Aibu about school WhatsApp group - feel hurt

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I’ve been added to the school WhatsApp group for the primary my DD is joining in sept. Nice enough chat, some parents I know from nursery etc.

There was some chat on there about registering for something for the kids for September and I didn’t know what it was so asked “sorry, what website do I need to register on what’s it for please?” No one replied and then about an hour later someone wrote: “oh god, it’s not going to be one of those groups where people ask stupid questions and no one can do a thing for themselves is it? If so I’m leaving!” And immediately loads of other parents liked the comment leaving me feeling so awkward.

Someone eventually replied it was to register for a school book bag you need to pay for.

AIBU to ask the question in the group chat?

Greensleeves · Today 17:20
I'd reply "Oh god, it's not going to be one of those groups where a rude, egocentric cunt takes cheap swipes at people and poisons it for everybody, is it? If so I'm leaving!"

I wouldn't be able to help myself but reply with the above

I'd probably write in there something like "there are no stupid questions but there are mean answers" and then leave the group-
Twats.

I do?

But am I not allowed to be annoyed by it?

Thank the helpful person. Ignore the others although responding with ‘sorry to see you go’ would be tempting.

They have embarrassed themselves. What a horrible thing to say. Don't worry you've done nothing wrong

She’s a bitch.

My DD's group has never ever been like that. That is so rude

You could combine your thanks to the helpful person with making a point.
‘Thanks so much for the information. Unfortunately, I missed the previous posts, as I’ve only just been added. Thanks again!’

Yes, I would. But I'll admit that my perspective is a bit different from how it was when my children started school. After years of battling to get the most basic accommodations - and a bit of common humanity - for a child with SEN, dealing with bullies, intractably bigoted parents, teachers who openly lie to your face - you toughen up a bit. I don't take shit from anyone now. I would indeed post that, and then leave and never look back. Life is too short!

That was very nasty. Remember the name of that bitch and her bitch posse who liked the comment (that behaviour is as bad as the one who actually wrote it).

My eldest is 16 now. I tend to avoid these WhatsApp groups, but as your dc is new to reception, it will probably be useful. I would completely ignore the comment from the bitch, wouldn’t respond in any way. That way, others will note your name and remember that you took the high road. The bitch probably thinks she got away with it as there were some likes, but most normal people would be thinking that she’s one to avoid - as are those who liked it. She will have damaged herself far more than she’s damaged you.

in our school’s anti bullying policy, it clearly states that liking a nasty comment can definitely be bullying.

even if you had asked something really stupid, her comments would have been uncalled for.

Just reply saying this isn’t an airport so no need to announce your departure

I'd go for this. Makes the point but in a non confrontational way.

Our school's communication is shite and on a lot of different platforms so the WhatsApp group can be useful.
For me, it was always that it was the same parent who always asked things, term dates mostly, which are readily available.
There were so many very easily available answers to the questions she asked, which were often very last minute - when do the kids go back after the summer?

I'd just write back 'how rude' and leave it at that.

Thank the person and leave it. The group will be helpful down the line.
I’m torn on this one because there’s always a parent who asks right after something has been communicated clearly from school - ‘sorry, what do in need to do?’
what you NEED to do is actually read what your sent. Or look up the school website etc 1st before asking

Aww what a huge inconvenience to you.......

How rude!

I'd quote the message and say you'd only just joined so couldn't scroll up....that will make the silly cow feel stupid.

The message was mean - ignore it. Just respond politely to thank the person for the info. Don’t react or leave the group because it will probably be useful - and it can be good to be in these groups to help your child establish their friendship groups. Don’t get drawn into the drama - smile , rise above it and remember you are only doing it to support your child as they transition to school . Good luck - school gate politics can be horrid ! X

This. 🤣🤣🤣

Love this!

I'd see her face to face on her own and strike up some small talk and do the wide-eyed almost apologetic "I saw your message I hope you didnt mean me?" And watch her squirm. It will piss her off being licked up on it but she can save face if shes alone and she might not do it again in a group if she thinks you're going to pick her up on it each time.

That is awful - we have a group chat of over 100 parents (high school year) and we do sometimes get the odd parent asking a obvious question...but I agree with you that these groups are meant to be supportive and no one would dream of being so rude. Sorry you experienced that.

Wow. I’d have just left the group.

I’m not on my youngest WhatsApp group class chat and thank god for that for what my friends tell me. Hideous.

Well she was completely rude. Totally ignore.

No please dodon'the c word is horrible and show you in bad light. Just thank the person and ignore the one who said that.
Be mature and business like you'll sound so common and awful if you start using the C word.