Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To have a moan re: DH endurance sports event

154 replies

entropynow · 17/08/2022 15:00

So I have to drive him for four hours to the event ( to save his energy), stay up for 24 hours straight feeding him drinks and energy bars every 40 mins then drive him back another 4 h after he's ( well we've) had a long sleep - he'll be too stiff to drive.
Grrrr. I am SO not feeling the supportive spouse vibe right now.
Moan moan moan sthu, I know. He swore that the last time was it, but I ought to have known better. What is it with fundamentally pointless ( imo) sports challenges?
And yes, if I don't go he can't do it - everyone brings their own support person/ team.

OP posts:
OldTinHat · 17/08/2022 16:06

You've asked to have a moan. We think it's crazy, you don't like us saying his requests are over the top so what's the point of your post?

How would he manage doing his hobby if he was single?

So, you've had a moan. There you go. He's husband of the year, la di la, we're all horrible and you're wonderful. Happy now?!

Original poster
entropynow · 17/08/2022 16:06

@dammit88

Thanks. Fingers crossed, then there's no reasonable answer to "never again"

OP posts:
Original poster
entropynow · 17/08/2022 16:08

@OldTinHat

Erm, okay? Radical interpretation of the text there.🤓

OP posts:
OldTinHat · 17/08/2022 16:10

You've got to suck it up, shut up or put up!

QuebecBagnet · 17/08/2022 16:11

Mymugisblue · 17/08/2022 16:03

QuebecBagnet·

I dunno what the event is but Dh does 600 mile ultramarathons

600? A typo surely!

Nope. The longest ultra marathon is about 3000 miles. Not that he’s done that one, he prefers them a bit shorter but off road mountain ultras with serious elevation. You obviously do such distances over a few days.

Original poster
entropynow · 17/08/2022 16:11

OldTinHat · 17/08/2022 16:10

You've got to suck it up, shut up or put up!

Nope. I can have a good old moan. Clears the tubes🤓

OP posts:
OldTinHat · 17/08/2022 16:13

OP, you're not wrong there!!

SunnyD44 · 17/08/2022 16:14

What is the sport that he does?

Draughtycatflapreturns · 17/08/2022 16:16

Is it marathon wanking to porn?

ReneBumsWombats · 17/08/2022 16:20

Draughtycatflapreturns · 17/08/2022 16:16

Is it marathon wanking to porn?

And if so, where do I sign up?

AnuSTart · 17/08/2022 16:22

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 17/08/2022 15:09

Its never women who have these inconvenient hobbies is it?

Well I'm a woman and have run lots of ultras.
My DH looked after the kids while friends were my crew.

elastamum · 17/08/2022 16:22

Good for you. Just go with it and try to enjoy it. Its only a weekend and you are creating lots of shared memories. What you need to do know is negotiate something in return you would really like to do. I am horsey and love a bit of DP support. As long as its not dressage you will be fine!

GalactiCat · 17/08/2022 16:22

Is it the Loch Ness 24? I had my eye on that.

Jets121 · 17/08/2022 16:24

You don’t “have to do it”

Say no if you really don’t want to

NOTANUM · 17/08/2022 16:29

I would do it! Max once a year though.

Is there an army of partners supporting their person? Can you strike up any friendships?

Bumply · 17/08/2022 16:30

I'm in a running club where we have a few ultra runners. Women as well as men.
Events of 24 hours or longer have had a set of supporters from both family and friends.

The only issue here is that Op doesn't enjoy it and her partner only seems to have her as his support option.

dreamingbohemian · 17/08/2022 16:31

SunnyD44 · 17/08/2022 15:55

stay up for 24 hours straight feeding him drinks and energy bars every 40 mins

I don’t understand how you can physically do this?
If it’s a running marathon do you have to run along side him and put it in his mouth.
Why can’t he use his own hands?

I know I’m being very stupid but I’m just really confused.

I also don't understand!

erinaceus · 17/08/2022 16:31

In contrast to all the naysayers, I think it's kind that you support your DH in this. It's lovely when spouses support each other in their goals. I hope he is as supportive of you in whatever you wish to achieve.

Antarcticant · 17/08/2022 16:32

Fuck that for a lark. He can sort out his own transport and food.

Mymugisblue · 17/08/2022 16:34

Nope. The longest ultra marathon is about 3000 miles.

Ah presumably not in the UK? I'm thinking the Spine Race at 267 miles is one of the longest in the UK.

horseymum · 17/08/2022 16:35

I have lots of friends into this kind of stuff and they never ask their wives to be support crew, they do it for each other. Most of them are fairly considerate about training too and fit it in around family life. It definitely helps their mental health so for lots of wives it's worth a bit if disruption for a calm family life. Several women do it too, it's a very family oriented club.

Revolvingwhore · 17/08/2022 16:36

entropynow · 17/08/2022 15:00

So I have to drive him for four hours to the event ( to save his energy), stay up for 24 hours straight feeding him drinks and energy bars every 40 mins then drive him back another 4 h after he's ( well we've) had a long sleep - he'll be too stiff to drive.
Grrrr. I am SO not feeling the supportive spouse vibe right now.
Moan moan moan sthu, I know. He swore that the last time was it, but I ought to have known better. What is it with fundamentally pointless ( imo) sports challenges?
And yes, if I don't go he can't do it - everyone brings their own support person/ team.

You make your own life, and if yours is dicking about like this - chauffeur and water girl, then who is to blame? Enjoy!

gatehouseoffleet · 17/08/2022 16:36

entropynow · 17/08/2022 15:11

Because they aren't allowed to stop. I mean technically they could set up tables but it would seriously hack things up for the whole event. I've done it before, I'm just not working up any enthusiasm.

Show quote history

They are allowed to stop. There are feed stations at the checkpoints and they can feed themselves and usually if it's a 24 hour event you stop and doze for a bit, even if it's only for 2 minutes.

I'd say I'll do the driving and come and check on him at two of the checkpoints, but stay somewhere and sleep inbetween. I know people who do these events eg 100 mile runs (I know!) and they find people to buddy run with them as well, so they have company for 3-4 hours.

Or is he doing one of those unorganised FKT challenges? In which case, really, he DOES need to stop and he needs proper support and not just you.

Coachwork · 17/08/2022 16:39

I have a wealthy cousin who is one of the top women ultra marathon runners in the world, some are three days, over 150 miles. She flies all over competing with her support team, it does not include her DH. I know at times she supports
others and they in turn support her at other times. This might be a solution for him, leaving you out of the equation.

category12 · 17/08/2022 16:40

Is everyone competing's "support team" their partners?

Couldn't a family member or friend occasionally step in?

Or would it be possible for some of these athletes to get together and be each other's support team occasionally - come together as a group, half compete and the other half support alternately?

Seems silly that you're his only option.

Swipe left for the next trending thread