Aibu about school WhatsApp group - feel hurt

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I’ve been added to the school WhatsApp group for the primary my DD is joining in sept. Nice enough chat, some parents I know from nursery etc.

There was some chat on there about registering for something for the kids for September and I didn’t know what it was so asked “sorry, what website do I need to register on what’s it for please?” No one replied and then about an hour later someone wrote: “oh god, it’s not going to be one of those groups where people ask stupid questions and no one can do a thing for themselves is it? If so I’m leaving!” And immediately loads of other parents liked the comment leaving me feeling so awkward.

Someone eventually replied it was to register for a school book bag you need to pay for.

AIBU to ask the question in the group chat?

Ffs * Or even a bitch

or a butch bitch 😂😂

Ughhh hate these groups. Full of rude women attached to their phones talking about petty things regarding DC during work hours rather than focusing on their day jobs (if they even gave one 🙄 far too much time on their hands). Sorry you hace had a bad experience before your kid has even started.

It's a Facebook group and I read it at my convenience. It doesn't mean that wading through the same question multiple times becomes less annoying. There is the odd actual useful post (relating to the GCSE results one poster posted advice about DC who might miss sixth form grades). Unfortunately you can only find the useful post by reading all the non-useful, repetitive ones.

Ahh so nasty! I would have been upset by this. Absolutely uncalled for, and worse that several other parents liked the comment. If I had witnessed this in a group I belonged to I would have responded nicely to your message to let you know that not everybody in there was a horrible twit.

I'd tell them to get a fucking life if they can be bothered to get worked up by someone asking a question. What a saddo.

What a cow!

She was mean.

Im in a Facebook messenger group for my daughter starting year 7 and you get people asking the same dumb ass questions over and over again. The information has already been said but you still get them asking again. All the information is on the school website too so you can just look on that.

I wouldn’t ever actually say anything to be mean though. Just roll my eyes at the same 10000x question again.

"Did you mean to be so rude?" Is the classic mn response. Presumably these alpha members have older children so have been through it before.

What a shitty, shitty response. They’ve really marked themselves out as a nasty cunt.

Don’t get involved in these WhstsApp and Facebook groups. There are normally at least a few arseholes who dominate and ruin these groups leading to embarrassment and discomfort for everyone.

If it makes you feel better I was ticked off by a mum mod for being too chatty in a school WhatsApp group. Apparently it was for school messages only and if I wanted to make friends that was what school events and parties were for.

Luckily a few chatty types formed a breakaway fun group and left them to it 😂

I would have replied for sure with
‘What a friendly and helpful reply 😂’
It leaves her looking like a total bitch
Note her name and all that liked her shitty Queen bee post and avoid like the bloody plague.
Carry on posting if you want to, my best advice is to remain silent.
The WA group will wither and die with a little luck

I've just remembered I was roundly patronised by mums of older DCs on one of these groups re some homework issues.

I asked for and got a meeting with the Head and there were some helpful changes (it wasn't just my DC affected).

Sod them. They're not in charge!

We have had full on arguments about kids vaccines, Ukraine etc on ours, seriously febrile. However we have needed it at times for sports pick ups etc and forgotten mufti days so stay on there but silent

OP. My DC is too young for school, so I can't comment from first hand experience of these groups, but the person who posted that comment sounds like a bully. As far as I can see your question was perfectly reasonable and probably helped some other people who also ddin't know about the form.

Suppose it is personal preference if and how you respond to the group. I would probably thank the person who was helpful. Not sure I would call out the bully personally, but I would definitely take note of the bully's name and anyone who liked the comment, so I knew to keep a look out for them going forward. I might see this as a very good method of showing you who you might not be great!

Do you know any of the parents in the year group?

Of course you would.

This is really making me lol, ours is all about what day PE is on now and deciphering the latest ambiguous newsletter announcement.

Peers at @flopszu

so is ours this evening 😂

I guarantee that most of the mums will be thinking that the horrible comment mum is a bitch. But people who don’t thrive on conflict aren’t going to say anything because it’s so unbelievably awkward.
I completely understand why you would feel shitty about it but it genuinely has nothing to do with you and everything to do with some drama loving cow who peaked in year 10 and has been trying to resurrect her bitchy posse ever since.