To not really like it when men post on here?

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Just that really. After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here. I love mumsnet. I’ve read interesting threads, hilarious ones, heartbreaking and sometimes infuriating ones and I just feel like saying ‘oh piss off’ every time a bloke sticks their neb in. It’s MUMSnet ffs. I know I am being unreasonable really and am a massive hypocrite as I’m not (yet) a mum myself haha and don’t actually contribute anything of value to this site myself but still….they get on my tits.

So like a Daily Fail reporter then. Next it will be "pins".

Those that announce I’m just here to give a mans point of view usually on something that they do not experience

or the creepy ones I’m on your side ladies 🤮

fine on some threads and there is no doubt there are those pretending they pop up on threads related to dv, sex and the sex industry (there was one who always popped up in the past with his stories of girls that were thankful for his financial advice 🙄 when he went to strip clubs)

im glad it’s mainly female I get on better with females (and yes I do mean females as born female)

@FloydPepper no it's not exclusively a site for women, or parents for that matter.

...and that's what the founder & owners say, which counts for a lot more than what some random poster thinks!!

I hope this horrible thread doesn't upset or deter our lovely male posters, of which there are many!!!

the obvious twats can leave, male or female

@SurreyHillsinspring You have as much right as anyone else to post here, ignore posters saying otherwise - @MNHQ have always made it clear that men are just as welcome to post here too when these posts have cropped up in the past

Brian from Hull was ok though, wasn't he?

Aside from trolls and some self important types, maybe its just out of intrigue and genuine interest in another perspective. Maybe some men find 'stereotypical' male conversation boring. As for mansplaining, not sure what to say on that subject.......

Although after getting a general gist of the feedback here, I'll get me coat.....

Exactly.

Where are men suppposed to post if they're having problems in their marriage? Would you rather they posted on some macho board where everyone will tell them that their wife is a bitch, they should get rid, and find all ways possible not to apay for their kids? Or on here, where they might get some insight into how they can put their relationship on a more even keel and get a female perspective? Surely we should be applauding the latter approach instead of sneering at them??

There are certain attitudes that aren't welcome. And rightly so. These attitudes are mostly expressed by men.

"What is wrong with visiting prostitutes if it saves my marriage? Wife only had time for our 9-month-old now. It's not fair to expect me to accept a sexless marriage. I love her, but this is not fair."

"Ex won't let me see the kids, so why should I give her any of my money?"

"I don't think it's fair that I work all day and then when I get home, I'm expected to help with the children and the chores. She is on maternity leave, so it's not like she's working all day."

"DW is always complaining that I don't do enough around the house, but she doesn't tell me what she wants me to do. I'm not a mind reader. If she told me, I would do it. I'm a nice guy."

Agree with you and bet there are loads more men trolling on here pretending to be women, especially a lot of the angry responses. Why don't they find their own dadsnet to go on. Mumsnet is really for women.

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I’m all triggered now. 😁

If women were joining male dominated forums solely for that purpose you'd have a point. But what you're describing is not the same thing at all.

Was Brian from Hull the one who was offering up Yoni massage?

My niece was born with a very rare association of congenital anomalies. She was in hospital for the first few months and her parents were there with her. I was googling for info and reassurance and a MN thread came up in the search results. I had never heard of the site before then.

It was a scary and lonely period. As time went on and I became more and more involved in DN's care I came back looking for more general info and discussions about childcare, never having done any before! I learned a lot here. Then I did some training in counselling children through play therapy and, again, was drawn to MN to read posts about children's mental health. The archives of the Talk forum are incredibly rich and, I imagine, quite unique in terms of the broader internet.

Inevitably I got quite drawn to threads in other topics, and even gave my two penn'orth on a range of spats But never for a moment from the point of view of being a man talking down to or goading women. I'm pretty sure none of my friends in RL would ever accuse me of that, and I don't believe I'm any different here. There are posters on MN who talk utter nonsense at times, male and female, and plenty of the female posters let them know it! I also talk rubbish at times and have been challenged here like anyone else. I just try and learn from it.

An interesting read, thank you.

Thank heavens we women have some men dispensing their wisdom in the oh so important “legal and property sections”. Women, know your place: housekeeping and relationships!

That’s the one.

If all male posters took that approach, I doubt we would be having this conversation.

I’m surprised there aren’t more although we probably scare the bejeezus out of them.

YADNBU. It pees me off aswell. There’s deffo men pretending to be women on here, there’s one poster I always see commenting aggressively on a particular v popular topic on here that’s mentioned at least once a week and they wade in every single time. The last 2 pages of the threads are them trolling and making aggressive comments at other posters. I would bet my right hand they’re really a bloke

My kids are older now but I've been on/off Mumsnet for 10 years or so. Mostly because I've always been hands on and ultimately there aren't many hands on dad's (or weren't 20 years ago). Men don't talk too much either so not great when feeling a bit lost and after some advice or different perspectives.

This place is a great resource and a bit of a laugh but apologies for treading on toes and winding people up. Definitely not my intention to troll anyone.

The last 2 pages of the threads are them trolling and making aggressive comments at other posters. I would bet my right hand they’re really a bloke
Because, what, women only ever post in a floofie way, all sugar and spice and nice?! 😕
Yeah right bollocks they do 😁

They are surely just posting, not pretending to be anything. I am curious how , unless they say, how anyone knows which gender any poster is

I am curious how , unless they say, how anyone knows which gender any poster is
Same
Although previous posts seems to be saying if you post too "aggressively" you can't possibly be a woman and must be a man. 😕

Gosh yes! Silly women could never be Lawyers could they {Eyeroll}