To have a moan re: DH endurance sports event

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So I have to drive him for four hours to the event ( to save his energy), stay up for 24 hours straight feeding him drinks and energy bars every 40 mins then drive him back another 4 h after he's ( well we've) had a long sleep - he'll be too stiff to drive.
Grrrr. I am SO not feeling the supportive spouse vibe right now.
Moan moan moan sthu, I know. He swore that the last time was it, but I ought to have known better. What is it with fundamentally pointless ( imo) sports challenges?
And yes, if I don't go he can't do it - everyone brings their own support person/ team.

Yes, those 24-hour Cluedo Re-enactment Marathon games can be quite a trial, can't they? 🔍

I suggest you give him a dozen Mars bars and a litre bottle of Lucozade (sport) and let him go by himself. 😜

you don’t have to feed him, don’t be ridiculous. martyrdom is so irritating

I too would like to know how many of the support humans are female, in general.

OP, he might be a good egg as an individual, but this stuff is usually part of a wider structural problem of male entitlement in society. Sometimes it's hard to see because of the good-egg-ness, but it doesn't mean that it's not connected to the wider patriarchy stuff.

It's reasonably even split gender wise actually. It's a thing women can compete on even terms more or less

Oh interesting (genuinely!). So the half of the competitors that are women have males doing the drudgery support?

I'm now really interested to what the sport is!

You are a supportive partner! This is certainly an act of love. I hope he appreciates it.

🤔Trying to work out the staying beside him and feeding him while he runs a marathon or something and the only thing I can come up with is a gaming/esports event so he's sitting down playing and you have to sit beside him and hand him snacks while he plays for 24 hours.
Please tell me I'm wrong! 😂

right?! obviously OP isn’t saying what event he’s taking part in because she’d be told he doesn’t need hand feeding and to wise up!

That does sound like a great idea - OP supports him during the event and her DH treats them both to a spa weekend afterwards.

Another one checking in. My DH tells me he loves supporting me in events, and I believe him. He's more generous in that regard than I am.

OP said it was a sports event. Surely gaming doesn't count as a sport!

@keeprunningupthathill
"Esports, short for electronic sports, is a form of competition using video games. Esports often takes the form of organized, multiplayer video game competitions, particularly between professional players, individually or as teams."

I reckon he's swimming the channel or another body of water and OP will be bobbing about in the support boat, handing over drinks and energy bars.

I saw a bit about this on the news before the commonwealth games where esports were being included. DH had been joshing about the lawn bowls players calling themselves athletes then we had the esports players stating that they too were athletes. I think that is stretching it a bit!

Can't be esports wanking away at a playstation or xbox for hours.

She'd have told us that and we'd have all backed her up to tell him to fuck off and stayed at home in her pyjamas.

Is it a looped event or point to point as I can’t understand why he isn’t carrying his own and having you top him up every so often?

I am the one in my relationship who does crazy stuff like this and my oh and kids come and supported. Granted not 24 hours however it was 12 and they met me at every check point.

I guess if the shoe was on the other foot I’d have a moan however would probably suck it up and do it.

Very much enjoying this thread now.

My radical sociopolitical analysis is in tension with my 'get a grip' tendency; everything could change dependent on the OPs next post

OP IS IT GAMING

The OP is going to studiously ignore every question about what the sport is, and how is it logistically possible to hand over food every 40 minutes because she knows if she tells us, it will emerge that that’s not strictly necessary.

And also, the DH will swear blind this is the last one - like last time. Until the next one - which she will agree to doing again, as she agreed to do this one.

I think maybe you do need Pringles every 40 mins to have a real shot at e-sports.

Perfect solution

A day or two every other year I could maybe stomach, although I wouldn't be happy about it. It would be the training that would piss me off. He must be putting a serious number of hours into a hobby.

I guess I'm looking at it through my own lens of small kids and both of us working full-time with no family nearby, but I just can't see how you can work, and have a demanding hobby, and your spouse get similar time to themselves, and still actually see each other and spend time as a family. I know men with similarly time consuming hobbies always fucking cycling but no women.

Exactly @JenniferBarkley - women are only able to do these time-consuming hobbies if their mother or other hand-on friends/family live close by. Or they don’t have kids / kids are fully grown, of course.

It’s not the sort of ‘luxury’ a woman working full time with young DC and no family nearby can indulge in.

These restrictions definitely don’t stop men, though.

That's not the case @RenegadeMatron. I have friends with small kids (and teens) who do this, supported by their partners.

Some endurance events are laps of a circuit

OP: What's your point?

I think the poster's point is there is no point to this tedious thread.

It's such a humble brag 'look at me' post.