To speak to my neighbours about their shrieking children?

[Capricorn8990]

Now I don’t mind hearing children laugh, play and shout but I am really struggling with my neighbours children squealing and shrieking. I can’t even sit in my garden at the moment. My neighbour has her friend over most days who also has 2 children and they all squeal and shriek. This can go on for hours..

Neither adults ask them to be quiet and it’s really making me miserable cos we can’t even sit outside.

AIBU to speak to my neighbour about this? We get on well but not sure how I would approach it.

It just shows how difficult it is to have people living on top of each other . Developers should think of social cohesion when they start these mahoosive new developments.

I almost feel new builds should be exclusively for different life stages , under 30's , families and then older / retirees

Some kids do it when excited, others when they are upset and some are just permanently stuck on that volume. I'd tell them to come in if they were mine and doing it repeatedly. However it is the summer holidays and they have as much right to use their garden as you or anyone else. Around us we've had people playing all kinds of shitty music whilst in their gardens, or parties and we've had to put up with that.

If you are going to seethe over it talk to tye parents, if they are reasonable people they will keep an eye on it and manage the behaviour. If not they might turn around and say aside from using duct tape there is nothing they can do. Speak to them and find out.

Exactly this. Nothing better than laughing and playing

Not ear piercing high pitched long screams

Love this absolutely spot on @StoneofDestiny

Agree about age ranges when you in the small child zone yourself your tolerance is high but now I have quiet teens I find the racket from younger children really grating.

Do you live on my road? The house a few doors down from us has children like that and it’s infuriating!

@Dobbysgotthesocks my siblings and would not have been allowed to do it either. We would have been told to stop shrieking or go inside. It is lazy parenting

@hattie43 I would love if there was an area/a few roads where children couldn’t live. Same with child free sections of planes.

Our neighbours’ grandchildren are here most days now as it’s the holidays and they are constant screamers. It’s utterly obnoxious noise. We’re very rural so they’re a way away but I still hear them.

Fortunately, it scared the crap out of my very large dog once when he happened to be roaming by the front, and the huge volley of barks he let out in turn scared the crap out of the kids, who seem to have turned it down a notch or two. Want to borrow my dog?

It's. The. Summer. Holidays.
So? Does that make you unable to parent your kids?

Clearly makes poster unable to formulate a sentence

I have young kids as do three of several other houses whose gardens are all close by and backing onto each other. All the kids go outdoors and and play- sometimes they get a bit over excited but it's all fine bar one family whose kids are so loud that you can hear them shrieking and screaming even when you go indoors and shut all the doors and windows. Sometimes you even have to raise your own voice inside to make yourself heard over it. The Dad also has a really loud voice, you can hear every word he says in conversation 4 gardens down so maybe they are all just used to being loud generally.
It is inconsiderate to allow kids to scream and shriek for hours on end. Everyone has a right to enjoy time outdoors in their gardens without their ears being assaulted.

I have to agree. The adult neighbours nearby have a loud party or BBQ once or twice in the summer, and we don’t have an issue with loud music. DIY is annoying but there’s a point to it. By contrast the families with kids - kids are out every day it’s not raining, screaming and shouting or kicking balls off walls and cars. Their parents literally don’t give a shit. There have been “no ball games” signs put up all the way down the road but for the bit where I live, not that it matters because they ignore them anyway. You struggle to sit in the garden for the entire summer, and that’s really not on - summer is for everyone, not just screaming kids. I’d love to be able to live just among adults.

Thank god someone else said it. We also have a SEN child. We have shrieking, happy stimms and occasionally painfully long meltdowns. However we try to keep the children quiet but it's not always possible and just bringing them in is a task in itself which will endure more screams and emotions. We try to be as respectful as possible to the other families on the street and try to keep the noise as quiet as we possibly can. But it's not always possible and boy does it make me on edge trying to appease everyone else while I'm trying to let my little boy experience the normality of everyone else when he lives in a very different world.

“We try to be as respectful as possible to the other families on the street and try to keep the noise as quiet as we possibly can.”

Thats all anybody asks. This thread is about completely selfish knobheads - not you and parents like you. We have a neighbour with a child that stims and makes loud noise in the garden - no one bats an eyelid. In fact, it’s a given that we don’t even register it as ‘noise’. Decent neighbours will know the difference.

It's true.

I honestly enjoy hearing kids make a lot of noise outside but that's because it's more 'happier' than the various noises many adults and their pets make. After all, the kids are limited by school and the weather - yet not the adults and pets.

I've got a 20yo ds and a pet so I'm not judging others in my hood but by golly the sound of shrieking children is as acceptable to me as birdsong and silence.

Some people really don’t get it. In fact I used to read these threads and think what’s wrong with children playing and being noisy? We are talking constant and uneccesary ear piercing non stop screaming to the point you can’t sit in the garden. Of course this can be stopped. They can’t possibly be like this at school! Mine are worse when they are dumped outside while parents are inside busy and can’t really hear them. They don’t scream non stop when the parents are there with them funnily enough.

Been awake since 6.30 with constant screaming and banging. It seeps through every closed door and window. I hope they move.