To not really like it when men post on here?

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Just that really. After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here. I love mumsnet. I’ve read interesting threads, hilarious ones, heartbreaking and sometimes infuriating ones and I just feel like saying ‘oh piss off’ every time a bloke sticks their neb in. It’s MUMSnet ffs. I know I am being unreasonable really and am a massive hypocrite as I’m not (yet) a mum myself haha and don’t actually contribute anything of value to this site myself but still….they get on my tits.

What a sexist comment.

So do you mean that men don't care about their kids enough to have questions about their parenting? Or that the men in your life wouldn't be seen dead taking to women?

Clearly you want your men to be REAL men and not sad sacks who talk to women or want to be a good dad.

I've been on here for 14 years. I joined because it's a good resource for parenting advice and I stayed because it's interesting. What category does that put me in?

This thread is mind boggling, your post is beyond mind boggling. I thought the reason why mumsnet was called mumsnet was because parentsnet didn't fit well together.

Some replies take issue with the fact that men come here and pretend to be women, yet other replies complain that men start a post off with "Bloke here", cant win.

YABU

There are many men active on here

The forum has evolved and men are welcome

Why not set up a sex segregated site if you think that would be popular

You knows it’s a site for PARENTS yes, and not women?

DH lurks here, occasionally posts. Quite a few of our conversations start with 'hey did you see that post on mumsnet...'

I'm on the Caroline Girvan Facebook group and I do get irrationally irritated when men post there, especially with their probably-photoshopped topless 'after' photos. I don't want to see that. Just feels like a place where women are starting their fitness journeys - after pregnancy, for example - and male posters ruin that.

This.

oops I’ve messaged with that ! I thought it was more mature than saying Hi Girls 🤷‍♀️ Im definitely a woman 😁

There is also no female in real life, who would speak like this about others especially their DH or male partners. I do wonder what type of woman would come on a site like this. Sad/twisted.

I think that it depends on the thread. There are some threads on here - for example talking about politics that are non gender-specific so I can't see the issue personally. I mean, if we want to be pedantic, you may as well say that only mums should be posting on here. Clearly that isn't the point for a lot of people. I think that people should just try and be sensitive to feelings.

And what does that make you for posting on here?

If you are in Scotland the SNP have appointed a man to be your periods dignity offer to explain periods and products to women.

Being a man apparently helps him break down barriers and raise difficult issues like the menopause (because women need a marketing man to help them talk to each other and discuss periods apparently). The article has a nice picture of the new dignity officer and his bro explaining period products to women whose pink brains apparently can't absorb the information properly.

www.graingerpr.co.uk/newsroom/dundee-man-leads-scotland-in-role-to-end-period-poverty/

Daft comment that IMO. Maybe more men should read some of the threads on here. They might be less ignorant about some of the issues that women have to deal with.

I’m okay with men posting on here. I must admit that I’m a bit bemused by the Sex board though as absolutely loads of men seem to post on it - if they enjoy talking about sex with women, aren’t they put off by threads where two thirds of the posters are men? But they don’t seem to be.

There are a few posters who make my heart sink when they appear but that is true for some female posters too. However those posts can be ignored (which they hate).

Also (sorry), it’s quite possible that many people on here are not who they claim to be. I’m suspicious of anyone who claims they went to “Oxbridge” because the people I know in real life who went to either Oxford or Cambridge say that (they’re massive universities, it can’t be that identifying) or even “College”. I’m also a bit suspicious of people who claim to be extremely rich or high earning - some will be but not all.

yay at last man will make it all better for us girls and women

Honestly what an ego he has

no doubt someone will come along to tell us this is a positive step forward

Where are men supposed to post? Well there is a big internet world with discussion groups for every possible interest. They could put the time and effort into making the dadsnets and mens groups of this world actually work.

For decades I've watched womens groups, mail lists and forums established online, by the effort of women, grown into a success by women, only for the men to rock up and say 'its not fair' and either guilt trip women for entry or to simply misrepresent their way in by pretending to be female.

The question is not "where can the poor dears go" or that they need a "female perspective" (what is that anyway with 10m subscribers?).

The question men should answer is "why do men constantly expect women to create these facilities for them to use" instead of putting the time and effort into building their own?

Much the same reason I suspect that women are assumed always to be the default parent and expected to remember a male partners family obligations.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/dadsnet

I didn't realise this topic was still around, looks like it is used too.

There's only a couple of men who I can think of, from over the years, who have slotted in with the rest of us posters quite normally (piglet John and others) and all fine.

But, and call me cynical, there always seems to be a disproportionate abundance of them in the relationship section or on dating threads. Looking for a date? and/or to mansplain, or tell us 'that happens to men too'

I find that irritating

I think they’re just pervy men and don’t care who they’re talking to. I advanced searched a couple of names claiming to be women on the sex board a while ago as their comments seemed a bit ‘off’ and I was wondering whether to report them.

Unsurprisingly these ‘women’ seemed to not only make ‘off’ comments on the sex board but are also very active on threads on other boards about underage teenagers having sex or other threads of a more personal nature. These particular couple of ‘womens’ comments are always on the slightly pervy side, often asking or detailing unnecessary personal information. 🤢

And they also post on what you would think are threads that are nothing to do with sex, body parts, underwear etc and yet somehow manage to bring those things into the conversation. It’s sickening and I’m in no doubt they’re just pervy men. Mumsnet needs to wise up and listen to people’s concerns when they report. It’s also worrying that seemingly genuine posters give so much information for these pervs to ‘use’. I only searched a couple of names but there’s loads. And of course they can also name change easily.

Hi ladies, man here.

Sorry if you feel that your spaces are being invaded but let me explain how you've got that wrong...

Well no, not really. I started posting here because it's a busy forum and then carried on posting here because there's many interesting and educational posts. I mostly read and post on AIBU and I read but don't post on the feminism board