To not really like it when men post on here?

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Just that really. After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here. I love mumsnet. I’ve read interesting threads, hilarious ones, heartbreaking and sometimes infuriating ones and I just feel like saying ‘oh piss off’ every time a bloke sticks their neb in. It’s MUMSnet ffs. I know I am being unreasonable really and am a massive hypocrite as I’m not (yet) a mum myself haha and don’t actually contribute anything of value to this site myself but still….they get on my tits.

If it's a post about rising energy prices or why Boris is a knob or advise on a legal matter then quite frankly I couldn't give a toss whether the poster is male, female or whatever.

However in the sex or women's health posts it's just wrong wrong creepy old men and I suspect there are many posts / comments by men pretending to be women.

This is undoubtedly true. The way so many of them seem to post is hilariously cringe. It’s like some white van man trying to be all nice and flowery to the ladiiiiies. 😆

if they are just getting involved and having a normal discussion without putting on these false airs and graces I have no problem at all. It would be bigoted any hypocritical to object to men posting, especially given that there are slated as a sex class here all day every day.

I started posting on here when I was going through IUI and IVF. Sadly, neither of these worked for me so I never did become a parent. I stayed on Mumsnet though because huge swathes of the site have absolutely nothing to do with parenting and because it’s a unique place to be on the internet. I enjoy the discussions about politics, current affairs, books, television programmes, films, work-related issues, relationships and the many other things women deal with and talk about on a day-to-day basis. I’ve learnt all sorts of useful and interesting things on Mumsnet, I love the humour, the swearing, the lack of tweeness and the fact it’s a place where women can enjoy each other’s company, learn things and support each other. There are some ferociously clever and high-achieving women on here and I find that inspiring. It’s spurred me on in my career and helped me be more confident of my worth.

The idea I should have been excluded from all this because I couldn’t get pregnant is pretty unpleasant.

Just that really. After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here.
How do you know that they're men? You have no idea
Unless they're literally saying so in their opening post.
Plus you have no idea what thread is bullshit or not, what is really asking for advice or not.
Instead of trying to troll hunt which is against guidelines, why not report them to MN if you're unsure?

I don't really care one way or another. It's a public forum.

It’s the trolls that are the issue. But yes, certain men come here with an agenda, I’ve seen lots of deleted posts. Definitely lots of male pervs on the sex topic, just the way they write. 🤢 I’m sure lots of other posters on that board want to be thought of as women but they are actually men.

I can only think of one poster that is a man and has ‘normal’ discussions on threads. And another that I presume is a man from their name and also communicates in a ‘normal’ way. There may be lots of other ‘normal’ posters that are men that I don’t realise are though obviously. I just report any poster that seems to post odd things.

Thanks.I first came here about ten years ago when my wife worked evenings, I was on my own with three kids, two dogs and many kids off the street running round my house aswell as sleepovers.So I had it down as one of three I'd look at at the end of an evening and just found it so entertaining like I do today.

This type of thread comes along every 6-8 months. Keep doing what you’re doing (assuming you’ve never told a woman to regulate her menstrual cycle by drinking milk!). I think Mumsnet benefits from being a majority female space but male posters engaging in the spirit of the site is a good thing. I can think of two regular male posters - one whose XDW was an alcoholic who had no access to the kids as she was a risk, the other who had been suddenly widowed - who were on here a lot and are exactly what the site is about

In most cases (there are exceptions), l admire a man who turns to a largely female audience for help, advice and or comment.

Nothing to admire. If men just communicate without being a perv, having some anti woman agenda, mansplaining or trying to be entertaining in that ‘style’ that so many have, there’s no issue.

It’s extremely easy to tell who the weirdos are. I definitely recognise a name on this thread for being exactly that, probably thinks he’s gone under the radar.

I hugely agree with this.

i enjoy reading the occasional male contribution on some of the mainstream threads. However go over to the Sex forum and it’s horrendous.

I saw a post last week where the OP (clearly female in the physiology of what was written) posts her dilemna. And then I kid you not it’s 7 replies straight of “bloke here..”

why? Can someone explain to me, why there are a bunch of men waiting to tell another woman how to get off or whatever?

Are they all posting with one hand while furiously … or is it that they’re longing for the 0.05% chance one of the posters will DM them due to how caring they sound about sex?

just gets me down, it should be a good sub forum but it’s honestly seems to have more blokes than women on there

😂
That thread wS a classic

Although previous posts seems to be saying if you post too "aggressively" you can't possibly be a woman and must be a man

Christ, if that's true then most of the site must be men.

PigletJohn's advice is highly sought after in the property section and he's assisted many to rectify household disasters.
I suspect there are many who aren't Mums on here if that's a requirement too.

No I rarely give advice..menstrual cycle what's that 🙂.I got some great in depth advice about my dogs eating horse poo and grapes recently which I was stressing about.I've also seen a post about a teenage boy with the same issue as mine so look forward to reading that.

Try and track down the thread on here a few years ago where a man posted his dating profile for review. You've never seen a pile on like it.

Might help.

There's nothing you can do about it so I'd try not to let it bother you so much

as PP have said it’s not men per se, it’s a particular type of “man here coming to explain things to the ladies” type of poster that is irritating. The obvious incels/bored students in the holidays are annoying but easy to ignore.

im not a parent either which is why I don’t post on threads that are about being a parent. That still leaves me with a fuck load of threads to post on.

I agree that the men posting in the Sex Topic falling over themselves to give advice, while also sharing in great detail what their DW enjoys or lamenting about what they sadly don’t is a bit ewww.
Also I agree that there’s men on here probably pretending to be women.
I am not that interested in a specifically male perspective, do the men on here think we don’t have husbands fathers, brothers, friends and sons for that? Some behave as if the poor women in here don’t know a male in RL.

The odd one is genuinely looking for advice however I do find they often try really hard to paint themselves as the perfect husband who does all the housework and childcare and question if that's really true. I'll give them the benefit of the doubt though. Those that wade in with 'man here' and go on to explain their wrong point of view with the assurance they must be right as they have a penis give me the rage though.

@Dancingwithhyenas I think your second sentence is my favourite thing that I've ever read on Mumsnet.

Presuming the majority of mumsnet posters are genuine, just people that use the site to chat about anything from parenting to dogs to politics and music, for entertainment, advice etc, then we know exactly what sort of male poster OP means. Many have summed them up well, let’s not tie ourselves up in knots about it. The site would be better without these certain men.

Ha! I thought exactly the same.

I used to hear it all the time by racists, about brown people.

"But what about Abdul at the corner shop who's so kind to you and brings your shopping for you when you're not well?"

"Oh, he's one of the good ones..I don't mean him"