To not really like it when men post on here?

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Just that really. After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here. I love mumsnet. I’ve read interesting threads, hilarious ones, heartbreaking and sometimes infuriating ones and I just feel like saying ‘oh piss off’ every time a bloke sticks their neb in. It’s MUMSnet ffs. I know I am being unreasonable really and am a massive hypocrite as I’m not (yet) a mum myself haha and don’t actually contribute anything of value to this site myself but still….they get on my tits.

You expected this response, but you're shocked by the fact that a site with mostly female users centres women?

There are some bad people and bad threads. Report them. If you really are that familiar with the Internet, there's no way this is the worst place you know of. Has anyone ever given you a graphic account of what they will do to your genitals and throat if they ever see you?

That's an interesting idea (although I've no issue with men being here), but they'd need to tighten up security first. There have been too many breaches.

Being female centric and centering women doesn't equate to being hostile to men.

Being female centric and centering women isn't a problem at all. It's what makes MN more interesting because it's relatively unique.

Of course not, but there's a certain type of person who thinks it does. We had a live one the other day who told us street harassment has been rare for the last 15 years and when we told him what utter shite he was chatting, he accused us of hating men.

I've also never seen anything on here that even touched the worst of what I've had from men on the Internet.

I wouldnt report anyone and i didnt say Mumsnet is the worst place i know of.As for my throat and genitals being threatened ...i wouldnt be too surprised 😂

I'm glad you find the idea so funny. Would that I could have found it so entertaining on the occasions that it happened to me, from men. Har har har.

You know how MN is moderated. It relies on reports. If you won't report abusive posts, stop complaining about them.

If in reported every horrible post ive read id be here for months ..Sorry about the abuse you have received.Lets end the conversation there.Have a nice week.🙂

Lets end the conversation there.Have a nice week.

Not at all patronising, can't think why some women feel frustrated by male posters.

I dont like arguing with strangers online and meant it when i told the lady to have a nice week.Stop your shit stirring.Hope you have a great week too.

"The lady"?

The word lady is a term for a girl or woman, with various connotations. Once used to describe only women of a high social class or status, the equivalent of lord, now it may refer to any adult woman, as gentleman can be used for men.

Thank you Paul

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Shout out to Piglet John you’ve got me out of some pickles and saved me dosh

I agree OP. I'm also not yet a mum although I hope to be, but despite the title I do think it's a forum for human (ok I really mean women) in all walks of life, not just parenting, as evidenced by the vast array of topics. I too just find it refreshing that it feels like it is mostly women just because men tend to take over / mansplain / get arsey whatever. I don't mind the odd man on here if they can manage to do non of the above (rare).

Excuse me sir, you do not get to dictate when I stop speaking, least of all when I tell you about men threatening to kill and mutilate me and you respond by laughing, and complaining about the comments you get on Mumsnet.

It takes far less time to click "report" then "submit" than it takes to type our posts to dismiss threats made to women, complain about being told you're bad at housework or whatever and order women to stop speaking when you decide they should. All you're showing is what you prioritise and it's no surprise to anyone.

A fiver says you'll read this post about threats and your appalling response, and decide it's just Man Hating (TM). You wouldn't last ten seconds in our world.

I like the fact it's a woman centred space. I've liked learning about feminism. I've enjoyed reading women's voices, unfiltered.

I know there are men here. Generally it doesn't matter, if they engage on the same terms as everyone else. When their tone is off, you can just dismiss them anyway!
I know there are dickheads of both sexes here.

I'd rather men came, had a horrible shock about their world view, and left a bit less self centred!

Oh, and don't feed attention seekers, whatever their sex. It's like wrestling with a pig, you get filthy and the pig enjoys it.

I'd rather men came, had a horrible shock about their world view, and left a bit less self centred!

Rarely happens. They're much more likely to be like Paul. Or the dudebro over on another thread who's a hero against street harassment, except it doesn't happen these days and even video evidence isn't proof of anything.

I can't imagine being socialised to this level of misplaced self-righteousness. I can't imagine, for example, a black person telling me about the worst racist abuse they've ever suffered, and responding with "hur hur, wouldn't be surprised if I get that on Mumsnet, I'm too lazy to report any of the abuse I get but it's really bad, honest, now let's stop the discussion, hur hur."

And then to actually go away thinking I look intelligent and reasonable and have totally shown them?

It's amazing.

*I find that some of the threads by men go into a very long winded diatribe about how much they do at home, childcare etc. A lot of waffle, just get to the bloody point!"

In fairness, if a bloke posts on here seeking marital advice some of the first questions he is usually asked are of the 'are you taking on your fair share of childcare and household chores" variety!

Agree with the observations about the overuse of floral twee language though, not sure what that is all about!

Oh my goodness, really?? Thank you so much!

Now can you explain "trite, insincere affectation"?

Do you really think you're coming across as some genial, well-mannered and slightly superior gentleman? It's clear from your posts why you're here and what you think of women and violent threats against them. This doesn't come off as twinkly-eyed and benevolent. It comes off with a neon creep warning.

I think it’s good to have both men’s and women’s perspectives. I take mumsnet as a general (grand)parenting website. There are some men on here that it’s nice to hear opinions from. If you are looking for a particular opinion, mention it in the title - eg - looking for opinions from: other mums, women, whatever.

some people have objectionable posts - men and women.

In fairness, if a bloke posts on here seeking marital advice some of the first questions he is usually asked are of the 'are you taking on your fair share of childcare and household chores" variety!

Given how often this is a problem, I think it is fair for people to ask. It wouldn't be fair to assume.