To speak to my neighbours about their shrieking children?

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Now I don’t mind hearing children laugh, play and shout but I am really struggling with my neighbours children squealing and shrieking. I can’t even sit in my garden at the moment. My neighbour has her friend over most days who also has 2 children and they all squeal and shriek. This can go on for hours..

Neither adults ask them to be quiet and it’s really making me miserable cos we can’t even sit outside.

AIBU to speak to my neighbour about this? We get on well but not sure how I would approach it.

I keep misreading the thread title as “shrinking children”.

Honestly, they're being deliberately disingenuous and pretending they don't understand because in all likelihood their kids are the ones doing it and this has touched a nerve.

@Goggin READ MY POST. I love the giggling and playing. NOT the screeching. For god sake.

@dottiedodah come back to me when you’ve read my post. I’ve not a problem with children playing.

@hangrylady THANK YOU!! So frustrating. People are getting defensive and not reading what I’ve actually posted.. thank god some people have common sense like you!

@Boxofsockss but our neighbours don’t even ask them not to shriek.. I’m sure if they did they would listen. It’s because they’ve not been told that they think it’s normal behaviour

What is worse than prolonged ear-piercing screaming? Are you thick or just couldn’t be bothered to read the thread? We are not talking about the noise of ‘children playing’ ffs.

How dare parents encourage their prodigy to realise that they are not the centre of the world! Once they're in bed, I'd be cutting the grass, maybe have a noisy adults party.

Are you honestly that ignorant that you believe it's impossible for kids to have fun and enjoy the garden WITHOUT shrieking at top volume constantly and ruining the opportunity for others to enjoy their gardens? I feel sorry for your neighbours with that attitude!

UWhatnow. I'm not thick. I just happen to have a different opinion to you.

I think some posters are being deliberately obtuse. No one has said they dislike hearing children playing. People don’t like hearing screaming and shrieking. There’s a vast difference between the two.

I don't give a shit if its the summer holidays, shrieking and screaming is unnecessary and frankly rude towards neighbours. Laughing chatting playing fine screaming not at all. Was always my pet hate in other children that came over to play at ours and yes I would call them out on it

Yeah, genuinely flummoxed that "it's the holidays!" is being touted as an excuse to scream your lungs out 🤪
Glad I don't near any of you weirdos. Your neighbours must hate you.

Interesting way to deal with shrieking.

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I would have a quiet word with the mum and say it is lovely that kids can be out playing but can she get them to stop the actual screaming as it goes right through your head and explain normal noises of kids playing fine but it is that loud shrieking that is not on. See if that works and tell her you love being neighbours etc etc and don't want any bad feelings. As you said some parents are not even aware.

Small children having fun make a lot of noise, and extra noise if they have friends around. Sometimes even squeals.x

They are 5-8 playing outdoors. It’s normal. In your next life be rich enough to live without neighbours.

do they have autism or any other conditions?.

i’m a psychologist. shrieking kids often because they are autistic and if in that case nothing you can do. You gonna seen like a jerk if you speak to their parents.

if you wanna speak to their parents make sure you know what happen with the kids. Not all disabilities are visible.

Not thick. Ok must be no empathy then? To not give the slightest flying fuck that the majority of people do not want to hear your screaming kids all day…

In our street there is a clear division between the decent parents who are bringing up well balanced children and the entitled fuckwits who think that it is acceptable for their delinquent children to scream and screech for hours on end.

No wonder teachers have a hard time.
Apart from some people deliberately misinterpreting what OP is saying, there are parents on here who actually never tell their children to be quiet, not to scream and shriek and to just ignore their neighbours legitimate complaints?
Wow.
Maybe use the holidays to teach your children about consideration for others, what normal noise and play should be when you are just feet from other people and how they should allow others to enjoy their gardens too. If they don't learn as children, they are going to grow into pretty obnoxious adults.

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If. You. Have. Children. You. Should. Parent. Them.

Including. During. School. Holidays.

Go outside and play Eminem loudly on repeat, whilst you light a fire…

Just kidding YANBU there is no need to shriek and scream all day long. Not sure what you can do about it in all honesty without causing bad feeling.

Talk to them. If they were to do this elsewhere, the reaction might not be a conversation, but something worse.

You are actually helping the children by raising the issue.

So if you cause bad feeling, not something to be ashamed of.