someone else used the term 'overeater'.

Also OP herself says she’s what’s called a compulsive over eater - that’s not an offensive term if that’s what her GP calls it.

Dominos at 3am. 🤢

YABU.

You'd go without food all night rather than just eating whatever you had in once you realised he wasn't going to arrive for hours?

Did you really want pizza at 3am Op?

waiting until 11.30pm is bad enough

you sound a bit I dunno lacking in initiative

This.

I don't think he did anything wrong.

YANBU, even if you weren't awake enough for it tonight, you could've had it tomorrow. This was tight-fisted of him.