To expect DD15 to feed herself?

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Went on a lunch date today. DCs are all older teens. DD (15) is outraged that I didn’t sort out something for her to eat when I got home at 2.30pm

I told her there is bread for toast, wraps, crumpets, leftover chicken in the fridge, noodles/pasta etc and that she can make herself something. She thinks it is selfish of me to feed myself and not her.

WIBU?

YABU she needs lunch and you are mean not to provide her with this before you left or after you came home

YANBU she is 15 with no additional needs, perfectly capable of fending for herself and needs to grow the F up.

I thank you.

Ah I’ve made my daughter sound awful! She isn’t at all. Just like all teenagers (including yours, op) they think they’re so hard done by!

I'll go against the grain here. My youngest is 15 and I make him lunch - not an issue for me tbh. But then I don't subscribe to the Mumsnet viewpoint that you mustn't do a single thing for your kids from the age of about 7

Mine is a generally very good kid. You say yours is and does loads round the house. This counts for a lot with teenagers.

I personally would have just made her lunch.

Oh good grief, I'd be laughing myself silly at her petulance! What an ass!

Mine have been making their own lunches since they were 12/13. Both are quite capable of making a sandwich, wrap, toast or cereaL.

she needs to get a grip and act like a 15 yr old or be treated like a small child.

HA HA HA she clearly has an answer for everything unless it goes her way.....sounds like a typical selfish self-centred teen :)

She says she knew that from watching Ghosts and that she ate cornflakes yesterday

Does she want you to wipe her bum for her as well?

Ah thank you! She feels vindicated

Aww I feel like someone needs to support the underdog here.

You're awful OP.

You're poor baby girl, barely old enough to face world and you've left her starving, with some dried up old bits to nibble on whilst you send her photos of your juicy delicious food. Don't you know its the Summer Holidays and they are VERY HARD WORK!!!!! How would you like it when you're in the care home if she sits there eating a big juicy Maccies and not sharing 😂😂😂😂😂

She's jealous she didn't get to come. You could have left her a lovely meal in the fridge and she would have complained.

My lazy / entitled DD (16) is similar! She veers from adult to baby!
Could the issue be your lunch date?

ha ha!!

She doesn’t like Mumsnet people anymore!

She's being ridicuclous but it's a bit weird to rub her face in it on MN.

I'll concede that she does have a tiny point about to not being fair you went out for a nice lunch and she didn't have the same opportunity. Tiny, tiny point. I can imagine thinking that was unfair at 15.
But I was making my own lunches at primary school and 15 year old me would also have laughed my ass off at the suggestion you should have made something for her.

Nope apparently doesn’t care because “men are all awful”!

Doesn't care about the man part, only the food part.

Mine used to complain that there were only ingredients not food ( junk microwave burgers and such like) in the fridge. I still left him to it.
He has his own house now and he does most of the cooking, think of it as increasing your DD’s life skills.

So she knows she can do something but thinks it’s unfair that you don’t do it for her? Sorry but that negates the whole “she’s a good kid really” and makes her a spoilt brat in my eyes. My DD would hope I had a nice lunch with my friends.

Phahah this made me cackle. She sounds exactly like my brother - except he's now 21 and still hasn't grown out of it! 😬

Maybe you should all take it in turns to make for each other. That way she's being fed whilst also learning valuable skills!!

Really? You would go our for lunch and then make lunch for your teenager, who just can't be arsed to do it themselves?

If I'm making lunch I will offer to teens, if I just grab something so can they.

Op - as cooking is a hangup then I think she should start to pull her weight in the family and cook at least 1 evening meal a week.

See, this is exactly why I refused to make anyone lunch on day 1 of lockdown. I am happy to fill the fridge but my dh and dc are perfectly capable of throwing together an interesting lunch when they're hungry. Had visions of months and months where all I did was cook for everyone... 😱

She knew I was doing it - think she just thought the responses would be a bit more 50/50 though!

My 14 year old regularly fends for herself.
She did at 13.

She needs to grow up.

She sounds funny if a little lazy.

oh me too - I told them all at the start it was one meal a day from me, anything else they had to sort themselves. She seems to have forgotten this since going back to real life though.